For some, every day is a battle. A battle against insecurities, low self-esteem, and low confidence. It can be hard to love yourself and treat yourself right, let alone to make sure other people treat you right.

Out of this stems the term "bad bitch", which has been embraced by a (mostly) female population and stripped of the negative connotations it might carry at face-value. It is all about empowerment, confidence, and sticking up for yourself. It is a term used to amplify a person's ability to know what they deserve, and to accept nothing less than that.

But when is it taken too far?

As with anything that takes the world by storm to inspire positive change, there will always be plenty of fish in the sea who twist it into something that embodies negativity and contempt and promotes destructing the wellbeing of others.

Unfortunately, a term that evolved from confidence has been turned, by some, into something that calls for power. Not the kind of power that allows a person to take charge of themselves and their lives, but the kind of power that calls for tearing down anyone and anything that gets in your way, rather than aiding their journey while you work on your own personal journey as well.

This is not what we should be embodying and advocating for, and this is not the intention.

If you are actively and knowingly doing damage to people around you under the guise of being a "bad bitch", I'm sorry I have to be the one to tell you that you aren't. You're just plain rude, and you can't use any other adjective to try to disguise or excuse that.

You are not a bad bitch for intentionally hurting another girl who didn't do that to you. You are not a bad bitch for trying to make other people feel inferior. You are not a bad bitch because you threw away something good solely because you have the power to do that.

Making stupid, harmful, reckless decisions and disregarding the people around you does not make you a bad bitch. It makes you stupid, harmful, and reckless.

Doing damage to the people and things that add to your life indirectly does damage to you. You are hurting yourself and hindering your own progress by doing that to other people. You are stunting your emotional, mental, intellectual growth and trying to cover it up. Feeding into narcissistic temptations closes you off from so many wonderful people and experiences. Why would you do that to yourself?

Let's get back to the core of why this term began. We should be raising ourselves, and those around us, up. We should be hyping each other and encouraging each other to do what is best for us. Hurting someone when the circumstances don't require it (an example of circumstances that do require it being a break-up or ending a toxic friendship) is never going to be what is best for you.

Let's get back to the part where we all learned to be confident without trying to make someone else's confidence dissipate.

Put on the heels. Wear the shorts, the skirt, the dress, the crop top, the whatever. Tell your cheating significant other that you're done. Stand up for yourself in the face of a person who uses poisoned words. Get your nails done, cut your hair, do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable in your own skin. That's what this was supposed to be about.

Let's keep it that way, shall we?