Unrealistic Expectations Girls Have For Their Boyfriends

Unrealistic Expectations Girls Have For Their Boyfriends

Boys can't do it all.

Let’s face it, girls tend to expect a lot from their guy. It’s okay to have high standards and wait for someone who really appreciates you, but it’s also important that we remember our boyfriends are only human. Sometimes, what we ask of them can be a little unrealistic. Even if this isn’t always the case, here are a few things we might expect from our boyfriends that can be a little much:

1. He has to pay for everything

At this point in our lives, most of us are trying to find enough money to buy groceries for school let alone fund another person’s social life and material needs. It’s okay to use your own savings for a date or find something inexpensive to do together that still allows you to enjoy each other’s company.

2. He should ditch his friends for you

Just because he cares about you, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to spend some time with his friends. A “guy’s night” can be much needed after dealing with the stresses of a relationship or daily life in general. Allowing for him to get out and do his thing gives you some time to relax or see your own friends.

3. He has to say you are always right

As great as it feels to be told that you were right, it’s simply not possible to ALWAYS be right. I know that I definitely am in the wrong in plenty of arguments. A successful relationship is all about compromise, so try to see his point of view as well. It’s good for a person to occasionally be told they're wrong.

4. He can’t make mistakes

I make mistakes, and if you are a real person, I’m assuming you do too. If we make mistakes ourselves, why can’t our boyfriends? Of course he shouldn’t have forgotten that you wanted him to come with you to your family reunion on Saturday and made other plans, or said he didn’t like your best friend in front of you. Even if he hurt your feelings or really made you mad, forgive him. He didn’t try to offend, and I’m guessing he feels pretty bad about it.

5. He has to put up with anything you do

When you throw a fit about how you have nothing to wear or he has to wait an extra thirty minutes for you to get ready, he might get frustrated or even upset. That’s okay. Just like you don’t always put up with his comments or behavior, he doesn’t have to always stay calm about the situations you put him in. I know I complain plenty, and it’s alright for him to put me back in my place sometimes.

6. He has to do what you want to do

I like to eat where I want to eat and watch the romantic comedy I want to watch. It’s nice to do what you like to do, and it’s also nice to let him have a chance to pick where you two go or what you two watch. You might not want to see the Golden State play Cleveland on a Sunday night, but do it anyway.

7. He can’t have any friends who are girls

We all know the feeling of being jealous. Jealousy is a natural reaction, but we can’t let it get the best of us. If your boyfriend has a few female friends, it’ll be okay if they spend some time together. If you can’t trust him with people of the opposite gender, he’s probably not a good person to be in a relationship with.

All things considered, some things we expect of our boyfriends aren’t unrealistic. He should make you feel safe and treat you with respect. He should do his best to glorify God and help you make decisions that will lift you up and not bring you down. Just as long as he does his best, do your best too and cut him a little slack.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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