As the year comes to a close, we enter a beautiful season for couples everywhere: Wedding season. With wedding season comes a flurry of invites, planning, gifts, registries, the works. Every time you get an invitation you get to tell the lucky couple if you have a special someone to join you. For some unlucky souls, the answer is no.
That's right. Wedding season without a plus one means you not only get to tell everyone you are very much single, you get to see couples starting their lives together, by yourself. Every time you go to a wedding, you are reminded of your singleness. You get home and your family asks you "When are you getting married?" Every time, you ask yourself the same question.
You get to the point where people don't even ask if you need a plus one. They just know.
You feel blessed and honored to be invited to these weddings, especially as you get invited to more and more. As you get older, *cough cough* senior year *cough cough*, almost everyone you know is either married, engaged, or in a very commited relationship that will likely move to engagement soon. This means more invites, more weddings, more reminders of your singleness.
Don't get me wrong. Weddings are beautiful occasions that anyone should feel honored to attend. If you receive that coveted invitation, it means that you are important enough to the bride and/or groom that they want you there. If you get that invitation, you should try to go. It's a huge step and they want you there to witness it.
I love weddings. Not gonna lie, I've cried at almost every one I've been to. It's a beautiful occasion and I'm always just so happy for the lucky couple that I can't help but at least tear up. Going by myself though...I can't help but be reminded of my singleness.
Singleness isn't a bad thing. You can spend more time working on yourself, finding out who you are, who you want to be. If you're in a relationship, you also need to keep in mind the needs of your significant other. This can be a good thing too. Everyone is in a different stage of life, different places in their relationships.
Going through wedding season without a plus one can get a little old real fast, but it's also a beautiful thing. You get to celebrate with those couples as they take a significant step in their relationships. Spend the time. Go out to those weddings. Cry without shame. Have some fun. Who cares if you're single? You just haven't gotten to that step in life yet.