It is recruitment season at my sorority house this week and all of the sisters are so pumped up and excited to welcome the new members. New members mean a new lifeline of sisterhood, memories to share, and a lifetime of connection.

But sometimes a new recruitment season can feel scary. We don't know what to expect, especially when we are going to be recruiting new PNMs for the first time.

One thought that came to my mind was that when I think of PNMs, I think of people coming to see a house that they will buy for the first time. Just like the PNMs, these people who are buying a house for the first time are naive, anxious, and feel a bit unsettled. They want to know what direction they are heading to, but they don't know if they are actually making the right steps to the right direction (or the direction they want).

Recruitment season can feel scary for many PNMs. I still remember how I felt nervous when finding out which parties I have been called back to. Just knowing who are willing to accept you and who aren't, is nerve-wracking enough. Although it would be awesome to have every one of the sororities on our list to accept us, that isn't always possible.

PNMs are human too, and need guidance, even if it's a little bit. Although it is mainly their choice in which sorority they end up picking and which sorority houses they end up visiting, they are making a lifetime commitment and should know that before deciding on one sorority. They need reassurance that they will find their forever "home" and they will be able to find solace there, as the other sisters have.

Being a PNM for the first time can be super tough, especially if you have just come to college as a freshman. Already being in a new environment and trying to find another new environment on top of that, can be dwelling. It takes guts to be a Greek woman, but it takes twice of those guts to be a PNM and someone coming to college for the first time.

Be yourself- The sisters want to see the real you. They don't want to see a plastered, made up version of you. PNMs have understand that sorority sisters are people too underneath the recruitment glitz and glamour, and they want to have real human connections with the people they are recruiting (especially for preference round).

Don't be afraid to speak out about things you're passionate about- One thing I definitely don't regret doing when I was a PNM, was speaking out about my passions for women's rights and issues. I think the more you speak out about things you are interested in, the more easier the sisters can see whether you will be a good match for the sorority and its philanthropy or not. Speaking out about passions also shows the sisters that you are well rounded and are able to see what matters in this world, outside of school and the college life.

Show Inspiration- Show that the sisters that you can be inspirational in your own way. Inspire one of them when you are having a conversation with them. Say something that makes them see things in a new way. Even if you don't get recruited, you can be remembered as the PNM that inspired one of the sisters that were recruiting!