I Don't Wear Bras And I'm Not Sorry

I Don't Wear Bras And I'm Not Sorry

It's been a year since I've gone braless. Here's my story.

Most girls are told to begin wearing a bra in middle school, or even as early as elementary school, for the rest of their lives. I followed the social rule beginning in middle school up until last summer. Throughout those eight years, the thought of going out without a bra was gasp-worthy taboo to me.

But when I got to college, my roommate commented how she'd never met someone who hated wearing bras as much as I do, as she noticed the first thing I did when I returned to the dorm room was take off my bra.

Some may say I just wasn't wearing the right size or type of bra. But I tried everything from Maidenform to Aerie to Victoria's Secret, all with help from employees at the stores. I simply didn't like wearing a bra: it was uncomfortable.

I've always been self-conscious of my body, especially my breasts. I'll be the first to say they're small. I peaked at a 38 B cup. I used to hate how small my breasts are, but I've come to embrace them over my college career.

They turned out to be a blessing in disguise, because I can comfortably go bra-less without the back pain and other physical pains big-breasted girls may run into if they go bra-less for the day.

So if I am far more comfortable braless — because, let's face it, bras are uncomfortable a lot of the time — why should I feel pressured to wear one?

But I can see your nipples!

And my response to this is: so? Women's nipples are a necessary part of human life and reproduction (we're still not sure why men have nipples) because before mankind developed baby formula, breastfeeding was the only way mothers could feed their newborns.

And still society sexualizes breastfeeding, as women who do so in public can be harassed or even arrested. As long as a woman is showing off her breasts to serve men's sexual desires, it's acceptable.

But this is not why I don't wear a bra. I don't view my breasts as inherently sexual. No one bats an eye when a man is shirtless, especially in the summer. But I would be arrested for doing the same in public.

Nipples alone are definitely not inherently sexual. While one may argue that breasts are sexual body parts because larger breasts signal to potential mates that the woman is past puberty, and therefore able to carry children, and have room to carry a lot of breast milk for their offspring.

The reasons breasts are sexual, then, are simply biological. The same goes for a woman's hips and butt; the size indicates her body's healthy progression past puberty and her ability to get pregnant and carry a baby.

While humans are biologically geared towards reproduction, that's no excuse for any woman to be shamed for not wearing a bra. Wearing a bra often covers the nipples and distorts the natural shape of the breasts by supporting them or pushing them up. Without a bra, I openly and publicly risk anyone seeing my nipples through my shirt, as well as the natural shape of my breasts, unsupported by a ridiculously expensive bra.

And I'm not sorry.

I've realized the extent to which women's bodies are controlled by quite literally, man-made, social constructions, bras being just one of them. Other social constructions that control women's bodies include the social pressure to shave our bodies: armpits, upper and lower legs, and our private parts.

So I refuse to wear painfully uncomfortable, ridiculously overpriced, pieces of social construction meant to control women's bodies, when I am perfectly happy with the way my body is naturally.

Also, if you're not convinced: it's really hot in the summer. Going bra-less makes it so much cooler.

Cover Image Credit: Wikimedia Commons

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Sorry Not Sorry, My Parents Paid For My Coachella Trip

No haters are going to bring me down.

This piece is intended to be a satire of an experience at Coachella.

With Coachella officially over, lives can go back to normal and we can all relive Beyonce’s performance online for years to come. Or, if you were like me and actually there, you can replay the experience in your mind for the rest of your life, holding dear to the memories of an epic weekend and a cultural experience like no other on the planet.

And I want to be clear about the Beyonce show: it really was that good.

But with any big event beloved by many, there will always be the haters on the other side. The #nochella’s, the haters of all things ‘Chella fashion. And let me just say this, the flower headbands aren’t cultural appropriation, they’re simply items of clothing used to express the stylistic tendency of a fashion-forward event.

Because yes, the music, and sure, the art, but so much of what Coachella is, really, is about the fashion and what you and your friends are wearing. It's supposed to be fun, not political! Anyway, back to the main point of this.

One of the biggest things people love to hate on about Coachella is the fact that many of the attendees have their tickets bought for them by their parents.

Sorry? It’s not my fault that my parents have enough money to buy their daughter and her friends the gift of going to one of the most amazing melting pots of all things weird and beautiful. It’s not my fault about your life, and it’s none of your business about mine.

All my life, I’ve dealt with people commenting on me, mostly liking, but there are always a few that seem upset about the way I live my life.

One time, I was riding my dolphin out in Turks and Cacaos, (“riding” is the act of holding onto their fin as they swim and you sort of glide next to them. It’s a beautiful, transformative experience between human and animal and I really think, when I looked in my dolphin’s eye, that we made a connection that will last forever) and someone I knew threw shade my way for getting to do it.

Don’t make me be the bad guy.

I felt shame for years after my 16th birthday, where my parents got me an Escalade. People at school made fun of me (especially after I drove into a ditch...oops!) and said I didn’t deserve the things I got in life.

I can think of a lot of people who probably don't deserve the things in life that they get, but you don't hear me hating on them (that's why we vote, people). Well, I’m sick of being made to feel guilty about the luxuries I’m given, because they’ve made me who I am, and I love me.

I’m a good person.

I’m not going to let the Coachella haters bring me down anymore. Did my parents buy my ticket and VIP housing? Yes. Am I sorry about that? Absolutely not.

Sorry, not sorry!

Cover Image Credit: Kaitlin Harasta

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Every Harry Styles Suit From His European World Tour

Definitely channeling his inner Shania Twain.

Harry Styles is not afraid to wear any suit... ruffles? Sequins? Jumpsuit? Kilt? Yes, a Kilt.

He has worn them all, and he's only on his 22nd show. Harry Styles live on tour kicked off the third of March in Basel, Switzerland and ends on July thirteenth in Los Angeles, California.

Styles has shown that he isn't afraid to put on his custom (emphasis on custom because literally everything he has worn is made for him and only him) suit and look like a rockstar. Taking inspiration from Elton John, David Bowie, and Prince.

Fashion stylist, Harry Lambert, and Fashion Editor at 10MEN has taken on the challenge of dressing Styles every night in a different suit. Lambert has also taken to giving sneak peeks of each suit before Styles performs on stage. To find those sneak peeks follow him on Twitter or Instagram .

From Gucci, Saint Laurent, Givenchy and current fashion student Harry Reed. Styles has proven he isn't afraid to wear anyones designs. If it's good...it's good.

We can't wait to see what he continues to wear through the next leg of the tour. More articles on suits will definitely be coming in the future. We have a lot of suits to get through so sit back and enjoy the show that is Harry Styles suits.

But if you need constant updates, I highly recommend following Harry Wore What on Twitter. For the latest updates and inside scoops on his latest looks.

These are listed in the order he wore them, but a personal favorite is the Charles Jeffery LOVERBOY 'Appleyard Jumpsuit' he wore in Dublin, Ireland.

1. Basel, Switzerland - custom Gucci

The best look he could have given us on the kickoff of his world tour.

2. Paris, France - custom Saint Laurent

One of his most worn designers and now they have added him to the "custom" Saint Laurent family.

3. Amsterdam, Netherlands - custom Harry Reed

Harry Reed still being a college student and having Harry Styles wear his designs on a world tour is a dream come true for anyone.

4. Antwerp, Belgium - custom Alexander McQueen

A burgundy suit with embroidered sleeves is what we all wanted.

5. Stockholm, Sweden - custom Calvin Klein

Red and white wool on a stage for 2 hours with bright lights beating down on you and not a drop of sweat? A pure rockstar.

6. Copenhagen, Denmark - custom Gucci

A lurex jacquard suit with an oversized peak lapel jacket and a silk self-tie blouse. Try saying that 3 times fast.

7. Oslo, Norway - custom Alexander McQueen

True band goals, I relate to Mitch the most drinking the wine.

8. Oberhausen, Germany - custom Givenchy

"I'm so reckless when I rock my Givenchy SUIT (styling')." Channeling his inner Beyoncé in Oberhausen, Germany.

9. Hamburg, Germany - custom Gucci

How many custom Gucci suits will he pull out this year? Stay tuned.

10. Munich, Germany - custom Calvin Klein

I'm getting very strong Daphne from Scobby Doo vibes in this custom Calvin Klein. But then he turns around it's a total Velma outfit.

11. Barcelona, Spain - custom Palomo

He looks like he's wearing a grandmothers coat but in such a beautiful way. What are his secrets for making this look so good?

12. Madrid, Spain - Palomo

One of his best looks so far, also, the tank top under it is custom Calvin Klein with his saying "Treat People With Kindness" embroidered on the left side near his ribcage.

13. Milan, Italy - custom Gucci

Dazzling in a suit that looks like a Christmas bow.

14. Bologna, Italy - custom Gucci

On world tours, we wear custom pink Gucci suits.

15. Mannheim, Germany - custom Charles Jeffery

Wearing a custom Charles Jeffery LOVERBOY suit. This suit was perfectly named for Harry.

16. Birmingham, UK - custom Calvin Klein

His suit game is strong but not pictured is his Spring 2018 Calvin Klein boots. So... shoe game strong too.

17. Manchester, UK - custom Alexander McQueen

The perfect homecoming suit, performing in an arena he grew up going to.

18. London, UK (NIGHT 1) - custom Gucci

You knew he was going to go big for his first night in London. Pink velvet, embroidery, and sparkled custom suit designed by Alessandro Michele .

19. London, UK (NIGHT 2) - custom Alexander McQueen

"LET'S GO GIRLS!" Definitely channeling his inner Shania Twain.

20. Glasgow, UK - Scotland Kilt Company

He promised he would wear a kilt next time he was in Scotland and he delivered. Wearing a 'Black Isle Tartan Prince Charlie Jacket Dress Kilt Outfit.' He's wearing a kilt and is still killing the fashion game. How?

21. Dublin, Ireland - Charles Jeffery

Back by popular demand. Previously wore this on the Late Late Show with James Corden for a performance. His best look so far and that is a fact.

Yes, this took a lot of research and time. I'm not even mad about it.

Cover Image Credit: YouTube

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