It's Okay To Have A Vague Life Plan, Because No One Can Predict The Future

It's Okay To Have A Vague Life Plan, Because No One Can Predict The Future

Because the truth of the matter is, no one knows what the future holds.

The Scenario

Imagine this: It's Christmas Break and you are fresh out of Fall semester, with weeks to decompress and plenty of time-finally-to figure yourself and your goals out. Which is definitely easier said than done, but hey, it's gotta happen at some point. As you sit around the dinner table on Christmas or Hanukkah or Kwanzaa or Festivus, whatever floats your boat, your family shoots questions a million miles a minute about your major, your love life or lack thereof, and your big plans for the future. And if you're anything like me, you don't really have one of those yet.

A plan, that is. And your family might not understand that, and they probably won't understand your major if it's not Pre-Med or engineering, and that's okay. They most likely won't be on board with you buying a ticket to Bali tomorrow like you really want to, in order to add some "worldly perspective" to your life. Didn't work for me, might not work for you either. And that's okay. It's really going to be okay. And here's why.

The Dealio

Creating a life plan is something that is necessary so you can point your sails in the right direction rather than casting a net out to who-knows-where and just hoping it'll land in the right place. Which, to be honest, is exactly what I have been doing throughout the duration of my college career, and still am doing because figuring out what to do for the rest of your life is hard and difficult work, people! Family, I am looking at you! And that's okay; but some people over the holidays may not understand your vague life outline and your current goals, and to be fair, the outline of my own plan is pretty blurry to me too, so I wouldn't expect them to see it better than me anyway.

If you are one of the lucky ones that has a solid plan, that's great! Run with it and turn it into a passion that you can't wait to talk about if someone asks you about it at dinner. When we rode home from my Grandma's house on Christmas, my dad was going to ask a family member that couldn't make it to dinner about something he wanted to know about in his line of work, construction, in order to learn more about building a new house. My mom said from the passenger seat, "I'm sure he's glad he couldn't make it today so he didn't have to talk about his job while trying to relax and celebrate". Which is true for many people, sadly.

They'd rather forget they have a job and never think about it until they absolutely have to. And that's okay, but I personally am looking forward to the day I can find myself a future that I will be over-the-moon excited to tell people about. I want to seek people out to listen to me ramble about how much I love my career because I am just that dang passionate about it. And sure, I haven't figured out what that career will be, but that's okay.

We're all in this crazy, wild ride together, whether you know what you want to do or not. Because the truth of the matter is, no one knows what the future holds. None of us do, even the sure-fire future lawyers and doctors. Who knows what will become of the world in fifteen years? No one does, and that's the beauty of the future. It's ours to create. So let's get creative and design one we all are excited to live in.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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There Is No 'Right Way' To React To A Shooting

Everyone is different.


After the shootings this year in New Zealand, Brazil, and close to home for some of us Aurora, people have been reacting in different ways. With some offering their thoughts and prayers, donating money to help pay for the funerals of the victims, fighting for action in regards to ending gun violence, candlelight vigils basically anything that can help them in this time of grief.

There is no right or wrong way to react to a shooting — everyone grieves in their own ways. We should not judge one another for how we grieve in a tragedy.

People have been saying that thoughts and prayers won't do anything. However, maybe it can be a comfort to some people—a way to let people know that they are thinking of them and that they care.

Sometimes people may want to donate money or blood to help out any survivors who may have suffered from blood loss or create GoFundMe accounts to either help out with medical expenses or to pay for the funerals of the victims or even start charities like Islamic Relief USA. Donating your time and money is a good way to help out because you are making a difference that is a form of action you are taking.

There is also grieving in the form of vigils. One example of a vigil is this guy who makes crosses every time there is some kind of tragedy. Vigils are often a good way to remember the victims, to pray for the healing of the survivors, to talk about what they were like as people.

Some people even want to take action by demanding that the laws change a good example of this would be March for Our Lives, which happened after the Parkland shooting last year. This march was fighting for gun control or should I say changes in the gun laws America currently has.

Some people also do acts of solidarity, for example, wearing a hijab like the prime minister of New Zealand did when she went to go visit the Christchurch shooting survivors. My community college had something a couple of years ago called Hijab Day to help show solidarity with our friends. I participated, and it was quite an experience—no one should ever be afraid to be who they are.

There is never a right or wrong way to react, and no one should ever criticize one another for how they react. It's not a test where there is a right or wrong answer—everyone is different and that is okay.

No one should ever have to be afraid to go to school, go to work, or go to their place of worship or wherever they decide to go. Whatever we decide to do to make a change, as long as we are taking some kind of action, is good enough for me.

Nothing ever gets done by sitting around and doing nothing, so whatever it is you do, get out there and do it. As long as you are showing support it doesn't matter how you show it.

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