What I'm Not Ashamed To Admit

What I'm Not Ashamed To Admit

Love is love.

If you don't like what I'm about to say, I just want you to know one thing: I really don't care. Exit out, block me, curse my name if that'll make you feel better. Just don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you.

First off, I just want to say that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. However, I am not ashamed to admit that I fully support same-sex couples. And the most shocking part? I'm a Christian!

The funny thing is that half the people reading this article will think that I am a hypocrite. How dare I be a Christian and support such a shameful idea. The other half will use this as a tactic to demote religion. However, I don't think God will disown me as his child if I show the LGBT community my love and support.

Again: I do not care. Because only one person can judge me. The best part? That person is not you.

The way I see it, I will not let adulterers, thieves, liars, etc. rant on how homosexuals will be condemned to hell. One sin is not worse than another in the eyes of God. A major thing I heard several times growing up in a church was that "You could even murder someone," but, as long as you admit that Jesus is the son of God who was sent here to save you because of your sins, you will go to heaven.

How can someone that lives such an unholy life, go to heaven, but someone who believes in God, that believes these things, go to hell, because of who he/she is attracted to?

When I was 16 years old, I heard a preacher confess that when he attended college, he himself had had homosexual thoughts. In front of God and everyone he shared this. The ironic part is that God is the only one that we should worry about, yet I'm sure his heart was racing as he spoke these words to hundreds of Christians. In that moment, I had never respected anyone more. He also told us that he had invited a lesbian couple to attend next Sunday and that we should all welcome them.

So, I will not sit here and listen to a 16-year-old girl say how she cannot let this boy go because "the heart wants what it wants," and "You cannot help who you love." Almost everyone accepts these statements. Except when it comes to homosexuals. Then, the game changes completely.

Maybe I am so biased on this topic because my best friend is gay. The first person he told was me. I remember the tears as he questioned why God would make him this way. But, then I remembered: God loves everyone.

However, I can't imagine what he went through. You see, when you go to a high school of only 400 people, of course, people will make a scene when two boys start slow dancing together at prom. Honestly, though, I feel bad for those that had to call their parents and exclaim "Did you know they are gay?!" I truly, sincerely feel sorrow for those people. Instead of enjoying their prom night like my best friend, they took time out of their last high school dance to inform others of business that did not concern them.

A few weeks later, my best friend and I went on a double date. That's right: Three boys and one girl. The four of us carpooled to a huge college campus and went ice skating. I made them hold hands while I took pictures and captured cute candids. A few minutes later, something hit me: No one was looking at us. Nobody cared that two boys were skating hand in hand. Nobody judged them for caring about each other romantically.

That day restored my faith in humanity.

So, if you're one of many people who is judging me, my friend, or anyone who has homosexual thoughts, that's OK. I will pray for you. But, if you're one of the people that have a heart or are worried about what happened to this friend of mine, don't fret. He officially came out during his valedictorian speech. Right now, he is at John Hopkins University studying to become a doctor. The best part? The love of his life followed him halfway across the country. I guess they made their own special kind of fairytale. From Illinois to Maryland, you know what they say: the heart wants what it wants.

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Sliding Into The DMs Landed Me A Best Friend And Not A Boyfriend

"I don't know how you missed that because your gaydar is usually pretty on point!"


Women are always encouraged to be confident and make the first move when it comes to flirting with the opposite sex. We are encouraged to not wait around for the man of interest to approach us. However, the one time I decided to slide into the DMs and be bold enough to make the first move was the time things took an unexpected turn.

This resulted in my decision to NEVER make the first move again.

Like most colleges these days, my class has a private Facebook page where students are able to ask questions, make friends, and ultimately connect with other kids in their student body. One day, I saw a very attractive man post something about transferring to my school at the beginning of second semester. He wanted to see if people could show him around, be resources for questions he may have or possibly become friends with him.

Naturally, I wanted to help. I clicked on his profile to check him out to make sure there weren't any red flags or warning signs that he could be bad news. Once I saw that there weren't, I decided to slide right on in to his DMs. For those who don't know, sliding into the DMs is defined on Urban Dictionary as. "When you start a direct message chain on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter, with the hopes of acquiring the booty."

Conversation started with Brandan, the handsome transfer student, by me complimenting his photography skills and offering my time to show him around campus if he wanted a small tour. We talked about our fields of study, the same vacation we took to Costa Rica, fun facts about our hometowns, and the planning of a coffee and campus tour date. From there, conversation flowed, compliments were exchanged, and things turned out to be what I thought was a flirtatious exchange of words. However, I couldn't have been more wrong.

I was texting Brandan on and off for the next week or so and the anticipation to meet each other after winter break kept growing as the days went on. One of the days after Brandan and I's correspondence started, another one of my close friends, Jake, texted me in a very excited fashion.

He said, "OMG YOU KNOW BRANDAN?!?!?!?!"

This took me by surprise. I didn't know why Jake would be talking to Brandan of all people, so I decided to do some digging. I confirmed that I did know him and then continued to ask how he knew him. I then found out that Brandan was in an LGBTQ+ group chat that consisted of people who went to our school, including Jake (who is gay). As soon as I found that bit of information out, I was totally taken aback. The compliments Brandan was giving me on my appearance were genuine compliments. The plans we were making were not dates whatsoever. Brandan was not hitting on me. Brandan was gay.

After this epiphany of mine, I immediately called Jake and told him everything that had gone down between Brandan and I. Jake listened with open ears, analyzed what I was saying, and then continued to tell me, "I honestly don't know how you didn't see this because your gaydar is usually pretty on point."

When Brandan and I actually met upon returning to school, I told him this exact story and thankfully he thought it was funny. From that moment on, Brandan and I's friendship has blossomed into something great. I helped him get acquainted with his new campus and city, get a few new experiences under his wing, and create memories that will last a lifetime. In the midst of all this, we have come to the conclusion that we are actually long lost twins because we have so much in common, look alike to the point where we have been asked if we're brother and sister in public, and have the same train of thought.

When people ask how we met, we always look at each other and start to chuckle because our story is one that is very unique. My friends also poke fun at me for "being in love" with Brandan and I always respond that I am. I'm in love with this kid because he is such a great friend to me, has a beautiful soul, and is such a positive light in my life. So even though I had intentions of snagging a boyfriend when I originally slid into his DMs and didn't have my expectations met, I am perfectly content with the soul sibling I got out of it all.

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