9 Things 1,589 Miles Taught Me About Love

9 Things 1,589 Miles Taught Me About Love

"How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard." -A.A. Milne

My boyfriend and I met last Summer while he was at an internship in Philly. When he had to return home to Puerto Rico a couple of months later, we decided that we cared about each other too much to just let things end there. Starting a long distance relationship didn't feel like a decision; it felt like the choice was already made.

1. Closeness is not measured in miles, but in intimacy.

It's better to be far apart physically and close emotionally than the other way around.Too many people stay in relationships for their convenience, knowing that someone will always be around whenever they need them. When you're in a long distance relationship, staying in it for the convenience isn't an option. Long distance is inconvenient. You have to put in the time and effort to make it work, but when you're with the right person it's worth every mile.

2. Time is precious.

In long distance relationships, time spent together is rare. Even if it's just a weekend trip, those few days are looked forward to eagerly for months prior and mean the world when they finally arrive. The last 20 minutes spent together before one of you has to catch a flight are some of the most cherished moments, especially when you don't know when the next time you'll see one another will be.

3. Patience.

In long distance relationships, you spend the majority of your time waiting. Being patient isn't easy, but getting to talk to the person you love every day is amazing even if you don't get to see them in person as much as you'd like.

4. Technology is the best (and the worst).

We are lucky to live in a time where we can reach someone across the world within seconds. For those of us in long distance relationships, we don't have to wait days to receive letters in the mail like past generations have. Technology has made long distance relationships much easier, but they still aren't easy by any means. Of course, there will be times when the WiFi fails and your Skype date doesn't go as planned, but when you're with the right person, minor inconveniences can't bring you down.

5. If someone really wants to be with you, they will make it happen despite whatever obstacles may stand in the way.

You deserve to have someone who will fight for you, someone who will always make time for you, and someone who will not make excuses as to why they can't be with you.

6. Communication is key.

Long distance relationships survive on words alone, so communication is everything. Being able to stay close with someone without seeing them frequently requires excellent communication skills and a genuine bond.

7. A date is a date, no matter the distance.

Whether it's taking a nap together via Skype, having FaceTime dates, playing games with one another, or watching a movie at the same time, there are so many different ways you can spend time with one another. Just because you're physically apart that doesn't mean you can't still be close

8. You don't have to fight any battles alone.

Even though it's frustrating not being able to see the person you love after a bad day, it's comforting knowing that they're always a call away and that they'd drop everything for you in a second if you needed them. The best feeling in the world is feeling loved, and you don't have to see someone in person frequently to feel that. If you have a supportive partner, distance can separate you physically, but it can't separate you emotionally.

9. Saying goodbye never gets easier.

But one day we won't have to anymore.

Cover Image Credit: Billy McKeown

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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I'm Moving Away From My Boyfriend But That Doesn't Mean We're Breaking Up

Long distance or down the street, we're staying together.


Back in September, I applied and got accepted into the Disney College Program. This means I'll be away from my home state for four months, maybe six and a half if I apply and get accepted to extend my program. Being gone, I'm not only leaving my friends and family, but I'm leaving my boyfriend too.

A ton of people have asked me if we're going to break up and to set the record straight, the answer is NO.

Why would we even think about breaking up? It's only four months, and that's nothing. I blinked and we were already dating for four months. It's going to go by super quick.

On top of that, he supports me going and was beyond happy for me that I was accepted on the first try—not to brag or anything)! He wants me to go, not because he wants time apart, but because he knows that it's an amazing opportunity for me. He reminds me every time the Disney College Program comes up.

We both know that we're still going to talk to each other every day, or almost every day depending on my schedule. But we're both adults and can send a quick message to each other so that we know we aren't ignoring or forgetting about one another.

I think that a lot of long distance relationships don't work because of all this fake stuff people watch in movies and on TV—like no one is going to miss the most important business meeting of their life to have brunch with you...

One thing that I've noticed about people moving away and being in a relationship, is that they don't communicate. They don't communicate their worries and fears BEFORE they move, they don't do it during the move and if they are coming back soon they don't do it AFTER unless it's in a fight.

The thing about my boyfriend and I is that we've talked about what's going to happen when I have a crazy crazy schedule and it doesn't line up with his already busy schedule. We've talked about what's gonna happened when I leave and when I come back. We've talked about thing plenty of times and I think that we've for the most figured it out.

The other thing that I noticed with people going into long distance relationships is that they expect way too much and too many unrealistic things, and I think a lot of this comes from what is shown to us through social media.

I don't expect my boyfriend to jump on a plane every other weekend to come see me, and he doesn't expect that I do the same. We don't expect to have regular conversations like we do now, we both know that we might get a short window of opportunity to talk to each other depending on our schedules. We both know that it's going to be hours and hours before one of us replies to a text message. I don't expect him to send me a million and one packages. I don't expect him to drop everything to have a 10-minute phone call with me, and vice versa.

There are too many expectations and not enough communication, and I think that this is a huge problem when entering a long distance relationship. It's probably the reason so many people have asked me if we're breaking up or not. Yeah, it's going to be tough being away from each other, but we wouldn't be doing it if it wasn't worth it.

Oh and for the record for everyone who's asked me about us breaking up, even if something were to happen, guess what? We've already talked about it.

This is an opportunity not only for me but for him too and us together. So, yes, we're staying together but it's not like that was anyone's business anyway.

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