We In Greek Life Will Never Be Your Stereotype

We In Greek Life Will Never Be Your Stereotype

We are the exact opposite of the stereotypes.

Before I even start this article, I want you to take all of those bad frat/sorority stereotypes and throw them out the window. This is the nitty gritty truth about Greek life, and I’m sure your opinion will take a complete 360 after reading this.

As much as I hate to say it, back to school time is upon us. Especially for college kids, because some move in as early as the first week of August! If you are an incoming Freshman, transfer student or a returning student, you have a lot thrown at you once you move in. Activity fairs, sporting events, mixers in your dorm, new classes and being lost in a sea full of people, all can be overwhelming.

Some people find it hard to stand out, make friends, fit in, to make a difference and are not sure where to start. Well, that’s when this little thing called Greek life comes into play.

Recruitment (this also has been referred to as rush) begins at the beginning of each semester. I joined in the spring rather than the fall (which is when people typically join, but it doesn’t really matter when you do anyway). As soon as Bid Day came around, my pledge class and I were welcomed warmly into the sorority. Pictures, donuts, hugs and new friends! Right away I felt included and a little overwhelmed too! But that is because it was all very new to me. Then we are given a “Big sister” who is like your “rock” and basically, your new best friend, along with the rest of your sisters.

I pledged my sorority on a whim and really didn’t have much of a clue what it may entail, I came in with an open mind, and knew that it was not what it was perceived to be in the movies. Most people think that frats and sororities are all about parties and are full of themselves. Or that they are full of “douchebags or sluts,” they “pay for their friends” and they're all about drama. Well, it is actually the complete opposite of that.

Frats and sororities have images to maintain not only on campus, but as an international organization as well. Instead of doing all of the stereotypes I listed, Greek life does the exact opposite of those. To stay in a frat or sorority, you have to have a certain GPA to maintain (and at least for my sorority, we have to log study hours together each week too). You also have to do a certain amount of volunteer hours per semester, and do the philanthropy work through your organization, campus, city and the greater good.

Although Greek life is strict on grades and behavior, we also do almost everything together. We have mixers with other frats and sororities on campus and have sisterhood events where we do something fun together. We go out to eat, hang out between classes or workout together. You all grow closer to one another, and it turns into your home away from home.

Since I have joined Greek life, I have never been happier. I have met so many inspiring, hilarious, and hard-working men and women. We are all dreamers and in search of finding the best version of ourselves which I believe is one of the biggest steps on the way to success.

Don’t be afraid to try something new. I never thought I would be some college sorority girl. I had all of those stereotypes in my head too about what it would be like. In all honesty, from what I have perceived that all the Greeks are in this together and are improving themselves as a person, giving back to the community and trying to survive college all at the same time.

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As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!

After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

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14. Some activities on my bucket list are...

This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...

What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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5 Ways To Stay Sane During Sorority Recruitment

Sorority recruitment has a bad rep ... here are some ways to help you deal with the craziness of rush without losing your sanity!


When I entered Clemson University at the end of the summer, I signed up for Panhellenic Recruitment along with over 1,000 other girls. Sorority recruitment was just as crazy as people make it out to be, but, overall, it was a good experience. For anyone considering going through sorority recruitment in college, here are 5 tips to help you deal with the craziness of rush.

1. Take notes in between parties.

You're going to be visiting so many chapters and talking to so many girls that it will be difficult to differentiate between them in your mind. When you select your top choices for the next round, you'll want to remember how well you liked each chapter so that you can rank them accordingly. Take a notebook or, like me, type your notes into your phone after each party. First, write down your overall opinion of the chapter (ex. "Loved it!"). Try to write down names or descriptions of the girls you talked to. Obviously, you won't remember everyone's name (if you do, more power to you), but try your best to remember how you felt in each chapter. By taking notes, you'll be all set to select your top chapters and revisit some the next round.

2. Do NOT badmouth chapters to other PNMs.

I'm sure you know to avoid badmouthing one chapter to members of another chapter, but you should also avoid badmouthing a sorority to a fellow PNM. While you may like to talk things out and hear the opinions of the girls around you, talking badly about certain chapters can make other PNMs uncomfortable, especially if they liked the chapter you're badmouthing. From experience, I know that it can make you question yourself if your friend is downing a chapter that you loved. Ultimately, everyone's experiences in a chapter are different so nobody should base their choices on someone else's opinion.

3. Be yourself and let your personality show.

Don't feel like you have to be someone you're not or dress how you think the sorority wants you to dress. Rushing is not about finding a new identity and a new place to "fit in"- it's about finding girls that are like-minded and love you for your own personal style and personality. It's too exhausting to pretend to be someone you're not, and it's too expensive to dress any way other than how you like. Be yourself, and be confident in the person that you are!

4. Don't be offended if you're not invited back to every chapter you like.

This was what I struggled with the most during recruitment. In my case, I liked a lot of the chapters I visited, and very few of the ones I liked invited me back. If that happens to you, it's totally okay. There are many different factors that go into inviting PNMs to the next rounds. Don't overthink it, and don't be offended because it's not personal. Instead, be excited to learn more about the chapters who did invite you back. You may end up loving one that you didn't think you liked that much.

5. Be confident in not joining a sorority, if that's what you decide.

Greek life is not for everyone. Even if you think it's for you, it may not be! I went through recruitment and didn't join a sorority, but I have no regrets. I realized that you can have friends in sororities and still have fun in college without joining a chapter. There are plenty of other places to get involved on campus and plenty of clubs to join. If you don't end up in a sorority, you'll find other fun things to get involved in, and you will make friends. Plenty of people are successful in college without being in a sorority, and you can be too!

If you decide to go through sorority recruitment, have fun, be yourself, and trust the process. No matter what happens, you'll end up where you're supposed to be.

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