Only a couple of weeks ago, I had to cut off one of my closest friends because she was so toxic. She was always negative, made me feel like I wasn't enough or equal to her, and went out of her way to outshine everyone else in the room. Cutting her out of my life was one of the best decisions I've made.
They’re negative about every single thing you do or talk about.
If you're talking to this person and saying how proud you are of something (especially yourself) or anything in a positive manner, and they knock every thing you say down, they're toxic. People who are always negative like seeing other people in a negative funk or seeing how they react to negative things. That's a toxic personality.
They always make their life seems so much worse or so much better than yours.
If you're talking about how bad your day is going, how much you miss someone, etc. and they go on to say, "well at least you're day isn't as bad as mine" or anything that's comparing you to them, that's toxic. Eventually, it will get to the point where you just don't want to talk to them about anything. It will also start to feel like they don't even listen to you. It'll come across like they want everyone to listen to them but they never want to listen to anyone else.
They never apologize or defend everything they do.
In my case, I confronted my toxic "friend" and told her what was going on in my head about her. She shrugged off everything I said. She said, "well that's just my personality. I can't do anything about my personality." Toxic people will never own up to anything they do. They'll blame all of their issues on other people and never take responsibility for anything.
They talk about you behind your back.
This "friend" will either say negative things about you behind your back or they'll tell confidential things you've said to them behind your back. Either way, that's not what a friend does. If you tell someone something because you think you can trust them, and they go behind your back and tell everyone they know what you said, that's super toxic and it's fake. Not to mention, if they're going behind your back and saying bad things about you or calling you names, that's just as bad.
They never make an effort with you.
They never are the ones to ask you to hang out. They never make it a point to you to let you know that they want to spend time with you or even like spending time with you.
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