What if? Two words, two syllables so innocent to the eye, but incredibly dangerous to the mind.It’s incredible how to words so simple can be so disruptive when put together, isn’t it? All the possibilities that can come to mind by just the two words ‘what if”. But, why is that?Why does our mind instantly go crazy by something so simple?

The simplicity of life of non-existent.You’re not given a “Life 101” manual when you’re born and we certainly here the phrase “life’s a bitch” thrown around more times than we hear someone actually talking about their life. There is no one way to do things, which is why we are given choices, decisions we need to make and that is where the what if’s come to play.

Whenever we make decisions, we always have to consider any and all possibilities.What will happen if I do this?What will happen if I do that?It’s a basic thing we all do in order to choose the option we find to be the best. Yet, why is it that after we have taken into account every possibility we can imagine and we make our decisions, the what if’s start taking over our minds?What if I made the wrong decision?What if the other choice was better and I just didn’t see it at the time? It’s bizarre how our minds start playing trick on us, filling us up with anxiety until we are left second-guessing everything we’ve ever done and thinking of things that shouldn’t even be in our minds.

Doing things for yourself should never be a burden. Sometimes whilst taking care of ourselves we hurt people that we love, but, as long as you’re not doing it intentionally, you have to remember that you love them, sure, but you need to love yourself, too. Those what if’s will come to mind and will sometimes haunt you, but, in the end, what’s done is done and you’re going to have to live with it one way or the other.

Whatever decision you made, whatever doubt you have in your mind, remember that it was what you believed was the best for you at the moment.Whether it proved to be true or not, it doesn’t matter. You cannot beat yourself up for things you did for yourself. Whether it was going to college far away from home, relieving yourself of a toxic person in your life, whatever risk you took, remember you did it for YOURSELF.