What I'm Not Ashamed To Admit

What I'm Not Ashamed To Admit

Love is love.

If you don't like what I'm about to say, I just want you to know one thing: I really don't care. Exit out, block me, curse my name if that'll make you feel better. Just don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you.

First off, I just want to say that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. However, I am not ashamed to admit that I fully support same-sex couples. And the most shocking part? I'm a Christian!

The funny thing is that half the people reading this article will think that I am a hypocrite. How dare I be a Christian and support such a shameful idea. The other half will use this as a tactic to demote religion. However, I don't think God will disown me as his child if I show the LGBT community my love and support.

Again: I do not care. Because only one person can judge me. The best part? That person is not you.

The way I see it, I will not let adulterers, thieves, liars, etc. rant on how homosexuals will be condemned to hell. One sin is not worse than another in the eyes of God. A major thing I heard several times growing up in a church was that "You could even murder someone," but, as long as you admit that Jesus is the son of God who was sent here to save you because of your sins, you will go to heaven.

How can someone that lives such an unholy life, go to heaven, but someone who believes in God, that believes these things, go to hell, because of who he/she is attracted to?

When I was 16 years old, I heard a preacher confess that when he attended college, he himself had had homosexual thoughts. In front of God and everyone he shared this. The ironic part is that God is the only one that we should worry about, yet I'm sure his heart was racing as he spoke these words to hundreds of Christians. In that moment, I had never respected anyone more. He also told us that he had invited a lesbian couple to attend next Sunday and that we should all welcome them.

So, I will not sit here and listen to a 16-year-old girl say how she cannot let this boy go because "the heart wants what it wants," and "You cannot help who you love." Almost everyone accepts these statements. Except when it comes to homosexuals. Then, the game changes completely.

Maybe I am so biased on this topic because my best friend is gay. The first person he told was me. I remember the tears as he questioned why God would make him this way. But, then I remembered: God loves everyone.

However, I can't imagine what he went through. You see, when you go to a high school of only 400 people, of course, people will make a scene when two boys start slow dancing together at prom. Honestly, though, I feel bad for those that had to call their parents and exclaim "Did you know they are gay?!" I truly, sincerely feel sorrow for those people. Instead of enjoying their prom night like my best friend, they took time out of their last high school dance to inform others of business that did not concern them.

A few weeks later, my best friend and I went on a double date. That's right: Three boys and one girl. The four of us carpooled to a huge college campus and went ice skating. I made them hold hands while I took pictures and captured cute candids. A few minutes later, something hit me: No one was looking at us. Nobody cared that two boys were skating hand in hand. Nobody judged them for caring about each other romantically.

That day restored my faith in humanity.

So, if you're one of many people who is judging me, my friend, or anyone who has homosexual thoughts, that's OK. I will pray for you. But, if you're one of the people that have a heart or are worried about what happened to this friend of mine, don't fret. He officially came out during his valedictorian speech. Right now, he is at John Hopkins University studying to become a doctor. The best part? The love of his life followed him halfway across the country. I guess they made their own special kind of fairytale. From Illinois to Maryland, you know what they say: the heart wants what it wants.

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The Media's Manipulation Of Love And Sex Is Running Our Lives

It's our experiences and relationships that will determine who we become.

Some of our very first memories are of the media. One of my earliest memories is watching television as a toddler and getting so excited for "Teletubbies" or "Barney" to come on. This is true probably more so nowadays than when I was a child, but the media heavily influences our perception of the world from the moment we are born.

Ever since I was young, I've been a fan of horror movies. You can name a horror movie and chances are I've seen it or heard of it. For whatever reason, in American culture and in my household, my parents never had a problem with me watching Michael Myers or Jason Voorhees terrorizing teenagers, mostly when said teenagers were having sex.

That would be the moment when my parents wanted me to turn off the television and go do something else. Something more innocent. Something a child should be doing.

Why though? Why was it acceptable for me to watch Drew Barrymore literally get gutted in the beginning of "Scream" in elementary school, but the minute sex is involved in any capacity, that's crossing the line. I'm not saying a seven-year-old should be witnessing a gruesome murder either, but I can't help but question the hypocrisy.

Instead of my parents talking to me about sex or allowing for safe, open discussions about it, it was simply ignored in my house growing up. Everything I knew was from movies and the media.

While I was growing up in high school and my first few years of college, I refused to accept the fact that I was gay. This is partly my fault as well, for not willing to live my life earlier. Since I was so frustrated with who I was and didn't want to come to terms with it, I wasted several years where I could have been learning about an important aspect of life. Until my 21st birthday, I was essentially living in my own head.

The truth is that we have the power to control how much the media influences our thoughts and ideas. For some reason, however, we choose to let it win. Just take a look at the 2016 election. From watching the news to reading inaccurate articles on Facebook, peoples' thoughts were influenced from all directions.

Once I turned 21, I started to allow myself to feel what I was feeling. It took patience. It took a lot of willpower and strength to go on dates with guys or be intimate with guys because I grew up in a town where that was wrong and different.

Because everything was new to me, my experiences varied on many scales. I practically started out as a helpless virgin. There were instances where guys were teaching me how to kiss because I apparently wasn't kissing properly.

I spent a year or so meeting a lot of different guys. Some were one night stands. Some were flings. Some of them were very important to me and who I needed to meet at that time in my life.

Because I was still learning and growing, I made mistakes. We all do. I was selfish. I was stupid. I hurt people. I hurt myself. I was degrading myself. I was seeking all this validation from other people when all I truly needed was to have validation within myself.

It took me a few years to really understand this journey I decided to take myself on, but I'm so fortunate that I did. I could have continued to try and live a life that wasn't for me and I would have been miserable for the rest of my life.

Upon meeting all these guys and having some deep connections with them that I never knew I could have, I learned a lot about the idea of love and sex and its place in our society. The media loves to play off of our emotions on love and sex because it's where some of our most vulnerable feelings come into play. It's easy to take advantage of that.

I've learned that there are going to be some people in your life that stay. Some of them will fade away. Some of them won't matter. Some of them will stick in the back of your head forever, even if you don't want them to. Some of them will still bring a smile to your face years later when you think about your memories with them.

In order to better understand sex, love, and relationships, just like anything else in the world, you have to go out and experience it. We're living in a transitional time not only in the United States, but in the history of civilization. We're finally beginning to question what we're being fed and that's scary for a system that's been succeeding for so long in feeding us lies and telling us what we want to hear.

Keep questioning. Keep an open mind. Most importantly, keep living. When we're old, it's not the money that's really going to matter. It's our experiences and relationships that will determine who we become.

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30 Things Every Gay Person Hears By The Time They're 30

Let's admit it, we've all heard these before.

Isn't it annoying hearing all those questions straight people don't realize they themselves would be offended to hear? Or how people who accept us see us more as a prop? I know I am. But as we get older, we hear the same things over and over again and by the time we hit 30 we are asked:

1. "Just don't hit on me."

Because we all can't control our desperate need to be with a straight person obviously.

2. "Trust me, you'll love doing it with a girl/guy."

Then you'll love doing it with someone of the same sex, too. No? Didn't think you would appreciate hearing that.

3. "OMG you can be my GBF!"

Yes, because my goal in life was to be a white girl's walking and talking accessory.

4. "Does it hurt to do it in the butt?"

Only when I sit in an uncomfortable chair, other than that sitting in chairs feels pretty good. Is that not what you meant?

5. "Why does every gay person try to turn me gay?"

Not sure who you're talking about, but I can guarantee you that we don't want you swinging on our team.

6. "Respect my religion."

Respect my sexuality first.

7. "I normally don't like gay people, but you're an alright person."

I usually hate homophobes, but you're not one of the worst ones I've met.

8. "Wow, I thought every gay girl/guy was feminine/butch."

Which movie did you base that stereotype off of?

9. "When did you come out?"

This is actually an okay question to ask, feel free to ask other appropriate questions.

10. "Stop being such a faggot."

You know you love it.

11. "I'm not racist, I'm gay."

Stop using your minority status to defend your racism.

12. "Can I do your makeup?"

I'm gay, not your barbie doll. Move along.

13. "Have you ever done a threesome?"

Sorry, I'm not interested in having one with you. Please stop asking me.

14. "Would you ever do it with a girl/guy?"

Would you?

15. "You're going to go to hell."

Guess I'll see you down there, Shannon.

16. "Gay people have so much more sex than straight people."

No, just more than you probably.

17. "You're gay, right? Can you give me some fashion pointers?"

Your attitude looks terrible on your stereotype. I think you should change out both.

18. "You're religious? Doesn't everyone you go to church with hate you though?"

Only the homophobic ones.

19. "Why do you guys get a parade and straight people don't?"

Last time I checked you were never killed or abandoned by your family for being straight.

20. "My gay friend thinks you're cute..."

Half the time they aren't cute themselves.

21. "You don't look gay!"

Darn, I knew I left my rainbow flag at home!

22. "So are you gay by choice or..."

No, I got a letter in the mail. It was either that or pay a fee.

23. "I'm not homophobic, I have a gay friend!"

They must either be dumb or deaf to stay with you then.

24. "I have the perfect guy/girl for you!"

That's nice and all but I'm pretty sure you're just pairing us up because we're both gay.

25. "How come all the cute guys are gay?"

Because your standards are too high.

26. "Gays can't be republican."

We can, just most of us don't like the people who think we're abominations.

27. "Have you ever seen a vagina?"

No, but I see a dick right in front of me.

28. "Top or bottom?"

This is what every gay man hears within the first ten lines of a conversation with another gay man on Grindr.

29. "Being gay only means you like it up the butt."

No, being gay means that you have a community with you that supports you when the world doesn't and you will be criticized for your sexuality.

30. "Okay."

The people who really don't care always say this and we appreciate that they leave it at that.

If you are gay, you know these 30 things to be true!

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