1. Remind yourself “I have two choices”. Say no or say yes. Sometimes saying yes to experiences that you normally wouldn’t say yes to can be eye opening but at times it can be toxic. If you are friends with someone that doesn’t put in the same effort as you than can take a toll on you. Always saying yes to those experiences can seep negativity not only into that relationship but into your life. Remember that you have a choice, its your decision!

2. Set your priorities straight. Acknowledge what’s most important to you. If you want to make a toxic/negativity friendship into a healthy/positive one talk to them and put in that extra effort. However, if that friend doesn’t put you on their priority list, that relationship is already toxic. Remember what matter most to you not to anyone else- its your life!

3. Don’t try to change others. You can’t control anyone but yourself. Other people will only change when they feel that it’s necessary. Everyone lacks in something but make sure to let that friend know how their actions make you feel. Once you let them know there isn’t much else you personally can do but continue to stay positive and do what best for you!

4. Be kind to yourself. Realize that they way others make you feel doesn’t mean that has to alter the way you think of yourself. Just because another person can make you feel unworthy of their friendship that doesn’t mean that are unworthy. Believe that you are loved and worthy. Sometimes, and I find in most cases, people don’t intend to be “the bad guy” so if you feel that way truth is that wasn’t their intention. Although if that was their intention you don’t need approval from someone like that anyway!