What It's Like To Date Your Best Friend

What It's Like To Date Your Best Friend

"It started out with a kiss, how did it end up like this?"

Dating can be a very complicated thing.

It's a common saying that guys and girls can't be "just friends." I personally like to disagree, but I am in a situation where my best friend for many months turned into something more.

People would often joke about how perfect we would be together and that we already acted like an old married couple. He and I would always look at each other and shake our heads, laughing in disbelief.

To be completely honest, I had had a crush on him for a long time, but just buried it because our friendship was so special to me.

Then, one night, everything changed. Feelings were admitted, and we haven't looked back since.

It's been absolutely wonderful falling in love with my best friend. He and I already knew each other's quirks and interests, so it seemed like we skipped right over the awkward stage.

So, what is it really like?

You have the most fun doing the simplest things,

Whether it's grocery shopping or cleaning the house. It could be the dance party they turn it into or a race to see who can finish their list first, these will be moments you will always cherish.

You have a strong foundation of friendship.

You'll feel comfortable talking about anything with them.

You have this undeniable bond.

Maybe it's something that everyone saw all along, maybe it's just fate bringing you two together. All you know is that you wouldn't want to have it with anyone else.

You're comfortable with them.

Hey, it's not like they've never seen you in your pajamas in desperate need of a shower.

You're confident in your relationship.

You both thought through it all when considering actually declaring yourselves a couple. Would you still be friends if anything happened? What if it just didn't work out? You put a lot on the line but you know that they're worth it in the end.

They know your past.

All of your old significant other's, those embarrassing things you did that you would usually hope never came uncovered at family parties, they've been there. They love you even more for it.

They've seen you at your lowest.

And they're still with you! You know you can trust in them and lean on them when you're feeling down.

Sometimes, taking the plunge may seem scary. If you had told me two years ago that I would be dating my best friend, I would have laughed in disbelief. But, life is funny sometimes; and I think we're doing just fine.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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You've Heard Of 'How To Be Single,' But Let's Talk About 'How To Be Romantic'

For some of us, it takes work to be cutesy and romantic.


Okay, I'm probably the least romantic person anyone has ever met. Not to say that I'm a bad girlfriend or that I'm not caring. I just find love in simple things like knowing what to order for them at restaurants, doing their laundry, planning unique dates, or cooking for them. It's not that I'm opposed to being arduous, I've just never been a chocolate and flowers kind of girl. I'm more of a Mongolian hot pot and "let's walk across the Brooklyn Bridge!" kind of girl. I appreciate some effort, tailoring something to fit a person's idiosyncratic personality or general spontaneity, not how flowery something looks. Not saying that I'm not feminine, I'm just my own entity, so to speak, and that translates into my love life. Needless to say, I thought I should learn how the other half lives, so I've challenged myself to take a course on being a classic/hopeless romantic just to understand how others think and who knows I might change some of my habits!

1. Leave notes

I think it's a really cute and simple idea that I will try to do because it makes everything very personal.

2. Write them a poem

I've had this done for me but I've never actually done it, because believe it or not, I didn't like to read or write poems up until this year.

3. Cuddling

Okay, so I'm not a cuddler, I have no idea why — it's more or less a personal space and attachment issue, I guess. I love hugs though! I guess I just have to be in the mood to cuddle and at times I can be. Other times it just makes me nervous.

4. Dedicate a song to them on the radio

It seems like the people on the radio that do this are crazy in love and honestly, to be able to have the ability to go on the radio and just declare your love for someone else is really inspiring.

5. Surprise them!

I personally cannot stand surprises, but I love to surprise other people and just be spontaneous, so I sort of do this already.

6. Carve your names into a tree

I've thought about doing this, but I've never got around to it, so I promise one day I will.

7. Go see a romantic movie

Nope, nope, I'll barf! Not happening, strictly horror movies for this girl, sorry!

8. Make them a care package

See, this makes me think a lot about what really defines romantic, because I do this all the time, but I don't consider it romantic, I just think it's sweet.

9. Take a walk on the beach together

I've done this, but I have to be doing this while looking for seashells or I feel like I'll be bored.

10. Make a CD for them


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