To The Girl Who Wears Makeup Because Of Insecurity

To The Girl Who Wears Makeup Because Of Insecurity

It's not my intention to tell you what to do with your face, but will you listen to my story?



I read your article this morning and I applaud your transparency and authenticity. In a world of girls who, as you pointed out, insist that they wear makeup for themselves and not for anyone else, your candid and open article was refreshing.

I think you have hit upon something most of us can relate to - I sure can. I used to wear layers of makeup out of insecurity too, and without judging you or shaming you, I did want to share my story with you.

Maybe you've also been wearing as much makeup as you can get away with from as young an age as possible - at least, that was what I did. I started wearing mascara when I was nine. NINE.

It started out as just a fun thing to play with, but by the time I was in high school I wouldn't have dreamed of leaving the house without full makeup, and I do mean full - primer, foundation, concealer, powder, blush, lipstick, drawn-in eyebrows, three or four colors of eyeshadow, liquid eyeliner, mascara, setting spray--literally the whole nine yards. Yes, even on Wednesdays where I only had a lecture.

The weird thing is, my mom doesn't wear very much makeup and my sisters usually wear none at all; and no one ever told me I was ugly or looked sick without makeup - this just goes to show how my insecurity was not influenced by anyone except my own heart. Makeup helped me like my face. It helped me feel good about myself. I never felt pretty without it.

Last spring, I went through one of the hardest seasons of my life, during which Jesus took hold of my heart and changed just about every area of my life to be more honoring to Him. He placed girls in my life who are just naturally gorgeous and don't need or usually wear makeup except for special occasions.

It was because of the influence of these precious friends and because of the tug of Jesus on my heart that it was the right thing to do that I was able to stop wearing makeup every day except Sundays. Less than a week in, I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and realized the natural look was working for me; and before too long after that, I actually felt pretty without makeup.

Now, I leave the house every single day feeling put together with only a cute dress, a spritz of Chanel, and a smile. I give God all the credit because a year ago I would absolutely never have dreamed I could feel confident without makeup.

I could never go back to wearing it daily, and I count this as a work that Christ has done in me.

Emily, you described how your eyebrows are sparse, you have freckles, dark circles, and your eyes are too close together--I relate to you so much in that and I again admire your transparency. I am not one of those naturally perfect girls.

I have bad dark circles too, my eyebrows are almost invisible at the ends, I am missing a chunk out of the front of one due to a poor threading experience, I have acne scars, I have big pores, I don't like my nose or forehead and for years I relied on lots of eye makeup to draw attention away from them. I would be lying if I said I didn't still feel and too often give in to the temptation to criticize myself.

But Emily, Jesus Christ gives us the freedom to show our imperfect faces in public every day anyway.

In Genesis 1:27 we read, "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them." (ESV)

To be made in His image means to be made to look like Him. For someone to criticize our faces is not so much a slight to us as it is to God, which will carry its own set of consequences.

Psalm 139:13 says, "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb." (ESV)

God intentionally spent time making YOU. People who would criticize God for giving you freckles or placing your eyes where they are are people who don't know their place.

My mom is a semi-professional artist. She's been making stunning pastel paintings for longer than I've been alive, and she's VERY talented, having won many awards at art shows and having sold many paintings to art collectors. Let's say, for the sake of analogy, that she made a painting and it was sentient and could understand things. Now suppose she is at an art show and someone remarks within her and the painting's hearing that the painting is ugly.

Who should be insulted by such a remark?

While I am sure that the poor painting would be very hurt, did it have any say in or control over how my mom made it look? Who is the one who had control over the painting's appearance? I am not saying the painting is wrong to feel hurt or angry, but my mom would be the one more insulted here, as she makes all her paintings, especially the ones entered in art shows, her very best work. She would absolutely not enter a painting unless she liked it and thought it was pretty.

Emily, you are a work of art, specifically designed by God to look exactly the way He wanted you to look. While makeup is not wrong or bad and you are free to wear it all you want, it hurts my heart to hear that you do it from a place of not realizing your beauty in the eyes of the Creator.

I don't know you and I'm not sure whether you know the Lord, but your value was so great in His eyes that He sent His Son to die on the cross for your sins. You are precious in His sight, and in Him, you lack no good thing.

I can't tell you how to live your life or what to do with your body and I won't try, but it is important to me that I tell you from the bottom of my heart that you do not need makeup.

If you want to wear it, that's one thing - I still do on Sundays because it's fun - but you do not NEED it.

Society has no right to tell you that you do.



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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Being Ugly

What it means to me


Due to a series of ongoing events throughout my semester, I've reconsidered what it means for someone to truly be ugly. Though it is often used in terms of appearance, I do not see it as such-- now more than ever. Ugliness runs deeper than appearance-- it runs within one's soul and festers into other areas of one's life, particularly in their treatment of others.

I view ugliness as someone's conscious capacity and implementation of malice. Taking time and energy out of your day to hurt someone else, that's what I view as ugly. Some offenses are more minor than others, however, it is still a conscious effort to hurt or affect someone else negatively-- and that's the source of the problem. I truly wonder what causes that sort of behavior in someone, as I, along with most people, simply do not invest time or energy into hating or plotting against others. It seems like a full-time job.

I can theorize all sorts of reasons as to why someone would act this way: hate, jealousy, vengeance, etc. Yet, all of these reasons don't hit the root reason. It almost seems that some people are just innately ugly in their soul. This alludes to the timeless debate of whether one's personality is due to nature or nurture. Again, although our surroundings and environment do have a large effect in our behavior, that alibi only goes so far when multiple people are placed in the same environment, in the same situation, and only some are willing to cross moral boundaries in order to hurt the others. Just because an environment applies pressure to people, does not mean everyone is going to act out in malice, and it certainly does not give everyone an excuse to do so. Some people are simply conniving and, well, ugly inside.

If you have ever encountered people like this, I know from personal experience that it is such a drag. You have an enemy, essentially, whether you chose to or not, however based on their hatred towards you, they are now considered an enemy, a hater, and any other associated term. Know that they will do anything in their power to bring you down, even if it requires bending the truth and creating elaborate schemes, but you have to keep on doing you. Let them obsess over ways to bring you down. At the end of the day, their time and energy is being invested into bringing you down, while yours is being used to build yourself up. They will fall by default. So, keep your head high, act in grace, and make your money. They can sip on their Haterade and watch from below.

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