You Should Wait On Starting A Family Until You're Ready

Why You Should Wait On Starting A Family

Because kids are the biggest commitments you could possibly make.


I've honestly never wanted kids at any point in my short 19 years of living—ever. Maybe it's just because I have no patience for literally anyone (yes, even small children—I'm awful) or maybe it's from all the horrifying experiences of pregnancy I've heard about from friends and family. Regardless, kids aren't something I see in the cards for me and I know a lot of others can personally agree that they aren't meant for childbearing either. However, plenty of others around my age have dreamed of having anywhere from one to six kids since middle school (because for some reason we start thinking about having kids at that age).

Now, I'm not saying having kids is horrible and you're throwing your life away if you do it. Not at all. We definitely need to keep the human race alive—until the environment decides that we're done for, at least. I just don't think that needs to be the only thing we all see as our future.

My mom has told me multiple times, "Emma, never have kids". Of course, the first time I heard this I was shocked because she herself had kids and I am indeed one of those kids. She obviously loves me a lot and when she tells me this it comes from a place of such. She tells me how she wants me to aspire to my dream career, travel, and experience all the wonderful things you can only really get the most out of when you're young. So, when she tells me never to have kids, I couldn't agree more. Or at least just I'll never have kids until I've fully completed the first chapter of my life.

I think getting married and having kids cut our time to fully live short. Sure, there are a lot of beautiful things to be had with having a family of your own, but there are so many burdens that come with it too. Especially when you're still only in your twenties. It means settling down and committing to the lives of others when you haven't even really lived out your own in the ways that can only be fully done as a childless-young adult.

Again, I'm not saying there is anything wrong with having kids. It just doesn't make sense to me to do it so young when you have so much out there waiting for you and when you have the choice. I'm also not saying that you MUST see every corner of the globe before you have kids—that's unrealistic, to say the least.

What I'm really trying to say here is that I think you need to feel at peace with what you've experienced and done in your youth before having your life be almost entirely focused on building up the lives of your children. There is nothing more bitter than regret and that is not something you need to have in your heart going into that new chapter of true parent/adulthood. You wouldn't jump to chapter two in a book without finishing chapter one- you'd probably be missing crucial aspects of the story. YOUR story.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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12 You Should Know About Your Significant Other After You've Been Dating 12 Months Or More

You have multiple food orders memorized.


Dating someone for a year+ means that you are bound to know things you might not have known in the early months of the relationship. You also might act differently than you did at the beginning of the relationship.

Here are 12 things you know when you've been dating for over a year.

1. Clothing size, shoe size

This one you can probably be able to figure out early in the relationship. But, you start to keep in the back of your mind and think of that person when you see clothes or a pair of shoes they might like.

2. You can guess what they are going to text back

Especially if it is just a casual conversation about nothing in particular. You know their go-to responses.

3. You have multiple food orders memorized

Their food orders, of course.

4. You have that one TV show you can put on and neither of you will complain

And that is "The Office."

5. You don't get jealous

How could you have lasted in a relationship for over a year and not have any trust?

6. You know likes and dislikes

And can assume if they are going to like or dislike something.

7. You got a LONG Snapstreak

474 day streak over here.

8. Their successes make you just as happy as it makes them

Seeing your significant other do well and accomplish something great is just as rewarding as if you had done the same.

9. Your friends are his friends and his friends are your friends

And you can all hang out together.

10. You have your favorite restaurants

That we always end up going to.

11. You've met everyone in the family and extended family

And you feel like part of the family.

12. You know extremely personal things about each other

That you would not necessarily share with the public.

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