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What Happened After That Toxic Relationship/Friendship Ended

I've had some not so good experiences with relationships, friendships, and groups. This was my experience when they were out of my life.

Emily Kathryn Daily
Mar 22, 2020
Missouri State University
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What Happened After That Toxic Relationship/Friendship Ended
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I've had some not so good experiences with relationships, friendships, and groups. Here are some of the emotions I experienced after they were over:

I still grieved. Relief didn't come immediately.

After several of these relationships and friendships ended, I cried for what felt like forever. Some of these connections were a part of my life for years. It was like a part of me was ripped out.

2. I still questioned what I could have done to fix it.

I'll be honest. I wasn't the perfect friend/partner/member by any means. Regardless, it didn't change that it was now a part of my past I needed to put behind me. I continued asking "What could I have done?" It's good to take responsibility where needed, but you shouldn't torment yourself. It reminded me that I can't force people to be a part of my life if they already decided not to be.

3. I checked up on their social media.

The thought of that person no longer being a part of my life didn't seem real to me. Sometimes it was out of pure curiosity. Overall, I denied it.

4. I devoted more time to myself and people who cared. 

After a breakup in 2018, I dressed up and bought myself flowers from a flower truck. It was the most wonderful feeling imaginable. I spent more time with other friends and family who were worried about me before. After some falling outs with friends, I spent more time with others who were concerned. I learned who the ones meant to be in my life were.

5. I realized what I deserved - happiness and people who value me. 

After, I learned that I deserve places and people where I feel safe and included. I was reminded that all friendships and relationships are two-way streets. I was reminded that no one can make me feel less unless I let them. I deserve to be happy.

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