Many people live their day-to-day lives wishing they were able to reach out to people. They hope to seek support but lack the ability to fulfill their need because of fear. Every person has had their heart wounded because of another person. Whether it was intentional or by accident, it still leaves a cut that takes a long time to sew and heal. Even after the wound is healed, it leaves a scar that will never fully disappear. This is why a lot of people have a fear of trusting others. The scar reminds them of the pain they had once felt. I myself sometimes lack the ability to trust others.

Gaining the confidence to have hope in another person does not happen over a cup of coffee. It takes time, energy, and a lot of communication from both of the people willing to build a form of friendship. It is important to discuss the trials that have held back the person’s power to believe in others. Talking through the pain helps the individual to feel more comfortable and compatible with the friend who wants to become a part of one's life. Compatibility is key!

Though opening up to another person is beneficial, be sure to know the proper times to do so. It is probably not in someone's best interest to blurt a tragic life event out of nowhere. Instead, it should be built up through conversation and opportunity. The first few areas of conversing can consist of getting to know one another. It is essential to know the foundations of a person's interests before entering personal conversations. This ensures that both of you have a good idea of how hard and thick each other's soil is before breaking the ground with a shovel and digging deeper.

After someone achieves the actions of breaking the ground, it is time to replace the atrocious dirt with fresh clean soil. This means being able to discuss future trials and tribulations without feeling any kind of judgment, anxiety, or fear from the other person. This is a more difficult step that is achieved through support and learning that the person who is trying to acquire more trust is actually trustworthy.

Finally, once full trust is established, it is necessary to also contribute to the relationship. A person does not want to be treated like someone else’s pacifier to be sucked on until they feel better. They hope to have the same amount of support and comfort as they gave out to the other person. It takes two people to build such a strong amount of trust. But, in the end, it is the most powerful and rewarding support any person can have in their lives.