Yes, I Really Want To Be A Mom— But First, I Need To Find My Place In The World

Yes, I Really Want To Be A Mom— But First, I Need To Find My Place In The World

Becoming successful, traveling, going on adventures, and falling in love comes first

When people ask me what I want to be when I am older, I always say a mom.

There is nothing I want more in this world than to be a mom, and a good mom at that. To provide a home, give unconditional love, and care for children is truly all I want to do. The only catch is that I don’t want to have children before I am ready to.

I am the kind of girl that gets giddy walking through stores and seeing the endless supply of little kid clothes and toys.

I am also the kind of girl that sees a little kid in public and immediately laughs and smiles, always waving back when they wave at me. Most of my friends can back me up when I say I have had baby fever forever. When I meet adults who say they have babies, I always ask to see pictures– let's be real, almost all new parents want to show their babies off, and I am more than happy to be their audience. I cannot wait for the day I can show my children off to people– but hopefully that day is in the far, far future.

I have things I want to do and accomplish before I can seriously think about bringing children into the world.

I want to finish college and then attend grad school if that's in my plan. I want to volunteer and travel serving with nonprofits. I want to find a stable career that I am passionate about and be as successful as I can be at it. I want to work tirelessly until I can buy my own home and live completely off of my own money without the help of my parents– not that there is anything wrong with getting help.

I want to be able to go on adventures.

I want to spontaneously go on road trips and vacations with friends. I want to hike to the top of mountains. I want to go on camping trips and go under the radar for a duration of time. I want to party and go out– and make it a tradition for a few years to celebrate NYE in different cities across the United States. I want to go to concerts and music festivals with people I love and go completely crazy. I want to become inspired and make art.

I want to see Greece and Rome, along with all of the historic sights both places possess. I want to see castles throughout Europe and see pyramids in Egypt. I want to drink at pubs in Ireland and visit the filming sights of Star Wars and Harry Potter. I want to be able to discover who I am as a person and live on the edge while I am young, so when I settle down, I will have a more grounded perspective of the world. I want to see cultures and immerse myself into the world, so I can share with my children my experiences of being in all parts of the world, and not just our tiny part of it.

Most importantly, I also want to meet and fall in love with the person I'll spend the rest of my life with.

I want to be careful about finding that one person who I will build a life and family with. To say I have my standards set high is probably an understatement. I'll embrace the single life and dating because I want to take my time finding that person. I don't want to feel like I am trying to beat an hour glass thinking I need to get married and settle down when everyone else around me starts to. Yes, I have friends that are already dating to marry and are seriously thinking about settling down right after college. If it so happens that I do end up meeting that person before I expect to, then hopefully he wants to experience the world with me. If not, I will do it on my own until I do find that person.

I know life happens and almost nothing goes as planned.

I will adapt and act accordingly when that does happen– but right now, this is my game plan. Having children is the biggest blessing, and I will be forever grateful and fortunate when children do come into my life.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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