Everyone you know has lost someone. And when you lose someone, the people around you are full of advice to try to make you feel even a little bit better. I'm not one of those people. I'm going to tell you the truth that no one else wants to be responsible for telling you.

When you lose someone, it hurts. It feels like someone has taken a hot fire poker and rammed it straight through you. When you find out, it will take your breath away. You won't be able to speak. You won't be able to breathe. You won't even be able to think. You'll go through the motions of the visitation. You'll go to the funeral. You'll probably cry, even though you may still be numb. If you're lucky, you'll have people around you to support you and make sure you keep breathing, but even then, it will be the most you can do to continue to breathe. At some point over those few days or weeks, you'll hear the advice everyone gets. "Time heals all wounds."

Sure, there will be days when you don't think about the person, but it's no different than the days they were here. You'll be going on about your day, go to work or school, come home and relax, and do all of the things that you have to accomplish during your day. You'll have forgotten just for a little while.

Then, something will happen, you will be reminded of them, and everything will come back. You'll see something they'd like and want to tell them. You'll pass a billboard for their favorite milkshake. You'll see a commercial for their favorite singer's new album. You'll hear a song on the radio that reminds you of them. You'll go to scroll through your contacts and see their phone number. And just like that, the hole will open back up.

It'll be just like the pain that you felt when you first found out they were gone. And on top of that, you'll feel guilt. You'll feel guilty that there was even a moment that you forgot about them. You'll feel like a terrible person and guess what. There's nothing you can do about it.

See, people will tell you that time heals all wounds. And sometimes it does for a little while. But the wound will never be fully healed. You will never be able to completely forget about them. You just won't. And yes, that sucks sometimes. But other times, you will be happy to remember the times that you had with that person. One day, the hurt will lessen just a bit, but it will never completely leave you. And that is the truth that no one else will tell you.