When I walk out to my car alone, I hold my keys between my fingers. I have a flashlight attached to my keychain that I use to check under and around my car before getting in.

I have been checking my backseat before driving off since I began driving at 16.

When my friends go on Tinder dates, they send a screenshot of the profile, the location they're supposed to be going and their license plate number if they have it. They turn on their iPhone location.

I have received pepper spray and a keychain alarm as Christmas or birthday gifts.

I have attended multiple self-defense classes.

I have been taught since I was in middle school not to walk anywhere alone. I have been taught since I began driving to make sure my friend gets inside their house or car before driving away.

I'm on high alert the entire time I'm out at a bar, being sure to never leave my drink alone, or even out of my sight while I'm holding it. I have grown used to being touched and grabbed at the bars, and have grown weary of talking back.

I have been catcalled and beeped at while walking down the street.

I was walking without a friend, but in a group of people, and had someone's hand grabbed around my waist. I ran.

I am aware of my surroundings constantly. I don't walk with my headphones in. I check behind me every couple of seconds when I go on walks. If someone has shown up at the same bar as me a couple times in a row, red flags are immediately waving.

Kindly saying, "I have a boyfriend" has been one of the only effective ways to get someone to stop drunkenly slurring in your face. Sometimes that doesn't even do it. Saying "no" can turn deadly.

At work, we have a "buddy-system" enforced whenever we work past dark where nobody is allowed to walk out to their car alone.

I've been taught not to go home if I feel like I'm being followed. I've been taught to tell an Uber or Lyft driver that my destination is "my boyfriend's house" instead of mine if they ask.

A man once moved out of his assigned seat in a class to sit by me. When he saw a photo of my boyfriend and me, he moved seats and blocked me on social media.

I lock my door even if I'm just running outside to grab another bag of groceries.

Once, I was at the grocery store and my boyfriend and I were asked by a girl if we could escort her to her car because a man had been following her around the store. We did, but I was wary the whole time that this was a ruse to get us to her car where someone would be waiting.

I weigh the pros and cons of wearing a low cut top whenever I go out. (Pro: I want to wear it. Con: Unwanted male attention at best.)

I've had "code words" with friends or family to let them know if something has gotten out of hand.

I live knowing that 1/6 American women will be the victim of attempted or completed rape at some point in her lifetime.

Women are scared. We are scared to walk to our cars or go on jogs or open our damn first-floor window. We have been taught to be scared and taught certain precautions since we hit puberty.

Out of 1,000 sexual assaults, only 310 will be reported. Only 57 will be arrested. Only six will see jail time. (A really rehabilitating three-month stint, huh, Brock Turner?)

So even if your 2% chance of a false accusation falls into those 310 reported assaults, you still only have a .02% chance of seeing jail time.

And your reputation won't be ruined. You could become the president! Or a justice! Or an extremely high-paid actor!

If you're a man and you're afraid to speak to or date women because you could be falsely accused of sexual assault, MAYBE you're doing something wrong.

And if you've been hearing about the #MeToo movement for over a year and have heard women bravely coming forward and the first time you've given the movement attention in any way is when you think YOU'RE at risk, MAYBE you can go ahead and just say you don't care about women.

If you're a man who's never sexually assaulted anyone and you're scared right now, shut your wannabe-victim-ass up.

And if you're a man who has sexually assaulted someone and you're scared right now. Good. You should be.