To The Girl Whose Anxiety Is Becoming Unbearable, Please Know You're Not In This Fight Alone

To The Girl Whose Anxiety Is Becoming Unbearable, Please Know You're Not In This Fight Alone

Anxiety is something many people struggle with, but it doesn't have to define them.


As someone who struggles with anxiety myself, I understand how it sometimes feels as if it is running (ruining) my life.

I can not raise my hand in a classroom without analyzing what I am going to say over and over, and then I do not even do it because I fear saying the wrong thing. I can not say hi to someone I recognize when I am out because maybe they do not remember me or even like me. Standing up and talking in front of people is a struggle because it can easily trigger an anxiety attack. Being yelled at sends me into an internal battle and external fidgeting. Anything anybody says to me is rehashed over and over and over in my head.

So to the girl whose anxiety is becoming unbearable, I love you.

Those around you love you, even if they do not quite understand how to help you. Maybe they do not know what to say or understand what it feels like, but those that love you will stick by your side through it all. Your anxiety does not have to define you or run every aspect of your life. It may feel like you can not escape the claws and weight of your anxiety, but it does get better.

After finding people who understand what I am going through, it is easier to live with my anxiety.

Although my mom can not fully understand what I am going through, she is quick to comfort and console me when I am feeling anxious. Surrounding yourself with people who understand or are comforting is really important when you have anxiety. Being left to yourself and feeling anxious is not a good combination.

If you are a friend of someone who has anxiety, don't forget to remind them that you are in their corner and are a shoulder to lean on for them. You may not understand exactly what they are going through or feeling, but your presence alone is comforting and beneficial.

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I Weigh Over 200 Lbs And You Can Catch Me In A Bikini This Summer

There is no magic number that determines who can wear a bikini and who cannot.

It is about February every year when I realize that bikini season is approaching. I know a lot of people who feel this way, too. In pursuit of the perfect "summer body," more meals are prepped and more time is spent in the gym. Obviously, making healthier choices is a good thing! But here is a reminder that you do not have to have a flat stomach and abs to rock a bikini.

Since my first semester of college, I've weighed over 200 pounds. Sometimes way more, sometimes only a few pounds more, but I have not seen a weight starting with the number "1" since the beginning of my freshman year of college.

My weight has fluctuated, my health has fluctuated, and unfortunately, my confidence has fluctuated. But no matter what, I haven't allowed myself to give up wearing the things I want to wear to please the eyes of society. And you shouldn't, either.

I weigh over 200lbs in both of these photos. To me, (and probably to you), one photo looks better than the other one. But what remains the same is, regardless, I still chose to wear the bathing suit that made me feel beautiful, and I'm still smiling in both photos. Nobody has the right to tell you what you can and can't wear because of the way you look.

There is no magic number that equates to health. In the second photo (and the cover photo), I still weigh over 200 lbs. But I hit the gym daily, ate all around healthier and noticed differences not only on the scale but in my mood, my heart health, my skin and so many other areas. You are not unhealthy because you weigh over 200 lbs and you are not healthy because you weigh 125. And, you are not confined to certain clothing items because of it, either.

This summer, after gaining quite a bit of weight back during the second semester of my senior year, I look somewhere between those two photos. I am disappointed in myself, but ultimately still love my body and I'm proud of the motivation I have to get to where I want to be while having the confidence to still love myself where I am.

And if you think just because I look a little chubby that I won't be rocking a bikini this summer, you're out of your mind.

If YOU feel confident, and if YOU feel beautiful, don't mind what anybody else says. Rock that bikini and feel amazing doing it.

Cover Image Credit: Sara Petty

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The Lazy Girl's Guide To The Gym

Also, everything else you should know if you're a slightly out-of-shape girl (like me).


With my freshman year coming to an end, I realized a lot of things. I made new friends, I found new hobbies, and I learned a lot of lessons. One of them being that the "Freshman 15" is very real and very scary.

While my friends and family have attempted multiple times to convince me that I'm just being dramatic (I am), I still want to make a change in my lifestyle or I will, in all seriousness, be on track to the "Sophomore 20".

Here is a list of my best gym and healthy lifestyle tips that I am slowly attempting to live by this summer in order to resurrect Emily's 18-year-old body and health.

1. Increase water intake.

2. Find a gym buddy.

3. Start off with cardio.

4. Don't stop on your cardio until you're dripping in sweat.

5. Chug a LOT of water an hour before the gym.

Do not do it right before, or you will be in pain.

6. Eat light beforehand but just enough to hold you over. 

7. Plan out what your routine will be BEFORE you get there.

My routine: Elliptical for a mile, Stairmaster for 10 minutes, ab HIIT workout for 10 minutes, 5 more minutes on Stairmaster.

8. Buy healthy foods while you're feeling motivated.

9. Find a gym that isn't too far from your house. 

10. Don't get mad at yourself if you don't see results in a day.

I know this is a hard one.

11. Try fitness classes. 

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