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Too Many Viral Articles On Odyssey's Platform Trivialize Unhealthy Or Abusive Relationships, And It Needs To End

The viral reach of behaviors depicting toxic relationships is harmful to those who read about them.

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As someone who regularly creates for and reads content from Odyssey, I've come across a concerning type of content.

The type of content I speak of involves unhealthy dating behaviors masked as normal occurrences in relationships, and I find it concerning how often I see this type of content.

Before I dive in, I want to give a disclaimer on my evaluations of these articles.

I went through 25 hours of training through a nonprofit, domestic violence organization here in my county. It was a comprehensive, multi-week process involving a variety of intersectional training surrounding the systemic factors and consequences of intimate partner violence.

I also went through 5 hours of training on dating violence that is sponsored by a university-funded grant and has a curriculum created by the domestic abuse organization I volunteer my time to.

So while I am by no means the be-all end-all expert, my training and experience co-facilitating workshops mean I feel confident in my competency to speak on dating violence.

So when I come across content that sets of red flags in my mind, my background as an advocate makes me want to speak up.

One component of dating violence is emotional abuse, which is exemplified in the many unhealthy articles I read on this platform on what feels like a weekly basis. A few I've recently come across include the following.

"My Boyfriend Has Another Girlfriend, But I Stay With Him Anyway"

"You May Have Worn The Prom Dress With Him, But I Get To Wear The Wedding Dress"

"Just Because I Check My Boyfriend's Location Every Hour Doesn't Make Me A Psycho Girlfriend"

Articles of this nature occasionally use grabbing headlines for the sake of readership, but then articulate other ideas within the body of the article. In the first article, the other "girlfriend" in question is actually the best friend of a girl's boyfriend, and it is said in the article that they joke about the relationship feeling as if three people exist in it.

The second and third examples, however, remain true to their headlines.

The themes present in these three examples as well as many others I come across include jealousy and isolation, which are both unhealthy (and sometimes abusive) factors in a relationship. While these are not the only unhealthy behaviors I see in articles, they are by far the most common ones.

Within the first article, the content seems quite harmless from a broad analysis. However, there exist a variety of problems describing the girlfriend's behavior toward her boyfriend and his best girlfriend.

Jealous behavior is one of them.

It is described how the girlfriend "throws a fit" or "turns off the computer" when her boyfriend talks with his best female friend for an extended amount of time, and then asks the rhetorical question "who wouldn't?" as an attempt to rationalize her actions.

These actions of hers, however, are not healthy.

These actions are evident of jealous behavior with a lack of communication to articulate and healthily express those feelings of jealousy. Jealousy is a natural human emotion, after all. However, what defines unhealthy versus healthy jealousy is how jealousy is expressed, and in this instance, jealousy is unhealthily expressed.

The attempt to rationalize the jealous behavior by an attempt to confer an agreement of "who wouldn't?" with readers is exceptionally problematic.

Rationalizing unhealthy or abusive behavior is often a way for someone to fix feelings of cognitive dissonance they might have over their behavior.

Rationalizing negative behavior in a public manner conveys to readers that it's okay to do so, which normalizes unhealthy behaviors.

The behaviors in the second article articulate very jealous and possessive dynamics that illustrate the author's sense of insecurity and jealousy over the idea that her fiance had a previous, high school relationship.

The continuous use of "I get" statements to describe aspects of the intimate relationship unique to the author illustrates a pervasive sense of jealousy the author has over the prior girlfriend from the repeated comparison of what she "gets" compared to the old girlfriend.

No relationship should have a partner who views a relationship in transactional ways to try and determine if they've received more in the relationship than the last partner.

The repeated use of "I hate that" language in this article also fosters an unhealthy, unnecessary resentment toward the prior girlfriend, including an accusation from the author that any previous displays of affection from the old girlfriend were only for the sake of popularity and not love.

The teardown of this past ex is not only angry, but it is also destructive. Tearing down another woman and unnecessarily pitting yourself against someone else conveys to female readers that they must "compete" with other women for male attention, which fosters unnecessary expressions of jealousy and abrasiveness between women.

And that's the last thing we as women need. We should be uplifting each other and accepting others, not attempt to sabotage other women in a jealous rage.

Attempting to isolate a significant other from other women over insecure feelings about yourself is both jealous and possessive, and one person does not have the right to separate a partner from or degrade other people in their life.

The third article in my example further illustrates jealous, isolating and possessive behavior. Consistently checking up on a parter's whereabouts as a mode of evaluating their loyalty, trust or to a degree their well-being is not healthy.

The author's invalidation of her boyfriend's concerns regarding her checkup up on him is unhealthy. Even if there exists the claim that the author doesn't care about who her boyfriend is seeing, the lack of consideration for each partner's communication style and comfort is problematic.

In general, people should be free to live their independent lives and go places that their life requires them to go. If a relationship has so little trust or communication in it that one partner attempts to elicit a sense power over the other via stalking their whereabouts, they need to re-evaluate the relationship.

The couples in these articles and many others like them may feel happy and satisfied in their relationships. If they do, that's personal to them.

However, I think it's critical to point out how many of these relationships showcase unhealthy behavior, and that they could often qualify as emotional abuse and potentially cause trauma in the relationships they occur in.

The influence that articles of this nature have in depicting categorically unhealthy behaviors as "normal" can have lasting impacts on readers.

Odyssey is a freelance platform, and I think it's critical to retain the openness and diversity of thought on this platform. However, given the readership of Odyssey as a whole and ability to influence readers, the excessive attention given to toxic ideas about relationships could potentially have negative consequences.

Unhealthy, toxic behaviors present in relationships should not be openly publicized. In the current socio-political climate we live in, the last thing our society needs is to foster a sense of interpersonal apathy between women or normalize unhealthy behaviors within our relationships.

Because what happens if we do?

People suffer. There's a risk of unhealthy and abusive relationships forming, which could have both physical or mental repercussions for those involved.

Further, creating a divide between women due to possessive or jealous feelings about partners risks women putting each other down in a time when women need to support each other the most.

Vouching for unhealthy and abusive behaviors is destructive. And as someone who works to foster positive interpersonal communication and end dating violence on a daily basis, I will not be silent over content that counters the issues I fight against every day.

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100 Instagram Captions You'll Want To Use Right Now

Quotes, lyrics, sayings, and other ideas for Instagram captions!
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When it comes to Instagram we are often thinking about what to use as a caption for our photos that we take that we really want to post on Instagram. Sometimes we post the photo without a caption and sometimes we just use an emoji because we're stumped on finding a good caption to use for the photo. So we go the short route and just put an emoji as a caption for our photo. Well whether it is a selfie, a friend pic, group pic, or just need a caption for the photo, here are 100 captions to use for a photo. Some are lyrics, some are quotes, and some are just a quick caption to use on your photo. Also here are some accounts that are worth following:

-@brandonwoelfel

-@tess_and_sarah

-@brandymelvilleusa

-@goldenretrievers_

-@cats_of_instagram

-@zodiac.signs

-@thegrilledpineapple

-@jazzjennings_

-@chipper_thegolddog

-@llauratheleo

-@heyshalice

-@sailorhaley

-@sandcloudteam

-@photosabss

-@sharkbaitblond

Here are Quotes To Use As A Caption/ Lyrics To Use As A Caption/ Quick Little Sayings To Use As A Caption: for your Instagram photo that you wish to post!

1. Life goes on, with or without you.

2. Don't Worry Be Happy! Bob Marley

3. Be Happy.

4. Be Confident.

5. Be Positive.

6. Don't be a liar, everyone hates a liar.

7. Chillin' with my peeps.

8. Go big or go home.

9. What's the deal?

10. The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it's all that matters.

11. Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.

12. Life is a gift.

13. You couldn't handle me even if I came with instructions.

14. Forgive, yes. Forget, never.

15.There's a hole in my heart where you used to be.

16. I don't need any part-time people in my life.

17. Get the gist.

18. Boy, it's the 21st Century, get with the program.

19. Hey, I just met you, this is crazy!

20. I woke up like this.

21. Keep smiling because life is a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.

22. Beauty is power, a smile is its sword.

23. Last day of class!

24. I donut care!

25. Got my donut and coffee today.

26. Happy as a clam

27. Beach days are the best!

28. A friend will always make you smile, especially when you don't want to…

29. Always classy, never trashy, and a little bit sassy.

30. If only we could turn back time...

31. With you, I forget all my problems. With you, time stands still.

32. Life's a climb, but the view is great.

33. "Ohana, means family, family means no one gets left behind or forgotten." — "Lilo & Stitch"

34. We come to love by not finding the perfect person, but by learning to see the imperfect person perfectly.

35. If I ever write a story about my life, don't be surprised if your name appears a billion times.

36. She's got that red lip, classic thing going on.

37. I don't know what's tighter, our jeans or our friendship!

38. Best friends make good times better and hard times easier!

39. Not sure what I did to deserve you as my best friend :)

40. I don't need your approval to be me.

41. So call me? Maybe?

42. "I am who.I am, I am what I am, I do what I do and I ain't never gonna do it any different. I don't care who likes it and who don't." — Buck Owens

43. Take me as I am, or watch me as I go.

44. "Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars." — Ed Sheeran

45. Cause you're a sky full of stars — Coldplay

46 . I keep dancing on my own — Calum Scott

47. Can't keep my hands to myself — Selena Gomez

48. I just want to look good for you — Selena Gomez

49. Kill em with kindness — Selena Gomez

50. I am not perfect. I make mistakes. But when I say sorry… I mean it!

51. Me? Weird? Please! I am limited edition!

52. Turn that frown upside down.

53. Smile, it's the best thing a girl can wear!

54, Stay true.

55. Laughing is the best medicine you can ever get!

56. "You're the king, baby I'm your queen." — Taylor Swift

57. Best Friends Forever!

58.Throwing it back to the good ole days!

59. Ugg Life.

60. I know you like, first-name-basis.

61. *Sends selfie to NASA cuz I'm a star*

62. Basic white girl.

63. Frisky Friday!

64. My thoughts are stars that I cannot fathom into constellations. — "The Fault In Our Stars"

65. "Maybe our okays will be our infinities." — The Fault In Our Stars

66. So hold onto me because I'm a little unsteady — Unsteady

67. This has got to be the best day of my life.

68. She's the beauty and he's the beast.

69. "All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them." — Walt Disney

70. "If you can dream it, you can do it." — Walt Disney

71. "Hakuna Matata, it means no worries for the rest of your days." — "The Lion King"

72. "The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it." — "The Lion King."

73. "Remember you're the one who can fill the world with sunshine." — "Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs"

74 ."The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all." — "Mulan"

75. "You don't have time to be timid. You must be bold and daring." — "Beauty and the Beast"

76. "All it takes is faith and trust." — "Peter Pan"

77. "A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference." — "Winnie the Pooh"

78. "If you focus on what you left behind, you will never be able to see what lies ahead." — "Ratatouille"

79. "Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself." — George Bernard Shaw

80. "A true hero isn't measured by the size of his strength, but by the strength of his heart." — "Hercules"

81. "Life's not a spectator sport. If watchin' is all you're gonna do, then you're gonna watch your life go by without ya." — "The Hunchback of Notre Dame"

82. "The things that make me different are the things that make me ME." — "Winnie the Pooh"

83. "Giving up is for rookies." — "Hercules"

84. "Happiness is the richest thing we will ever own." — Donald Duck

85. "Change is good." — "The Lion King"

86. "In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years." — Abraham Lincoln

87. "An unexamined life is not worth living." — Socrates

88. "Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky." — Rabindranath Tagore

89. "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." — Helen Keller

90. "The sky broke like an egg into full sunset and the water caught fire." — Pamela Hansford Johnson

91. "Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success." — Swami Sivananda

92. "Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices. Today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity, but embrace it." — Kevyn Aucoin

93. "Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'," — Audrey Hepburn

94. "Keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you." — Walt Whitman

95. "My power's turned on, starting right now I'll be strong." — Rachel Platten

96. "Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared." — Buddha

97. "Let your life lightly dance on the edges of Time like dew on the tip of a leaf." — Rabindranath Tagore

98. "I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'" — Muhammad Ali

99. "Why don't you be you, and I'll be me." — James Bay

100. Life is like a camera, we focus on the positives and develop from the negatives.

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What You'd Miss Out On If Video Games Went 100% Digital

Going 100% digital is not without its disadvantages.

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It's 2019, and we are full on in the digital age.

It is no surprise that shopping is being done online a lot more now than 5-10 years ago. Online shopping does have its perks. However, some consumers still have appreciation and preference for going to an actual store to make some of their purchases. Video games, consoles, and accessories are no exception. Sure when you buy digital games, you limit the number of times you have to get up to change the game you are playing, but that is not a good enough reason to go 100% digital.

So, what would consumers miss out on if video games become 100% digital?

There are several things one would miss out on should the video game industry became 100% digital.

I still see a considerable share of video game collectors for both retro and current generation gaming consoles. They enjoy purchasing special editions of specific titles that comes with extra goodies such as steelbook cases.

The majority of gamers, such as myself, do not have a video game library that is 100% digital or 100% physical. I tend to prefer purchasing physical games, but if a specific title is either digital only or if it is significantly less expensive online, then I will make the digital purchase.

If you were to purchase a game physically and it ends up not meeting your expectations, you will have options as to what to do with the game. You can return it for partial or full value back depending on where you bought it. You can sell it online on websites like eBay or LetGo. You can even regift it to someone if you are feeling generous.

When you purchase a digital game, you are stuck with it. You can delete it from your system's hard drive, but you cannot get your money back for it or give it away to someone else.

Most current generation games have things you can purchase separately such as season passes, costumes, and weapons.

You could link a credit card to your console's account and possibly have another user make a lot of purchases of “just this one thing," resulting in a hefty credit card bill.

If you would rather avoid that happening, you can buy prepaid cards and codes at various retailers so you can either buy that one item you want or buy digital currency to add to your account so your credit card will not get charged until your account has no money or not enough money in it when you try to purchase something.

Some consumers also still enjoy conversing with a real live human being, which you do not get when you do everything online.

So while online game purchases can be more convenient, it is not necessarily always better.

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