No, I didn't ask for help with my relationship

You Don't Know My Relationship, So It's A Blessing For You That I Didn't Ask

A little note for all of the family members and distant friends who love to give their opinions on things they do not understand.

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It is the beginning of January, meaning we have all pretty much survived another holiday season full of the people you missed and could not wait to see. But, you've also encountered the people you see once a year and feel awkward with the whole time.

As a girl in my second half of my college years, I'm getting lots of opinions from people who barely know me.

Nothing bothers me more than when people want to tell me how to live my life, even though they have not been around to see most of my life. Topics including, but not limited to, my dating life.

I am sure we have all seen the memes and viral tweets about single people being tired of being asked when they are going to get a significant other, and while I cannot relate (but feel for you) let me tell you it is not always more fun when they have a person to ask about.

Believe it or not, I am not looking for your opinions on the boyfriend of mine that you have never met. I do not care to show you his picture so that you can see what he looks like, because he looks the same as he did in the picture I showed you last year. All the information about his major and his family is just the same as well.

So, if you do not care enough to remember the minor details, why do you think I would care to hear your opinions?

I know, I did what you are not supposed to and started dating someone right away in college. I was annoyed as a freshman when you told me not to settle down too quickly, and, over two years later (with the same boyfriend) I am just as annoyed with your new thoughts.

The truth of the matter is, he is a much bigger part of my life than you have ever tried to be, so what you think about our relationship or how long it has gone or will go, does not bother me. I never cared what you thought. What I do care about is the needless desire you have to feel authoritative in a life, my life, you have been little apart of.

You only kind of know me, and you definitely do not know him.

So, why on Earth do you feel inclined to give your advice now? Here is a hint: if I cared what you thought, I would have asked.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.
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The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.

Sincerely,

the loving granddaughters

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You Don't Have To See Your Friends Every Day

We all have lives that we're trying to balance.

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For as long as I can remember, whenever I would have no plans and go on Snapchat to see all my friends having fun without me, I would get FOMO. I'd get really sad and think that they didn't care about me because they didn't invite me. It would get me in such a bad mood that it would ruin any chance of going out with someone else who wanted to hang out.

I don't know if it was just my anxiety of people hating me or if it was a fear of missing out (FOMO). Even recently, it has gotten me down. However, over the past month or so, I finally realized something: you don't have to hang out every day to still consider each other friends.

Everyone has a life that they're trying to balance, especially after high school. People work (maybe even more than one job) and go to school. Some have to take care of family members or do things for their family. Some people are focusing on themselves. Some have relationships to maintain. Whatever it is, we all have lives that we're trying to balance.

We all want to have fun, but school, work, and our families are the priorities.

Even if they're out hanging with other people, it doesn't mean that they don't want to hang out with you. Free time is served on a "first come, first serve" basis. It's hard to balance hanging out with multiple people.

I also learned that it doesn't matter the number of friends you have. What truly matters is the quality. Ask yourself, "Who's there for me when I really need someone?" The people who are there for you when you really need someone to talk to are your TRUE friends.

It's not easy to be there for someone and make them feel better. If they offer to listen or give advice, they care!

I know that it may feel like you have no friends sometimes, but that's not true. Life after high school is hard at times. You're an adult. You have to do adult things and take care of yourself first.

You have to realize that everyone has a busy schedule and not all your friends' schedules will align with yours, but that's okay! You don't need to hang out with friends every day to consider them your friends. What truly matters is if they are there for you when you need them.

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