Choosing pain over instant gratification

The Key Ingredient To Transformation Is Embracing Pain As A Friend

Don't ignore it.


When the journey begins, there's a lot of ambition. There's a goal in sight. There's a plan in your head. But what happens when you're not getting there? What happens when plan 1 doesn't work. And then plan 2. The drawing board starts seems more like a waste of time.

My recovery from bulimia taught me that if you want something, you have to fight like heck and sometimes bang down the doors to claim what's yours.

It was so hard. But it was the most intense, pain-filled moments that still remind me constantly that I can still carry on. Like exercising, you can't see results without putting in the work.

My most candid moment of growth was one night. I was home alone, crying on the bathroom floor. I didn't want to keep down my dinner. If you haven't struggled with an eating disorder, this probably seems a little silly to you. I get it. But in the moment, it was so real to me. And for me, it became one of the biggest wins for me in my recovery. I wanted to give in to my sickness, but I wanted to recover more.

Bottom line, it's the hardest moments that make us the strongest.

Try narrating your life from a future tense. Claim that the hard times will make all the difference one day. Picture it. You're however far in the future, explaining to someone how this moment you're living in (this awful, terrible moment) was pivotal in your journey. It shaped you. I know it sounds kind of silly having a pretend conversation with a made up person, but I promise you it can help you hope a little.

I'm not saying it's easy to welcome painful moments with open arms. But I do believe that if you want change, pain is inevitable. I consider it a key ingredient to any transformation.

We live in an era of instant gratification. We can watch a movie and wonder who the lead actress is in it. We don't have to wait for the credits anymore. We can just google it immediately. There's order ahead now on apps and Uber eats. If you want it, you can have it. Now.

Don't get me wrong, I love it. I'm all for efficiency. I think it's awesome. But what it leads me to a question: what in your life are you trying to order ahead instead of going on the necessary journey to attain?

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.


My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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