Why Being Lost In Life Can Be So Valuable

The Value Behind Being Lost

We often ruin being lost before it even begins. Overthinking. Worrying. Contemplating. Doubting. Let it naturally evolve.

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We have all been lost at some point or another in our lives. It may happen more often than not for some, this should be seen as a blessing (I'll explain later). When we come across difficult issues or are dumbfounded with an overwhelming sense of emotions, we struggle. I can even admit to this. Whatever the situation is, we often struggle to calm ourselves and find the good. Do not worry though, there is good news in all of this.

See, the thing is, the more we are exposed to the essence of being lost and confused the more we can learn. I know this is easier said than done, but it is all about perspective. Perspective is a powerful tool. Perspective has allowed me to clear the fog in my brain and analyze problems with a sharper view. Being able to detach my mind from my emotions while being lost has been a blessing. The more I teach myself to experience rather than resist, the more I have been able to relax and live. The end goal is to educate our minds to be comfortable with uneasiness. Once we can accomplish this, we can always find light in the void.

Trust me when I say all of this too because I have only learned all of this through myself. My mind runs a million miles an hour and turns over 360° all the time. As I began to control my thoughts effectively when I was lost, I have been able to grow and develop my individuality. Solving new problems compels me to build my values and direction in life.

As Thoreau poetically writes, "Every man has to learn the points of a compass again as often as he awakes, whether from sleep or any abstraction. Not till we are lost, in other words, not till we have lost in the world, do we begin to find ourselves, and realize where we are in the infinite extent of our relations." This excerpt from "Walden" resonates with me whenever I know I need to find the light. Hopefully, it can do the same for you. All you have to do is remind yourself to eradicate irrational thoughts. Find a memento to use in situations where you know you need a different perspective. If this helps, just remember: we have three eyes, two to look and one to see.

When you find yourself lost, always know that life is what you make of it, especially in the dark. No one is watching you until you emerge into the light. It does not matter where you are or what the circumstances are, own every moment and search relentlessly for the light. If you think about it, black is the ultimate color (conversation for another time) because it is the beginning and end of all colors. There is honestly more to see than you think.

If there is one thing that you take away from this, let it be that life really is not that hard if you do not make it that way. Acquiesce to the waves and see where it takes you. It might lead you to an epiphany, you never know.

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!
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After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

Check them out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvUCbnwzySKgbKiB_...



14. Some activities on my bucket list are...


This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...



What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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Jack's Gayness On Will And Grace Goes Too Far

Jack and Will are both gay, but Jack is over the top and offensive

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THIS ARTICLE CONTAINS SPOILERS FOR THE FIRST TWO SEASONS OF THE ORIGINAL NBC SHOW WILL & GRACE

I recently started watching a show from the late 90s on Hulu called Will & Grace. I chose it because the episodes are bite-sized at around 20 minutes, and it looked interesting. The story is centered on two best friends in their 30s who live in New York. Will also has a younger friend named Jack. Both Will and Jack are gay.

As a Christian, I am fundamentally opposed to homosexuality. So, you may wonder why I decided to watch the show in the first place. One, I was desperate. Two, gay characters are usually entertaining. And three, I figured it was harmless since it was just a TV show. So, I watched the show for a while with minimal issues.

Will is single and rarely goes on dates. When he does, they usually aren't shown. Plus, he doesn't act like a stereotypical gay guy. He's a level-headed, down-to-earth lawyer.

On the other hand, Jack is flamboyant and way more out there. He talks a lot about his dates and other encounters with guys, but they are rarely shown.

As I suspected, the gay characters, especially Jack, are entertaining. Even to the point where I could let some disturbing things pass and keep watching. While Will usually manages not to offend me, Jack makes a habit of it.

An example was when Jack wanted to do a couples' costume for Halloween as Adam and Steve. It was obviously supposed to be funny, but it bothered me. When I first heard Adam and Steve, I was in youth group and my pastor was discussing homosexuality. He said that if God meant for men to be together, He would've made Adam and Steve instead of Adam and Eve. While it was funny, it also had a purpose. It showed that God's design is for men and women to be together. He created woman as the perfect companion for man. That's why I didn't appreciate the Adam and Steve joke. It's an unforgivable distorting of the Bible that turns sin into the norm.

Along those lines, Jack repeatedly refers to God as a woman. There's nothing in the Bible to support that. In fact, God is not human, so He has no gender. However, He is referred to with masculine pronouns because it makes sense to our tiny minds. When I hear Jack talk about God, it makes me happy that he believes in God. But when he calls Him a woman, it makes me wonder if we're talking about the same God.

Those are some things that I let slide. However, Jack doesn't know where to draw the line so he has crossed it in my mind. There are two times that stand out to me as incredibly offensive and upsetting. They made my blood boil with anger and my eyes brim with tears.

Let me preface them by saying that Jack seems to live in his own little world where gay is the norm and straight is deviant. He only has two straight friends who are both women. I'm pretty sure he doesn't have many encounters with straight guys that don't involve him flirting with them. That no doubt contributes to his misconception that the default is gay. He has a tendency to assume all men are gay, whether openly or not. In reality, only about 2% of American men are gay, both now and then.

What if straight people assumed everyone else was straight and that gay people were lying because no one could possibly be gay? I can tell you that would not go over well. We'd be called narrow-minded bigots. Yet, when Jack does it, it's cute and endearing.

In the first disturbing episode, Jack is talking about how he believes being straight is wrong. I have never heard anyone say that before. But, as I said, Jack is pretty much heterophobic (again, how is that a thing?). I was shocked when I heard him say that. But I was absolutely appalled by what he said next.

He argued that if men and women were meant to be together, God would've given them both penises.

Go ahead and let that sink in. Then file it into the part of your brain labeled ABSOLUTELY WRONG.

First of all, that's blasphemy. In Biblical times, you'd be stoned for that. Second of all, it's just plain untrue. God meant for men and women to be together. He created women for man. They are able to reproduce. If people of the same sex were meant to be together, they'd be able to reproduce. As far as reproductive parts go, a man and women literally fit together. It's easy because it's natural.

WARNING: DESCRIPTIONS OF GAY SEX

Men aren't meant to be together, which is why their parts don't fit together. They clash. Gay men's idea of sex is exclusively anal. They think that's normal because it feels good. The pleasure comes from the prostate gland. Do you know what that does? It protects and aids sperm! Remind me what sperm is for. Oh, yeah. Making babies! The thing that makes gay sex pleasurable is the very thing that makes reproduction possible. Unlike the clitoris on women, the prostate isn't there for pleasure. It serves a (heterosexual) purpose.

Also, gay sex involves insertion, just like straight sex. Gay men have to stick to that since their sticks can't work together. If straight sex is so wrong and gross, then why do gay men mimic it? When gay men have sex, only one of them is using their sex organ. In straight sex, both people are using theirs because they work together. If gay sex were natural, there'd be a way to do it where both men use their penises with each other. As far as I know, there isn't. But I haven't done extensive research.

I think I've said enough about that to make my point and disprove Jack's statement.

In the second disturbing episode, Jack meets a guy at a gay bar who gives him a flyer. Jack is too busy admiring the guy's face to realize that the flyer is for gay men who want to get back on the straight and narrow. Typically, the kind of men who feel that way have some religious or moral reason for believing that being gay is wrong and they shouldn't give into it.

Jack is upset when he finds out that the cute guy is straight. So, what does he do? He decides to go to the meeting to flirt with the guy and try to undo all the hard work he's gone through to get to a better place. He goes with a straight female friend and they pretend to be a married couple that used to be gay.

Jack flirts with the leader of the group while trying to make it believable that he's straight. He wants to convert the straight man back to being gay and convince him to make a move. Once the guy catches onto this and realizes that Jack was never straight or even trying to be, he addresses the group as a whole. He says that anyone who is using the group as a place to pick up someone should leave. They all do.

Let me pause here. These people were taking advantage of a group that was designed to help them by using it in a way directly opposed to its purpose. That's messed up in any group. That's like if people only went to an AA meeting to get alcohol from each other.

Anyway, it gets worse. When the man who created the group sees it fall apart, he gives up. He realizes he wasn't helping people, so he reverts back to his old ways and takes Jack up on his offer to "platonically" shower together.

Jack single-handedly ruined a group designed to help people. He sabotaged and took advantage of its leader. To use the AA analogy, he walked into the meeting and handed everyone alcohol. No matter how you feel about homosexuality, Jack's behavior was despicable. I found it even more disgusting since I don't support homosexuality.

Has Jack's behavior caused me to stop watching the show? No. Does that make me weak and hypocritical? I don't know. Maybe. But this isn't Jack's show. It's Will and Grace's show. And they are the ones that give it its redeeming qualities. I'm wary now whenever Jack walks onscreen because I don't know if he's going to offend me. When he does, I'll sometimes take a break. While I haven't stopped watching the show, I do watch it less frequently and I'm less prone to binge it. Although I have become invested in the characters and their stories, Jack's continued inappropriate and offensive behavior might convince me that it's just not worth watching the show anymore.

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