Life is hard sometimes for everybody, whether you show it or not.
My good friend texted me last night saying she was in a slump, and the inner inspirational speaker hiding inside of me was like, "what up it's my time to shine" and continued to spew amazing life advice.
I looked over this text conversation and thought, "Shit, why can I give others advice, but when it comes to myself I never know what to do?"
So I continued on to just read my own texts back to myself, only this time I read it as if it were someone else giving me advice (cause let's be honest, no one wants to listen to their own head.)
And when I tried to take my own advice, this is what I got from it:
1. Every single thing you ever do,
is meant to be exactly the way that it is.
Not a single detail of your life happens as an accident.
Everything that has ever occurred, only occurred because it was meant to happen exactly the way and in the time that it did.
From things as small as accidentally losing your keys, to huge things like choosing a college or a major - each decision leads you to the next moment, which leads into the next.
And each moment put together is leading to exactly the place we need to be, the person we need to meet, or the person we need to be becoming ourselves.
I remember I took a road trip to Kansas one weekend and, with nothing but time to think, I started to become philosophical as I stared at the empty road, and here's what my mind came up with:
Life is like when you drive on the freeway in the dark. You can only see as far as your headlights will reach, and for all you know, the road may end right before you....
But it doesn't.
And it never does.
It may take some turns, curve, or fork, but it is always there in front of you, leading you exactly to where you need to go. You just simply trust that the farther you go, the more of the road your headlights will light up.
That is to say, you are being present.
2. there is no wrong way to make decisions about your own life
You only have one life and you have to do what feels right inside. Unfortunately, a lot of the times people are down on themselves because they are doing things for others. Quit that people-pleaser mentality!
Every difficult thing in your life is happening with reason - if things are going wrong, it may be happening to give you a push in the opposite direction.
Or maybe it is happening to give you experience, so you will be able to have the wisdom to handle similar problems down the road.
All in all, you just have to do what feels good to you and trust your instincts.
3. start a new adventure
If you hate where you are in life, or the person you're becoming, it is no problem. Drop what you're doing and switch up your routine! Take a class in a different major, join a club you've always been iffy about, break up with your boyfriend.
You can start with smaller things, like changing your hair or getting your nails done to give you a push. (Not only do you feel better after, but you're also basically paying them to listen to you talk about whatever the hell you want to.)
Take these difficulties you're experiencing as a sign and start a new adventure somewhere else or with someone else. Better yet, start a new adventure with the one person who will always be there for you – YOURSELF!
There are so many directions your life could go, endless possibilities to experience, you just have to be open to it, give the universe your positive energy, and it will return that positivity back to you.
It takes time.
But when you least expect it, the rain will turn to a sprinkle, the clouds will part, and the sun will shine.
You will dry off and forget it ever rained in the first place.