Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Everyone has their own idea of beauty and their own thoughts on artwork; some prefer intricate, complex works and others find peace in the simple. It's the idea of individual expression that gives it its power as art - it connects with everybody differently.

There is a concept in Japanese culture that plays into this idea, commonly referred to as "wabi-sabi". I'm not Japanese, so what I am talking about is based on the knowledge I've gleaned from some research, but the general idea is that the imperfections make the objects beautiful. And genuinely, I think this is amazing.

Much of the pottery that is created to fit this aesthetic is plain; its colors are faded with time, the designs are simple and, in many cases, it may not even be finished. The overall concept is that beauty is incomplete, imperfect and impermanent - a lesson that can easily be generalized to daily life.

The notion that perfection - often found in the forms of mind games or retouching - is beauty is deeply permeated into our culture, so far that it can be jarring to see a normal-looking person on television. Every magazine cover is photoshopped, every interview features people with professional, perfectly-done makeup and every Instagram picture passes through at least a hundred filters. In Western culture today, messy hair is a problem to be fixed, not a sign of a fun afternoon. A few extra pounds are a deal-breaker. Fashion - and ensuring one does not mess up with one's clothes - is paramount at all costs, because everyone has an opinion about it that they broadcast to the world.

It goes beyond the judgment of the moment - it delves into the minds of the young kids, ensuring they too believe that the only way to be "pretty" is to bleach your hair and fake your tan. It rips apart people and shoves the superficial into their faces, screaming that they're ugly if they don't convene to Eurocentric beauty standards, going above and beyond to prove their dedication to their image.

Perhaps we can all take a lesson from the idea of wabi-sabi, either in pottery or in real life, in many cases. Beauty is impermanent for sure - aging is inevitable, your makeup will be washed off, you will not look the way you do today forever. There is no point in creating a person today that you inflexibly idolize since that won't be you in two or three years; focus on loving yourself instead.

Beauty is incomplete; every person is like a perpetual flower, constantly blossoming to their full potential but as each layer of petals peels off, another lies formed and ready to open up. This is why it is so important to love yourself for yourself - you are going to change, but you are still beautiful.

And finally, beauty is imperfect. Stretch marks, eye bags and scars are beautiful because they are natural. They are human and inevitable. They are from experiences that have shaped your mind and that are unique to you. Don't be ashamed of them. You are organic and gorgeous and better than the judgments that try to get you to turn yourself to plastic.

And remember, when life gets you down and you find yourself nitpicking flaws in your own appearance, the things you're criticizing are art to other people.

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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

This one's for you.

Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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10 TV Shows You Need To Watch On Hulu

Hulu is slept on


I have recently moved to watch shows and movies on Hulu and Netflix. Hulu has a lot of great shows and movies to offer that aren't on Netflix. While Netflix is still great, Hulu is definitely starting to grow on me. Here are some shows that I have watched or have started watching on Hulu that I think are pretty great!

1. 11.22.63


If you love James Franco and Stephen King, you'll love this show. The first episode is a bit long, but all the other episodes are only 45 minutes. The plot line is pretty interesting. I also like that it doesn't tell you everything, it shows it to you and you piece things together.

2. The Act

The fact that this show is based on a true story is just insane. The acting is really great, especially if you watch actual videos of Gypsy, Joey King does a great job.

3. Castle Rock

Another Stephen King masterpiece. This show is riveting and really makes you think about what the truth is in the context of the story, and brings in some ethical questions.

4. Future Man

I've only recently started this but it's pretty interesting and funny.

5. The O.C.

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This show was great. Sometimes it was a bit annoying, but it is a classic show from the early 2000s. You really become invested in all the characters and your opinion may change on some characters because they grow and develop throughout the show.

6. The Handmaid's Tale

If you've read the book, you should definitely watch the show.

7. Obsession: Dark Desires


I just love true crime stories and this really dives deep into crime stories and the darkest parts of humanity.

8. Intervention

This show can be really sad or frustrating, but I think it's good for people to see the reality of addiction.

9. Smallville

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I also started this one very recently and I've always wanted to watch it. It can be cheesy but it's pretty entertaining.

10. Brooklyn Nine-Nine


This is a great show if you want to laugh. I love all of the characters and everything they bring to the table.

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