Want Him To Want You?

Want Him To Want You?

Here's exactly what you need to do.

There’s a chance you’ve clicked on this article looking for a prophetic solution as to why you didn’t land that second date. There’s also a higher chance you’re a family member and clicked this link through Facebook (Hi, Aunt Michelle!).

I’ll continue on as if it’s the first one.

If you’ve come for a comprehensive step-by-step guide then you’ve come to the wrong place.

If you’ve come for a tutorial (…because no matter how shatterproof Legally Blonde made the iconic “Bend and Snap” look, it’s not as clinically proven as it has been marketed) then you should exit the tab now.

If you ask me, instruction manuals are for things like cars, the back of fancy shampoo bottles. cookbooks that you gift as a polite-and-indirect-way of telling Maureen her cooking sucks. And, the last time I checked, those things are all objects. You are not.

You are not an object in the sense that you are not an entity in someone else’s possession. You are not an end-point goal of another’s game. And romantic courtship has morphed into just that - a competitive sport.

There are weird calculations and subtle, unconscious moves. There are pings of excitement when he views your witty caption on your snapchat story. It’s a text back, but not too quickly. It’s a inch closer, but not too much, because it could drive him away. Check mate, god damnit. Remind me again when this become so hard?

And some swear they know the ins and the outs. But, just like that kid who swore he knew the Mario Kart cheats and a shortcut to Rainbow Road, they all end up falling off course.

I’ve had so many people come to me with lengths that go to the extreme about troubled situations concerning whether or not a man is interested in them. He’s sleeping with you, but he doesn't want to be exclusive. He tells you that you’re the type of girl that he would bring home to his family, but you have yet to see the cabinets on his kitchen wall.

Things can get real messy too. For example, Katie paints a vivid prolific picture to me of Brad. Brad is a down-to-earth, wholesome frat boy who loves his family (as any frat boy would), but never called back. A couple more questions about frat boy Brad and I learn that he was very, very intoxicated when they met. He also called Katie Christine a couple of times throughout the night, but nonetheless, according to Christine - I mean Katie - love ensured.

Something is so similar about these stories at the core. A daunting, insecurity that screams: "Can I make someone else like me as much as I like them?"

And if that resounding chorus isn’t bad enough, I’ve seen so many girls try to change who they are to match what a man seems to want. I’ve seen them quiet themselves, I’ve seen them become emotionally distant. I’ve seen them give themselves to people who didn’t deserve it.

The truth that lies here is that 1) There is nothing you can do to convince a person to become interested in you.

And 2) Refer back to the previous statement.

As hard as that is to hear, I too, have stood in countless grocery store lines with headlines that point to the answers. How to get him to ask you out! Exclamation point!

And I almost pick them up knowing what they’ll all say inside.

Let your body language do the talking. Be flirty. Make him chase you.

Twirl your hair around your index finger like a schoolgirl while jumping up and down on one leg. Do this and be sure to not break eye contact with him.

And if that doesn't work? One of three options. Black magic. Hook up with his best friend in the dark corner of a party while he is there to make him jealous. Or, finally, behind door three is an all-inclusive roundtrip to die a sad, miserable life alone.

But, instead of those three easy solutions, you probably choose to do what the rest of us do. You internalize a situation. You sit there and wonder if it was something you did or didn’t do. You gnaw at your own arm as you type out had a good time tonight. Backspace. Too casual. I had a good time tonight. Just right.

You, altogether, blame yourself.

The right man will text you back regardless of your punctuation use. The right man will make the effort to be with you. The right man will know that it wasn’t because you chose the red or the black dress to wear out - it’s the things that are as easily showcased as the fabric on your body. The right man knows intellect, your drive, your empathy, your charisma are pieces of you that could be offered to the man standing next to him if he lets you go.

And if that isn’t enough then I'll leave with this thought. Imagine a room comprised of only doors. You could spend your entire life standing outside one that is vacant, hoping, praying that someone will open it.

Or you could pick up you stuff, move to the next door down, and try again.

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What You Pick Essentials For a Romantic Weekend Away?

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When you are stuck in routine life and feels yourself like a robot who is imitating and repeating things over and over again that is going to make no sense or it's getting awful and the boredom is all there is.

On weekdays you are struck, and you are frustrated and losing power to focus; don’t worry this happens to all of us we are humans. My advice will be that you are required a much-needed break. So yes! Go on, decide that this weekend you will get rid of all the boredom; fun, romance, love and intimacy will fill up your soul and will set up and bring back all your energy.

Grab your soul mate’s hand and execute the plan of a romantic weekend away. But remember you have to do some homework to make his weekend romantic and memorable. A little planning will pay off in a very good way.

So let us see all that is need for a romantic weekend away checklist that will help you and others like you out there planning the same:

Go light 

Yes, it is very important for you to understand that you are going out for a weekend and if you are going to pack up everything in your home. It’s a huge mistake you’ll lose all your energy on the packing and believe me you’ll regret it soon during the holiday. You and your loved one need to understand that you are going on for a weekend and carrying only the important stuff will make you comfortable. And will spare the time for you two to enjoy; all the remaining days you have the opportunity to enjoy all the luxuries but for such plan. Remember to go light and only the essential ones.

Travel with style

Do come up with style as all the time you’ll have is the luxury of a lifeless boredom life, so enjoy it with style so be Sexy and Sassy. Gather the travel gear wisely pick some comfortable and durable shoes. And clothes must serve the dual purpose of style and comfort. So go stylish.


Wait you are packed for a romantic weekend out and forgot the lingerie, this will ruin your romance so don’t worry you have the time now to pack it up. So go with burning desires.

Birth Control

It's sometimes useful to lose control but sometimes only. Don’t risk to take your safety might be you won’t be able to get it there where you are heading to. So go safe and prepared and enjoy all the intimacy, as you will soon miss all these moments and adventure. Take lubricants too if you like, but I’ll say, “As you wish”.

Quick Charge Power Bank

Believe me, this is the thing most of the time we forgot, and we regret it later so don’t be a loser it essential to stay connected to the outside. But take a break too from the internet and social media and give yourself a break but always remember to bring your quick charge power bank.

Now after some important things to carry with you don’t forget to have this checklist too, it helped me also, seriously

• Plan your route with the GPS and the maps

• Cameras

• Notebook and pen

• Reading material

• First aid kit

• Medicines

• Mosquito repellant

• Sunglasses

• Sunscreen

• Important documents 

So, go safe, enjoy a lot, keep it in mind it’s a romantic weekend away.

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5 Things to Do On Valentine's Day If You're Single

Being single doesn't have to be a bad thing.

While Valentine's Day is usually a day that many single people dread, you don't have to dread this overrated holiday this year! Here are five things to do this Valentine's Day if you're single!

1. Have a movie marathon featuring your celebrity crush (or crushes).

2. Go on a shopping spree.

3. Treat yourself with a manicure, pedicure, or even a spa day.

4. Take the day to unplug.

5. Tell your family and friends how much you love and appreciate them.

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