This is a conversation I will never forget.
It was around October of my freshman year in college. I was speaking to a boy who lives on my floor in the lobby around midnight.
There was a group of us lounging in the lobby on the beaten down couches while we were speaking on the side. You told me how scared you are about meeting new people and opening up again. As we were discussing, you began to go on your phone to show me something. You came across this one girl's VSCO, and you began talking about how beautiful she is. Your eyes lit up looking at her profile, exclaiming how kind and pure her soul is.
I said, "Do you like her?"
You said yes.
I continued saying, "Then go for it."
You replied, "Never, I can't."
I asked why not and you said,
"She's too nice. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I ever hurt her. "
I sat back in pure curiosity and my mind wandered.
Maybe this is the case for many of us when we wonder why certain people leave without an answer. Maybe, just maybe, it has nothing to do with us. It has everything to do with them. Maybe, they aren't up for the challenge to be the best version of themselves for you.
You deserve the best, and even they know that.
In the society we live in today, it is very easy to jump to the conclusion, "I did something wrong, what can Ido to fix it?" But, we cannot allow ourselves to jump into this constant pattern.
It isn't always our fault. Some things are out of our hands.
With this concept in mind, we must also remind ourselves that maybe some people are supposed to leave. It allows us to open our eyes and see the independence we have, that we might not know we have. A rush of independence that helps us see the importance of letting go of those we shouldn't hold on to.
The importance of knowing that you deserve more.
Maybe, just maybe, that one person is supposed to leave for an even better person to come in. A certain person that will make you forget about the others that hurt you. Someone that is more deserving of your time and attention.
Looking at different perspectives creates a peace of mind.