In today's society, we have made ourselves so comfortable with this "hookup culture." A boy texting you within a certain number of hours has become more important than how often he's actually tried to see you. Getting a DM on twitter saying "hey" gives us butterflies more than if we were to get flowers left on our doorstep. Someone liking your post on Instagram has become a new sort of modern day love letter.
It's so normal to tell people "I don't know what we are". Simply because you know if you ask someone you care about that question, it could potentially run them off. Humans are designed to be with someone. We are not creatures designed to be by ourselves in life. It is normal to want to be cared for, nurtured, chased after, loved.
When did we, as a generation, collectively decide to just stop pursuing each other and letting a like on a picture or a heart in text message be enough? Or even worse, just avoiding any remotely commitment-based situations because of the fear of rejection or not wanting to miss out on what else could be out there. When did it become so unappealing to just invest yourself in someone? Why is it not cool to show that you care about someone?
Our generation has become so comfortable with not caring. You're seen as weak if you tell someone exactly what your intentions are with them. It is actually seen as being too emotional if you simply want to know what someone intends to do with your time and your feelings. Why is caring about yourself and your emotional health now all of a sudden so unpopular?
But what's almost worse? Stringing someone along with all of these I don't know's. Saying I don't know simply because you don't want to get attached and get hurt or get rejected. But you can't let that person go so you use roundabout forms of I don't know. "I just don't want a title right now". "I don't want anything serious but I really like you." All of these cop out lines used just to keep us from being alone, but just enough to not feel alone. Don't you dare get the idea that y'all are exclusive. "I just don't want you with anyone else."
We, as humans, are designed to love and care and cherish each other, not to swipe right on whoever we like and start texting and considering that "good enough." When is caring and loving someone exclusively going to become the norm again? When is it finally going to be okay to ask "what are we" without being labeled as clingy again? When are we, as humans, as a generation, going to begin to love each other and care for each other again instead of trying to look emotionless for the likes and retweets and comments?