What It’s Like To Be A Daughter Of A Cop

What It’s Like To Be A Daughter Of A Cop

"He has done everything to protect me, and will continue to do so, but on any given day working in a jail could be his last."

Many people think that being the child of a cop is the best thing, because you can “do no wrong.” However, that is not true. In many cases it can feel like you are always being interrogated, or never telling the truth. At times, my father tells me that what he is saying to me he has said to an inmate before. Your senses become heightened as you begin to examine people; you watch their movements, listen to conversations, and sometimes it causes fear that isn’t real.

As a child, I always wanted to know about my dad’s job and what he did. I never realized that he dealt with irrational people, and the horror stories you read about he deals with on a daily basis. I have to recognize that my father deals with the unwanted people in our society everyday and still manages to be normal. Now that I am older, he tells me stories about the people he has dealt with over the years; some are sad, some are scary, and sometimes they may even be funny. The sad part is, my father has gotten up every day for 25 years, to get locked in a jail with his county’s undesirables every single day. He willingly walks into jail everyday, to make sure that these men and women take responsibility for their crimes against society, and keep everyone there safe.

A few months ago, I told my dad that I might want to be a cop, or a sheriff's officer in the future and he advised me against it. He said that it takes a toll on you, and that it takes away some of your humanity. You see and hear the worst of the worst, it hardens your heart, and numbs you to the good things in life and can make the bad things acceptable.

Along with being one of the main people responsible for security in the jail, my father is the county’s head negotiator. That means that he knows how to talk to people and calm them down and may also have to defuse a bad situation. He has had several situations where this was important; including talking a suicidal woman into going to a hospital for help, and also being on call for the Super Bowl just in case there was a crisis. Everyday there is something new, and a it can be a blessing. As a cop, any day could be your last and you always need to be prepared to help people. It is a lifestyle that you have to accept.

Honestly it hurts me to hear that people hate cops, because they don’t realize that these cops are fathers, brothers, sisters, mothers, etc. These people have families. When people fight the police and challenge authority, they are going against the people who are there to protect you and at some point may ultimately save your life. They are there to protect the lives of the people, yet people still rally against them.

Many people in my life think that being the daughter of a cop is the perfect thing, but it really is not. I may have a gold card, that could help me out of a speeding ticket, but it doesn't beat the fact that I worry about my father and everyone around him everyday. He has done everything to protect me, and will continue to do so, but on any given day working in a jail could be his last. He doesn't think about that, but I do. So I am grateful when the phone rings and it’s my dad asking me about my day. It's then I know he has made it through another day. With everything going on in today’s world, I worry about my father every single day; you never know what could happen.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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7 Life Lessons My Parents Taught Me

Your parents have been there from the start, and have no doubt shaped you into the person you are today


I'm so grateful for everything that my parents have done for me. Even more so, I'm incredibly grateful for all of the life lessons over the years. At this point, they've taught me way too many life lessons to list here. However, I thought I'd take the time to write down seven of the most important ones!

1. Be Respectful. 

If there is one thing my dad has instilled in me from a young age, it's to always be respectful. I have always been impressed with my dad's ability to stay cool and calm in situations where that's the last thing anyone would expect from him, and he has taught me the importance of maintaining a respectful and mature attitude, even when life gives you the sourest lemons.

2. Be bold. 

My mom is the coolest woman I know, and she has always taken on life the only way she knows how: with unbelievable boldness and fierceness. Being bold means not being afraid to be different or to stand out, and my mom has taught me how badass it is to be the true version of yourself.

3. Be forgiving. 

Arguments and fights are unavoidable parts of life, and ever since I was little, my dad has consistently reminded me of how important it is to pick your battles. Knowing when it's time to pick up the pieces and move on is essential in order to be a forgiving person, not only to yourself but to others as well.

4. Be generous.

Growing up, I was fortunate enough to be spoiled by my parents. Not only was I lucky enough to go on vacations and get beautiful gifts around my birthday and holidays, but I was especially lucky enough to be spoiled by my parent's love and kindness. Being generous, not only financially, but with your ability to love and respect other people is something I am so thankful my parents have taught me.

5. Work hard. 

Both my mom and dad are incredibly hard-working people. Growing up, there were times where my dad worked 12-hour days, and my mom juggled work, household chores, and taking care of me. Even though their hard work resulted in some sacrifices, they always did what was best for my sister and I. My parents have naturally pushed me to be a hardworking person in all aspects of my life, and I think it's a very admirable quality.

6. Be kind.

My dad is the type of person who will always stop in an intersection to give money to a homeless person, and my mom is the type of woman to never think twice about sacrificing her own needs to help others. Both my parents have shown me, along with the rest of the world, what it means to be kind and selfless, and I can only hope I will one day be as good at it as they are.

7. Stand up for yourself. 

Before I came to college, I often found myself doing what everyone else wanted me to do. I jumped into things quickly, hoping it would please others and make them like me. However, once I got to college, I quickly called my mom on the phone, crying because I regretted some decisions I had made. My mom told me how important it is to stand up for yourself, learn to say no, and only do the things you really want to do. Learning to live your life for you, and not let other people rule your universe is key to being happy, and I'm fortunate that my mom helped me realize this.

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