Ah, ghosting. One of the worst things to come from this technology-obsessed generation.

For those of you who don't know what ghosting is, it's the act of talking to someone, hanging out with someone, or having any form of ties with someone, and then just cutting them off unexpectedly. The ghoster does not provide the ghostee with any explanations as to why they do it, they just do it. They don't even give a warning (hence the term, "ghosting").

Ghosting has become even more common lately, with social media and dating apps constantly improving. Not only that, but it's become easier. It's easier these days to block someone and just completely disappear on someone. Although this is not bad for some situations (i.e. stalkers), it is the absolute worst when you think you're in good standing with someone.

One of the worst-case scenarios is when the hang-out is going great, and they say they're having a good time, they say they'll reach out again, and sometimes they'll even go as far as to make more plans with you. People who ghost know that doing all these things is just another way to ensure that they can get what they want, and they're well aware of how the situation will play out in the end. It only ever truly benefits them.

I asked a few of my male friends why they ghost girls. I received many of the same answers, being that "they were annoying," "I wasn't interested," or "I got what I wanted from them." (Shoutout to the two guys who said they've never ghosted anyone!) While I can understand not wanting to tell someone directly that you're not interested, it's probably best just to say it and get it over with.

Being ghosted is not fun. As someone who has been ghosted, I know that it can really mess with your self-esteem and make you question your self-worth. It can fill you up with regrets and make you question everything.

Once you get ghosted, it is impossible not to go back and forth in your head about what it was that made them ghost you. Sure, you could argue that they didn't know you well enough for it to really affect them or you, but at the same time, it should be easier just to say "hey, this isn't going to work." That way, there is no confusion about the situation, and no awkward texts like "when are we going to hang out again?" later.

Ghosting is becoming a norm in today's society. It shouldn't be, but the truth of the matter is that it is something now that is not uncommon. It is a common courtesy to tell someone that you're not interested, or to at least tell them what your intentions are right away so that it doesn't become a guessing game.