What Having A Roommate Has Taught Me

What Having A Roommate Has Taught Me

Having a roommate is not always a pleasant thing, but in my case, it was.

I've never had a roommate before, so moving to college and having four, rocked my world. Now, technically, I have one roommate and two suite mates, but when it comes to cleaning and buying supplies for our joint bathroom, we're all in this together. In saying so, there have been more than a few things I have discovered since enjoying their company.

You get super close.

My roommate's name is Mallory, and she went to high school with me. We played sports together when we were younger, and I kept the book for the Varsity basketball team she played on. We have always known each other but were pretty much only acquaintances. Being the only two girls to go to Troy University from our school, we immediately stuck together and wanted to room. Just because we agreed to room, didn't mean we became best friends in the ending months of senior year, but it did mean that we went everywhere together the first few months of freshman year (don't get me wrong, we still drag the other one wherever we need or want to go). Now, Mallory and I know everything about each other and have spent many nights venting to one another.

I've kept a better cleaning schedule.

I wasn't, by any means, nasty or unkept before having a roommate, but leaving a Pop-Tart wrapper on your desk for a couple of days, or dirty laundry on the floor, are smaller things that I've taken care of sooner rather than later because of Mallory's presence.

We stay on top of one another.

When scheduling classes, typically one of us makes sure that each of us starts our day at the same time so that one is always pressuring the other to get a move on when we are being lazy. We also make sure that each of us is doing well in class and get an ample amount of study time, because, if one of us fails, it leaves the other without a roommate.

What's mine is your's.

I know not all roommates are like how Mallory and I are, especially with this. If one of us buys food or drinks, its for both of us. If I have a cute top, we have a cute top. If she has hairspray, we have hairspray. Just because this silent rule is in place, doesn't mean our decency vanishes, because we tend to always ask even though we know the answer is yes.

So, despite our differences, Mallory and I have learned a lot and have come a long way in our friendship. We may not always get along, but we also know that each of us are there for each other, and that's what it's all about. Mallory, if you're reading this, just know I am blessed to be your roomie and I love you!

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Thank you for always being the best.

1. Being there through it all, even if you're not "physically" there

We can't always be together, but you have never completely "left" me behind and have been there with me through thick and thin and I am so grateful.

2. Being my biggest cheerleader

Thank you for not only being there through the bad, but also celebrating my victories with me. I can always look forward to telling you good news because I know you'll be happy right along with me.

3. Answering my "important" phone calls

Whether it's a "he texted me back!!!" phone call, or an "I found a gray hair, please help!!" phone call, you pick up the phone and hype up with me no matter what.

4. Being selfless, and going above & beyond to make sure I know I'm worthy

This explains itself and I am so grateful for that.

5. Brushing my hair when I don't feel like it

Okay, this probably sounds silly... But it's the greatest struggle to brush my hair and I'm glad you do it for me sometimes!

6. For being there through all of my mini-crises

You already know what I'm talking about here...

7. For talking me out of things

If it wasn't for you talking me out of things, I'd probably have quit my job, be dating a horrible guy, got my eyebrow pierced, etc.

8. Making me a part of your family

I'm too lucky to have you all as my second family.

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Help, I Have A Lot Of Feelings

Finding Purpose in All Those Feelings


I, 100%, believe you can manifest your own reality. It's disturbing how "feelings" quickly go from scenarios that we create in our heads to a toxic reality.

When I was really sick, I could think of countless reasons to hate myself. It felt like those reasons were piling up and barricading me into my own personal prison of self-disgust. But as I have continued my journey to be stronger than my eating disorder, I am learning that if can convince myself, with the power of my mind, that these feelings are all valid, I can also convince myself that I am actually sufficient, capable, competent, enough, strong and qualified. This power lies in recognizing the difference between feeling and knowing.

Knowledge is constant while feelings vary based on circumstance. I know my best friend loves me even when she doesn't text me back. I may, for a moment, feel like she doesn't care about what I have to say because of the circumstance. But that doesn't change what I know to be true. My best friend loves me.

Being "feelings driven" is a dangerous way to live. It led me to become an empty and shallow version of myself. I was unhealthy and dissatisfied. But I found new life after deciding not to let the way I feel dictate what I knew is true.

If feelings change so often, how can they hold such power over us? Surely they must play some sort of significant role in our lives. Of course they do. Feelings provide us with the opportunity to act. They show us that something might need to change. Typically, we want it to change as soon as possible. If you're feeling bored, you text or call your friends. If you're feeling hungry, you go get food. Feelings give us the opportunity to react. These reactions can affect you positively or negatively. The important thing to remember is that, when you are prompted with a feeling, you always get decide the reaction.

When I was sick, I was very familiar with feeling "gross", "fat", "uncomfortable", and other untrue ways to describe my physical appearance. The reaction that came with that feeling wreaked havoc on me mentally and physically. I could not get through a day of meals without feeling extreme guilt. This guilt was overbearing and it would not go away until I responded with my trigger reaction. Even with these rash and dangerous choices I was making, one thing remained constant. I never felt the way I wanted to. I did not feel beautiful. I did not feel strong. I woke up every single day without any change.

When you are prompted with a feeling that deserves a reaction, make it a beneficial one. I still have many moments when I feel bad about the way I look. Only now, my language about it has changed. I don't take that feeling as an opportunity to hurt myself. Instead, I write about it, call a friend, pray and ask God to help me see myself as He sees me or even just distract myself from the thoughts with some TV.

I cannot count on feelings to fuel my thoughts and take over my mind. Because even though they can bring about the right kind of actions, they have the power to bring you a world of trouble. Acknowledge your feelings. They're there for a reason. Welcome the good feelings, don't be afraid of the negative ones. Just be ready with what you know to combat them. Remind yourself with the truth about who you are constantly, making it your first language. Feelings are temporary and based on circumstance.

Think of the feeling you get when you are so tired after a long and busy day. What comforts you? Knowing the fact that when you get home, you will be able to sleep. You know you will be okay. This same practice of comforting yourself with the truth can and should be done with any negative feeling. Knowing that you will not feel that way forever can protect you from dangerous reaction, whatever it may be. Let it remind you that the temporary state of discomfort, pain, or dissatisfaction, will eventually go away and you will be feeling another way once again.

Feelings are fleeting and changing. They are here one second and gone the next. So to put something so valuable, like your worth or your future, in something so fickle, just sounds foolish. Use feelings for what they are for: to inspire change. What I know is that I AM STRONG even on the days I feel weak, I AM BRAVE even on the days I feel afraid, I AM CAPABLE even on the days I feel unfit for my calling. Any feelings that are not driving me to truth don't stand a chance against what I know.

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