I remember a time when you were either single or taken, but in modern dating, now that we live in the generation of hook-up culture, we have started this trend of just "talking."

You hear it day in and day out, "Oh no, they're not dating they're just talking," or you'll hear everyone talking about who's talking to who, and, honestly, if this trend continues it will be the end of romance.

We tend to get caught in this trap, luckily I got myself out.

So, ladies and gentleman here's a list everything wrong with the "talking" trend:

1. Does anyone know what a date is anymore?

In our society, the phrase "Do you want to go out sometime?" seems to have been replaced with "We should hang out sometime." It seems like no one knows what a proper date is anymore. Nobody ever wants to go out. It's all about chilling now.

"We should chill."

While chilling can be fun from time to time, I want to, you know, do something. Let's go see a movie, go out to dinner, ride around town, go for a walk, go to a museum, play some freaking goofy golf! Like, there's a plethora of things I'd rather do than cramp up in your twin size and watch some B movie on Netflix.

I feel like nobody wants to go out anymore because that would put too much pressure on the "talking." Like, God forbid we actually be seen in public together.

2. Dating (Hook-Up) Apps

The downfall of society, these apps were created to help people meet each other for dating purposes, but of course, as with most things, society corrupted it turning those apps into the things that revolutionized hooking-up. People don't even have to go out anymore to find sex, they can just pull out their phone and look for the easiest catch. Sadly, this includes the person you're talking to.

When you're talking to someone, I just don't think it's acceptable to be advertising yourself all over Grindr…I mean, or Tinder, Jack'd, whatever the kids are using nowadays. That's that stuff I don't like. You always have those awkward encounters where you're introducing the person you're talking to to someone, and as soon as they walk away your friend tells you all about how they saw him/her on Tinder. But don't worry, they'll always say the swiped left for you.

You'll surely ask the person about said app, and they'll say they thought it was OK, because you're just talking. They may delete it, but let's not forgot they will usually still have the person(s)'s number, Facebook info, Instagram, shoot…people are finding hook-ups through Snapchat nowadays.

3. Meeting other people he/she is "talking" to

Sometime's you'll get a hard reminder that the two of you are just talking when you meet someone else who he/she is talking to.

The meeting is inevitable. Either the other person will search you out, or you'll have a class together, or possibly end up sitting together at lunch, because they're a friend of a friend. But, when you least expect it, your paths will cross. Things will start off nice and dandy, then you'll both start talking about how you're talking to someone, then itWILL happen. One of you will slip up and say the name of who you're talking to, and it's all downhill from there.

Like a brick, it will hit you dead in the chest. Again, you'll likely confront your person about this and he/she will say, "Well, we're just talking, so I wanted to keep the door open." They somehow view y'all "just talking" as them still being single, meaning that they can still talk to/hook-up with whoever else they want. As if they've forgotten that you have any feelings at all.

4. Not wanting to sleep with them right off the bat

Living in the generation of "hook-up culture," sometimes the simple idea of not wanting to have sex, on the first (not even a real) date, can be frowned upon. You'll be called a prude, and most likely shamed for not wanting to "put out," because that has become the norm.

Just because we're talking doesn't mean I want to have sex with you, it also doesn't mean that I don't, but it certainly doesn't mean that I will.

I'm here to tell you that you're not defying some social code by not sleeping with the person you're talking to right off the bat, and sadly, in today's world, you get judged for that, but I will sleep much better at night, with my legs closed, than I would when I find out my #ManCrushMonday, is someone else's #ThrowbackThursday, and someone else's #FlashbackFriday.

5. Having to tell everyone, "We're just talking."

Throughout all of the other problems you'll face, you'll always have to tell people, "We're just talking." Your friends will ask how it's going, people will ask how long y'all have been dating, your parents will ask why you haven't introduced them, and you'll always have to give them the same answer: "We're just talking."

Nothing is more uncomfortable, and awkward than having to admit to other people that you're just talking, because that's about the same time you'll have to admit it to yourself. No matter how many times you've cuddled, or kissed, or held hands, you'll always be reminded that you're just talking. The days turn to weeks, the weeks turn to months, and ultimately all you can really say to anyone is, "We're just talking."

And so…

I say to you brothers and sisters, don't fall into this trap like myself and countless others have. Don't settle for "just talking." Romance isn't dead. Don't sell yourself short.

And to those of you perpetuating this: Grow up.

With that said, sorry ladies, I will now be accepting boyfriend applications.