A video from CARE Norway has been surfacing all over social media, and it's definitely made an impression. The #DearDaddy video makes some powerful points while drawing attention to rape culture. It's the 'joke' told to friends, the criticism of the way women dress, it's inaction. It's not telling people that their 'jokes' aren't funny. It's pretending that there isn't a problem.

#DearDaddy is a video that shows the consequences of the active and passive contributions to rape culture as a man's unborn daughter narrates them in a message to him.

Don't get me wrong; I like this video. It holds men accountable for rape culture and doesn't victim blame. It tells men that they are a part of the problem and that they also need to be a part of the solution. It's a video that draws attention to the fact that we should be teaching our sons to not rape instead of teaching our daughters to not get raped.

But, we need to stop framing these arguments in terms of relationships: sisters, wives, and daughters. Instead, we need to start looking at these arguments in terms of people.

"What if she was your sister?"

"What if she was your wife?"

"What if she was your daughter?"

Sure, these arguments can be used when talking to people who don't empathize with rape victims; it humanizes them, right? Wrong. These arguments do nothing more than dehumanize rape victims. All they do it perpetuate rape culture by promoting the idea that women are only important and valuable when they are seen in terms of relationships to other people.

Rape victims can very well be daughter, wives, mothers, and sister, but that's not what makes rape wrong. Rape is wrong because women are people. People in general shouldn't be raped. It's as simple as that.

I like to think that we live in a world where men can be empathetic towards women without having to compare them to their wives, mothers, daughters, and sister.

How about we start promoting gender-blind empathy instead of reducing women to nothing more than their relationships with others. Women are people with their own individual vale.

I am someone's sister and someone's daughter, but I don't want that to be the sole reason why someone treats me with respect. I deserve to be treated well because I am a person. Just because I'm a daughter and sister doesn't entitle me to protection. What about women who aren't wives, sisters, daughters, of mothers? They're still equally deserving of the same respect and protection as me.

We should be teaching those values. Teach people that everyone is deserving of respect because they're human beings.