We all have at least on celebrity, whether they are A-list or independent, that we follow on today’s social media. Many celebrities have their own social media accounts as well to be able to interact with the fans. But there’s a fine line between being a fan and being a ‘fan’.

What do I mean by ‘fan’? It might be easier to first describe a fan. A fan is happy to support his/her celebrity. This does not mean that the fan necessarily agrees with everything that the celebrity says or does. Maybe the fan gets the chance to meet this celebrity in person. There is a level of respect for the celebrity that you would still show to any other human being.

When I talk of a ‘fan’, I’m talking about the person who goes to the extremes. This person doesn’t just like the photo on Instagram or leave a single comment. This person is someone who goes overboard with comments of unending devotion or comments obscene pictures. If they get the chance to meet a celebrity they will drape themselves all over the celebrity or hang of their arm.

Don’t get me wrong, there are some celebrities that get an extra high off this behavior. I’ve met a band whose members get a kick out women hanging on them. They even get into it and drape themselves all over the ‘fans’.But as a whole, most celebrities prefer to sit and talk to the fans the same way they would talk to their best friend or family.

Now there is a fine line to be walked between being‘fan’ and beingfan. I walk this line with several of the celebrities I’ve met, but there’s one in particular that i’m still walking that line. Our journey started on Instagram through flirtatious comments. Then we met in person and toed the line between fan/celebrity and two friends meeting at once to begin something more.

Since then we’ve dropped back to small talk on Instagram. Even that we have watch to makes sure it doesn’t get spun. On top of that, I have other plans to work on a project with his family. How awkward could that get?

So where’s my warning: be careful when you are contacting you celebrity crushes. There is alway a fine line between being a fan and a ‘fan’. You can converse with them on a friendly level. There may even be a certain level of flirtation that may be allowed, but don’t take it too far. They are people just like you. They don’t want to have someone hanging on them and they like space too. There are secrets that should be kept. Otherwise there would be nothing new to learn about this person. You may even be lucky enough to build a friendship with them. But don’t pester them, it will drive them away from responding to you.