I entered college having little to no experience with men. No one really noticed me in high school, and if they did, I was too oblivious to understand that they were flirting. I had no brothers, and my dad told me to stay away from boys. I listened to him until college. I was too shy to make friends with people easily, so I spent my freshman year of college hanging out with a group of boys due to sheer luck.
I had no close female friends, and it wasn't on purpose. Since my friends were guys who were friends with guys, I attracted more and more guy friends. They were the friendliest to me, and just so happened to be the ones who went out of their way to ask me to hang out with them. I was too naive to understand that it was probably because they were trying to get with me, but that was a lesson for another day.
These men which surrounded me, I later realized, did not treat me like a friend. They treated me like a girl they were friends with. I'm not even going to say that I was one of the guys because I really wasn't. I don't drink or smoke and I don't like watching sports. I had to listen to too many sexist jokes and being the token female started to drain me. I started to feel my IQ drop with the lack of intellectual conversations occurring. Some of my friends began to have feelings for me, and I was subject to several messy situations. I never was interested in my male friends for anything besides friendship. Due to a chain of bad experiences, I stopped trusting men with the privilege of close friendship. I have since befriended females, and I have never gone back.
Being friends with guys was nice for a short time, especially when I had never experienced male attention before. Now, I am exhausted. I never thought that I, the girl no one asked out in high school, would be swatting guys away in college. There is no shortage of thirsty boys, especially with Instagram and the ease of the DM. Boys have caused me a lot of drama in my life -- but you know who has survived the test of time? My girls.
Making close female friends required substantially more effort than making male friends, but the payoff was worth it. My girls have been my support, and not one of them has hoped to get in my pants. Not all boys and girls are the same, but in my personal experience, I have found my relationships with females to be substantially more fulfilling.