I'm Bisexual And The Tumblr Gay Community Is An Embarrassment

I'm Bisexual And The Tumblr Gay Community Is An Embarrassment

Remember when "tomboy" was a thing? I do, too.

It is a platform popular among millennials and the generation thereafter. It is notorious (or rather infamous) for being politically correct, and the cringe factor of the internet. At first, I did not see Tumblr as something to be ashamed about. I contributed to the “facebook users can not know about my tumblr” punch lines, and it the websites mindset in which helped me to come to terms with my sexuality just five years ago.

I have an account myself which I use frequently, but it is for writing, and so it strays away from political and queer rights activism. Unfortunately, on my personal tumblr account, no matter how many uses I unfollow, I always find myself in the midst of political correctness and complaints being filed by your local gay, trans- nonbinary lesbian about issues with the newest episode of The Walking Dead and just why the writers are homophobic a**holes who can not accept love. It is safe to say, I wince.

When thinking back to the vivid images of the seventies and eighties, while of course there were social discrepancies, there was an abundant freedom of color on both men and women. There were figures and visionaries like David Bowie, Harvey Milk, and Prince who were openly advocating for gay rights, freedom of expression, or simply were themselves. Glitter was abundant in the streets and vibrant colors fit all sorts of people. There were Writers before the time such as Patricia Highsmith and Oscar Wilde who wrote of gay romance in their novels.

Looking at today, however, there has been a change in society. Good changes, of course, as gay marriage was only just legalized in 2015. More LGBT characters have been introduced on television (Orange is the New Black and How to Get Away with Murder were among the most talked about), and award winning movies like The Imitation Game and Carol hit the big screens with a warm welcome by the academy.

All of this is sound, as it is a good thing that there are so many characters that kids and young teenagers can look to as they are going through the questioning period. The fact that there is an abundance of gay characters on television is not the issue with modern day. The problem is, Tumblr’s gay community is impossible to please.

The Tumblr gay community is shaded with all walks of life, but among the most impossible to please is the social justice warrior (SJW) community. Let’s start with an example. There is nothing wrong with finding the fact that more transgender actors need the spotlight, but there is a problem with the logic they use when it comes to their so called “social justice”. I remember when Dallas Buyers Club was first released, and Jared Leto was a shoe inf or an oscar for best supporting actor. Instead of thinking of the highlights- he’s nominated for acting as a trans woman in the eighties with aids, which takes phenomenal skill and he did it phenomenally well, he was met with none other than senseless hate. The problem with this is, the community does not think about the benefits to this Oscar win.

The movie was made about a story that no one knew of up until the movie had come out. Had the film been introduced with no-named actors (because, let’s face it, unless Rayon’s actress was Laverne Cox, who does not fit the role what so ever, no one would know her) , it is very much likely the film would not get the attention it deserves. Jared Leto, a very skilled actor, took on this role to tell a story and open doors for discussions on transgender health, and for that he is met with grief. The tumblr social justice community, which overlaps heavily with the gay community, can come off as ungrateful for the fact that their story is shown. This only happens with trans rights, however. It is not an issue when Benedict Cumberbatch played Alan Turing in The Imitation Game, or when Rooney Mara and Cate Blanchett played a lesbian couple in Carol, despite the fact that none of these three are gay or bisexual themselves.

The tumblr community also holds itself to a heavy amount of victimhood. While I do not speak for the entire community, and I no doubt have had it much easier than others, it is impossible to believe that everyone on tumblr has had someone purposely be homophobic or transphobic at family get togethers (as the on going gag goes). The gay community has because so intolerant so as to say the fact someone may not agree with gay marriage, but is no such threat to you, is just as bad as a family that would throw their child out on the street. It is in their mind that if someone has different views of theirs on gay marriage, they are an immediate threat, however that is just not the case. One of my greatest friends is a conservative, and although I identify as moderate politically as of now, when I was heavily liberal back in the day, he still had no problem with my sexuality. It’s not hard to overcome differences if those differences are not a threat. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is safety, and it is better to be acquainted with disapproval rather than violence, so be grateful.

Above all annoyances and issues I take with then tumblr lgbt community, however, is the craze there is with new identities every few hours. Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (and, for the sake of a generalization, we will add queer to the end of it) are the four sexualities and genders. This is the embarrassment to end all embarrassments.

In the past few years, there has been so many new labels on the “spectrum” of gender that it is laughable. Transtrenders is a term coined by the anti-sjw community in which refers to those users that claim to be trans, however do not suffer from dysphoria. To see these users claim themselves as trans while not feeling any discomfort with their body is offensive to actual trans people. See Matthew C. or Blaire White on YouTube for good examples of this.

These transtrenders use terms such as nonbinary, agender, genderflux, genderqueer, demiboy, and demi girl to label their gender identity, but all mean the same thing. The basis for all of the genders is solely the fact that they may like feminine things or may like masculine things, and do not conform to gender roles, but that begs the question- in a community that claims gender roles are social construct, why do they feel the need to claim a gender based solely off gender roles to begin with? It’s laughable, and to the fact they even go as far as putting five or six labels into their about section is even worse if only considering the fact they claim they are more than their sexuality or identity, yet they choose to force it repeatedly down their throat.

And for those that do claim to change gender (genderqueer, genderflux) on a case by case or day by day basis, god forbid you get their pronouns wrong even when their pronouns begin with an x or a z. Be careful of this, as it may trigger them- much like the way “transvestite” triggered the community when referencing the Rocky Horror Picture Show, despite the song and play entirely being written by a trans person entirely.

With that said, it is not entirely impossible to meet someone kind and respectful who adheres by “they” pronouns, and to that I can give a little of my dignity to respect them in return.The truth is, while it is nice to be openly accepted in a community of people who vaguely resemble you, I have come to accept in the past four years that being gay does not define who I am, and the only reason I thought so was because of millennial activists on a blogging and platform. Since I have matured, (albeit not by much, but enough) I have come to agree with the assumption that most people who use tumblr and identify as some means of the lgbt umbrella are cancerous.
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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.

The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:

“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:


When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:

"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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12 Ways To Save Money During The Summer When All You Want Is To Spend It

Saving is important year round, but it's most important in the summer


Over the summer, everyone normally has more free time than during the year, and that means more time to spend more money. Saving money over the summer is important, not only so you can be prepared to pay for things in the future, but also so you can enjoy your summer and no be stressed about how much money you've spent. Saving money is something that should happen year round, but it's especially important to do in the summer.

1. Create a budget

Starting the summer off on the right foot is super important to stay on track throughout the rest of the summer. A budget is something that you should have year round, but it's important to adjust it for your summer plans.

2. And stick to it

Not only do you have to make a budget, but you have to stick to it. If you don't follow your budget, you're wasting time and money, and it's hard to keep on top of finances.

3. Take advantage of student discounts

During the summer, college students find themselves with a lot more free time than in the school year. When you're planning what to do with your extra time, make sure to look if the place offers student discounts or not. Why pay full price when you don't have to?

4. Don't always go out to eat

College students tend to spend time with their friends going out for food or for drinks, and that adds up fast. If you have friends over to cook dinner, it can be healthier and cheaper to do.

5. Sublet

If you have an apartment you're not going to be staying in, or need to stay in Columbus, it's beneficial both ways to sublet. Neither way do you have to pay full price on an apartment, and any discount, no matter how small, saves you money

6. Take day trips

Obviously, no one wants to stay in one place the whole summer, but travel is super expensive. By going on day trips you get to see more of the state or city, but you don't have to pay for lodging overnight. It's a good way to get out without eating into your budget.

7. Walk around

Columbus has great parks and trails that not enough people think about using when they're planning what they want to do. If you walk around outside, you can spend as much time you want there and you don't have to pay anything.

8. Split costs with friend

Do both of you need a Hulu and a Netflix account? Why not share the costs and the passwords with each other, so that you both can save some extra cash in the future. This doesn't just have to be with streaming services, but it can apply to food and parking costs as well.

9. Don't impulsively buy big items

Maybe you've worked a ton recently to start saving for summer, or you have graduation money flowing in. You feel like it doesn't matter how much you spend, but it does. If you hold off on those purchases, and you save your money, you'll be in a better spot financially at the end of the summer.

10. Get a job

The obvious one. If you're doing an unpaid internship or your normal job isn't offering you many hours, then getting a second job where you can work to have a little more money can help you achieve your savings goal.

11. Don't be too hard on yourself

The hardest part of setting goals is when you don't achieve them. Even if you haven't saved exactly as much as you wanted, making even a small change can help your financial wellbeing and can be enough to make small changes in the future.

12. Don't force yourself to make big changes

Everyone's saving tips to Millennials are to stop getting coffee every single day from places like Starbucks. While cutting down on spending in these ways will greatly help you save money, it's not the only thing that will help. There's no reason to make yourself miserable in order to follow the rules of someone else for a small change financially.

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