5 Unconventional New Year's Resolutions You Should Try In 2018

5 Unconventional New Year's Resolutions You Should Try In 2018

Note to reader: Going to the gym and eating healthier are not included.

Every New Year we seem to convince ourselves that it will be the year, this will be the year that we finally live by those changes we’ve been trying to get ourselves to adopt.

We say, “it’s okay, I’ll start in January” and we build up this enormous expectation that we will indeed start in January. Which, the majority of us probably do, but then that permanent change we were seeking turns into a burden, and then a hobby, and then into another “it’s okay, I’ll start in January.”

In reality, a year is a very long time to hold yourself to do this thing that you so strongly believe will change your new year in some way. I’ve done it with the cliché “go to the gym at least 3 times a week,” or “cut out x, y, and z out of your meal plan.”

Do they work? Nope, I usually quit by March. And I don’t think it’s a question of work ethic or perseverance, but maybe more of just the reality that life hits us at all times of the year. So, today I’ve thought of five unconventional and realistic New Year resolutions that will hopefully help you grow as a person, and stick with you enough that they’ll become permanent routines of your life instead of another “I’ll start in January.”

1. Own your decisions, and be proud of them.

It’s time to start making certain decisions because you want to. Not because of other people who tell you that doing something this way will be best, or that doing something that way will make the most people happy. What about your happiness?

Yes, seeing other people pleased with your actions does feel good. But, you know what also feels good? Having complete and unequivocal control over what will happen next. The hard part is being proud of what you’ve done afterward. It’s not easy seeing people react in a manner you were hoping to avoid, and it will make you question the next time you have that option of choosing between what you want to do and what others think you should do.

It’s something that you’ll have to learn to deal with and accept, and to own and grow from. And if you have friends that keep badgering you because they think you made a decision that was wrong, or mean, or dramatic, or “stupid”, then go ahead and get you some friends that will love you for you and support you and your decisions.

Although, it is important to keep in mind that making your own decisions also comes with the responsibility of owning whatever the resulting consequences may be.

But I’m telling you, as someone who recently learned and accepted that I truly can make my own decisions and be happy with them, there’s nothing that makes you feel more confident going into each day than knowing that you’ll have more control over it than you think.

Why did I say no to doing someone a favor who in reality has never treated me like a decent human being? Because I motherf***ing can.

2. Get rid of the people in your life that make you question who you are every day. Drop 'em. Do it right now.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you should cut every person out of your life that has done you wrong. But, if there is a persistent person in your life that seems to be dragging around this toxic dark cloud over your head and their presence in your life seems to have more cons than pros, then I think it’s time to exert your energy towards other people that actually care about your wellbeing.

I told myself I was going start doing this a year ago and I have done it. But it is sad, and it does sting when you realize that a relationship you had with someone was, in reality, one that was more of a one-way street that was filled with responding to needs and wants and getting no reciprocation in return. It is not a good feeling. It actually overwhelmingly blows.

But, now I can give my energy and attention to the people who actually make me feel good about myself, to the people who actually deserve it, and to the people that I know for a fact will still be in my life after college.

3. Give yourself more credit.

You are more capable than you believe. As the year goes on and the days and the weeks seem to get longer, it gets easier to blame our inability to accomplish something on the fact that we’re tired, or that we don’t think we can do it, or that we’ve already had a long year (it’s March).

But, know and understand that you have more in you than you think. You are that smart. You are that athletic. You are that good of a person. You are that beautiful. So, here’s to a year of owning all of who you are and believing in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will?

4. Start doing the things you've always been too scared to do.

What do you have to lose? Seriously what is the worst that is going to happen? Someone will say no. Someone will laugh. Someone will disagree with what you said or did. Well, I hope I’m not the first person to tell you this, but people saying no, people laughing, people disagreeing with what you do, are things that will happen to you for the rest of your life simply because it is impossible to please everyone.

So you might as well please yourself. In reality, you’re only scared because of the possibility of the unknown. You’re only scared because you don’t know what kind of response you’ll get or what will happen next. But if you don’t do the things you’re too scared to do, then how will you ever know what could have happened? Not knowing what response you’ll get and not knowing what could have happened will have the same consequences.

So, send the stupid text. Ask your professor for help with your grade. Go apply to that job. Yes the worst that can happen may in fact happen, but life will go on. The next minute will pass, the next hour will fade away, and the next day will be a new day.

5. Be kind to everyone.

My life motto. Be kind to everyone. Even to the people that have treated you like the dirt beneath their feet. To the people that you thought of when you were reading New Year Resolution #2. To the people that seem to be out to get you. To the people that you cross on the street that you’ve never seen before. To the people that you’ve never spoken to, but hear strange things about.

One of my idols Roger Federer once said, “It is nice to be important, but it is important to be nice.” I don’t care how important you feel, how much better you feel than the person standing next to you, how much more deserving you feel than everyone else, how much higher you walk with your head, be kind to everyone. You never know what kind of day someone is having.

You never know the type of life someone has been through. I don’t care if you think you know. You simply don’t. So, be kind to everyone, because you never know whose day or life you’ll change just because you decided to share a smile, say “hello”, or ask “how have you been.”

Five unconventional New Year resolutions. They may seem easy or they may seem like you already do them, but after reading this rather lengthy article (sorry, I didn’t realize how passionate I was about new year resolutions), go through your day and apply one or a couple of these resolutions. I promise you will feel outstandingly better on this day than on any other day you had to remind yourself to go to the gym or to cut x, y, and z out of your meal plan.

Welcome 2018 and Happy New Year everyone.

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My New Years Resolutions

Taking 2017 and making 2018 ten times better

New year, new resolutions right? Making a list of New Year's resolutions may seem silly and tedious, but I actually think they're very valuable things to have. It's a great way to get a head start on what you want to say the year was like come December.

This time around, I sat down and really thought about my 2017. What about it was good and I want to continue? What about it do I want to improve in 2018? I truly believe this could be my year and it can be yours too. Here are 18 resolutions I have for 2018. Feel free to take a read and base my personal experiences on what you want to do for your 2018.

1. Travel more

This is probably one of my biggest goals for 2018. If you know me, I am always craving for adventure. From traveling to new countries to wanting to try new places in town, I am always looking to see what the world has to offer. Last year, I had the chance to travel quite a lot and I would love to travel just that much or even more.

When I studied abroad in Italy last summer, it really opened my eyes to the world. I saw so many incredible things and experienced life-changing events. It's only deepened my crave to travel even more and taught me proper travel techniques that I will need if I wish to travel even more. I want to travel to new cities, new states, new countries, new continents, everything.

2. Form more/closer relationships

I can't even begin to describe to you my personality. If you know me you know that I'm incredibly shy, but if you really know me you also know that I'm a huge people person. It's weird. I have many friends and close relationships because of how much of a people person I am.

But I also take longer to form these bonds because of that initial shyness. However, as I've gotten older, I've started to realize that maybe it's not necessarily shyness that gets in the way but rather it's turned into my insecurity that turns me away from forming that close bond faster.

I am always wanting to make more friends and deepen existing ones, but I always convince myself people don't like me as much as others or sometimes at all. This year I want to push those negative thoughts aside and just put myself out there to start forming friends/closer relationships.

3. Stop procrastinating (or at least less procrastinating)

All throughout life I was quite good at not procrastinating. I was always one step ahead. Then college happened. I've never been as involved and busy in my life till college which is what I think triggered the procrastination. I probably don't procrastinate as bad as I think I do, but when I'm so used to this one step ahead idea it makes me think I'm not doing enough. This year I want to learn how to balance not procrastinating and being one step ahead.

4. Respond to people

I have this horrible habit of not automatically reading notifications I get from my phone. I don't have read receipts on and the red numbers that rack up next to apps don't seem to phase me. This year I want to be more on top of it. Feel free to nag me till I respond.

5. Improve my style

All the time I am getting compliments on my style which is very flattering and I appreciate very much. But deep down, some days I actually don't like my style. Sometimes I think its too girly and involves way too many flowers. This year I would like to explore multiple different styles and wear what I feel makes me feel the most confident.

6. Take more photos

If you know me, I love taking photos. I'm always the one suggesting we take photos or you can always catch me taking photos of events. Surprisingly enough, I'm still convinced I don't have enough photos. I want to take more small pictures, capturing the little but important things.

7. Learn more music

Every music majors goal, right? Especially this music major. I just really want to expand my repertoire. For my career but also just for the love of music.

8. Focus on self-love

I'm constantly putting myself down or blaming myself for all the bad parts of life. No more. Sometimes you just need to be your own personal cheerleader.

9. Less focus on weight

Every year the goal is to always lose more weight. Although I want to stay healthy and at least maintain my weight, I'm tired of constantly pushing myself to do whatever it takes to lose weight. Sometimes it's even unhealthy to do so. I want to be confident in the body God gave me and if I'm really falling off the edge then I will push to be better, but for now I just want to appreciate what I have.

10. Attempt to be less overdramatic

If you know me, I'm probably one of the most dramatic people you know. Sorry about that, working on it!

11. Prove my worth

2017 was quite the year for ups and downs. There were times where I shined, but also times where I failed. Everyone makes mistakes. It's going to happen. But no longer am I letting my mistakes define me. I deserve better and I am much better than that. This year I want to prove my worth in multiple areas. Watch out world.

12. Learn how to do makeup better

There are so many people out there that learned how to do makeup from constantly watching YouTube videos and being truly dedicated to mastering makeup from a young age. I've never had that desire till now. I've always liked makeup, but figured I was doing good enough on my own.

I was never really taught how to do makeup. I started doing theatre and just learned from watching the other kids who knew what they were doing. This year I want to learn better techniques and get proper makeup.

13. Worry less about what other people think about me

Resolutions 13 and 14 are pretty much the same but so important. These two are vey big reasons why I am so insecure about myself. This year I just want to be myself and love what I am and have to offer.

14. Stop comparing myself to others

15. Accept defeat

Like I've said, 2017 was full of many ups and downs. I made some mistakes and sometimes you just need to own those mistakes and become a better person from those mistakes.

16. Stand up for myself

Although there are instances where you need to accept defeat, you also need to know when you are being played. I am always seen as the small guy or the nice guy. No more. I'm tired of letting people play with me because they think I'm too soft to do anything about it. This year I am going to stand up for myself more.

17. Do more small things with friends

College just gives us this culture that you should always be doing homework or you should be incredibly involved in clubs or you should always be going to a party on the weekends. But what about little things like getting coffee with friends or going out to a movie? This year I want to do all these things but in moderation.

18. Prepare for the future

It is crazy to think that 2018 is the year that I am going to start my senior year of college. It's so exciting yet terrifying at the same time. I want to focus on preparing for my future and what exactly I want to do after I graduate.

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11 Things You Will Undoubtedly See When It Snows In The South

In the South, we don't do snow.

Snow in the South is an infamous joke, after a season of being tough as nails in football, the snow sort of destroys our pride. There is widespread panic and we are reminded we are not that superior to all the other areas of America. Winter is not a season for the weak, or really for the south. So here are 11 things you will see when it snow's in the south.

1. Bread and Milk? Gone.

You can go to your local Publix, Kroger, or whatever. I promise the shelves are barren.

2. An inch and a foot are essentially the same thing.

All horrible driving conditions, we may not make it out of this alive.

3. Snow has the Power to shut down an entire city.

Nobody move! Nobody Drive!

4. When the Mom's find out school is getting out early.

Gotta get them babies out of school, they might get snowed in.

5. There is widespread panic!

Cabin Fever!!

6. Waiting for School to be closed tomorrow.

It never fails to be a thrilling wait.

7. ICE???

We are often forgetful that something that goes hand & hand with snow is Ice.

8. 30 Degrees & light snow absolutely calls for Eskimo gear.

If you aren't sweating them you aren't really properly snow dressed.

9. No matter the amount, kids are playing in it.

You can absolutely sled in 1/2 an inch of snow & build an entire igloo.

10. The People who don't like snow.

Hot cocoa & the indoors anyone?

11. VS the people who do love snow.

Overall, I hope your snow days are fun and I promise it won't last long. So enjoy them and have no fear, it will melt, the sun is bound to come out eventually.

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