Why Not To Take Turning 19 For Granted

5 Reasons Why You Should Not Take Turning 19 For Granted

A legal adult but technically a teenager

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I just turned 19, and being honest, I didn't think much of it; but here are 5 reasons to not take turning 19 for granted.

1. You may legally be an adult, but you're still technically a teen.

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Assuming you were considered an adult when you turn 18, you probably took full advantage of that title. Now that you've worn in the shoes of being an adult for a year, you want to stick your finger in the sugar bowl one last time. Nineteen is still technically a teen, so do what you most enjoyed doing in your younger teen years but with adult privileges and the excuse that: "I'm still a teen". Just be responsible while you make dumb decisions (might be counter-intuitive, but you'll thank me later).

2. You are at the top of the teenage food chain.

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As cliché as it might sound, you can assert your dominance over younger teenagers cause you're older (which totally isn't a fallacy, *cough cough*). You can still relate to you're younger teenager friends, but you can still give them some banter by making sure everyone knows full well that you're the eldest.

p.s. Being the eldest also comes in handy in games that say eldest gets first play.

3. 19 is a lot less suspicious than 18.

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When you tell someone you're 19, it's easier to take your word that when you say 18. Although 18 and 21 grant access to new possibilities, they can also make people doubt you when you say that you're that age. When you say 19 though, it's more believable and not like you're trying to pull off an age that you're not in order to get access to things you shouldn't.

4. Less scary that turning 20.

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In a way, it's nice that nothing really changes from 18 - you're still a teen, you're still a legal adult, and you don't have any extra expectations. When you turn 20 though, you're forced to start thinking about life now that you realize how old you are.

5. Another year, another birthday.

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If somehow you can't resonate with any of the above reasons, just think - you're a year older, so you get another birthday. Since birthdays usually mean gifts and fun, you get to have another day dedicated to celebrating you being alive. Be thankful for how far you've come, what you have, and where you're headed.

Some ideas were stolen from: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/19-sick-age-19

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Working With People Who Are Dying Teaches You So Much About How To Live

Spending time with hospice patients taught me about the art of dying.

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Death is a difficult subject. It is addressed differently across cultures, lifestyles, and religions, and it can be difficult to find the right words to say when in the company of someone who is dying. I have spent a lot of time working with hospice patients, and I bore witness to the varying degrees of memory loss and cognitive decline that accompany aging and disease. The patients I worked with had diverse stories and interests, and although we might have had some trouble understanding each other, we found ways to communicate that transcended any typical conversation.

I especially learned a lot from patients severely affected by dementia.

They spoke in riddles, but their emotions were clearly communicated through their facial expressions and general demeanor, which told a story all on their own. We would connect through smiles and short phrases, yes or no questions, but more often than not, their minds were in another place. Some patients would repeat the details of the same event, over and over, with varying levels of detail each time. Others would revert to a child-like state, wondering about their parents, about school, and about family and friends they hadn't seen in a long time.

I often wondered why their minds chose to wander to a certain event or time period and leave them stranded there before the end of their life. Was an emotionally salient event reinforcing itself in their memories?

Was their subconscious trying to reconnect with people from their past? All I could do was agree and follow their lead because the last thing I wanted to do was break their pleasant memory.

I felt honored to be able to spend time with them, but I couldn't shake the feeling that I was intruding on their final moments, moments that might be better spent with family and loved ones. I didn't know them in their life, so I wondered how they benefited from my presence in their death. However, after learning that several of the patients I visited didn't have anyone to come to see them, I began to cherish every moment spent, whether it was in laughter or in tears. Several of the patients never remembered me. Each week, I was a new person, and each week they had a different variation of the same story that they needed to tell me. In a way, it might have made it easier to start fresh every week rather than to grow attached to a person they would soon leave.

Usually, the stories were light-hearted.

They were reliving a memory or experiencing life again as if it were the first time, but as the end draws nearer, a drastic shift in mood and demeanor is evident. A patient who was once friendly and jolly can quickly become quiet, reflective, and despondent. I've seen patients break down and cry, not because of their current situation, but because they were mourning old ones. These times taught me a lot about how to be just what that person needs towards the end of their life. I didn't need to understand why they were upset or what they wanted to say.

The somber tone and tired eyes let me know that what they had to say was important and worth hearing. What mattered most is that someone who cared was there to hear it.

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4 Things I Wish High School Me Knew

Every day has a purpose.

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People don't give high school enough credit for having the ability to shape your life. It can build you or it can break you and often times there is no in between. As I enter into my senior year of college I have reflected a lot on my college career and how it really has been the best years of my life up to this point, but I know that without a doubt my life would have been so different in I would have known these things as a high schooler.

1. Your life is valuable

But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. - Ephesians 2:4-7

2. You aren't defined by your singleness. 

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. - Song of Solomon 2:7

4. You aren't going to fit in

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. - Romans 12:2

4. Your clothes aren't going to fit forever, don't spend all of your money on them 

Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions." - Luke 12:15

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