Why am I the only one constantly going out of my way to make plans?
I come home from school for winter vacation, and no one reaches out to get together but me! But I know, that if I don’t reach out I will never see my friends. And what's better, sucking it up and reaching out a few too many times, or not getting to see my friends? So obviously I shoot a text, “when is everyone free”, and I get a response! And then another! “Tomorrow.” “Tomorrow."
Awesome! I now plan my day around that but little do I know my friends don’t have this invention called a calendar. One doesn’t know she has a family dinner and the other forgot about her nail appointment. So f*ck me right? This is by far one of the worst feelings in the world. For those you who may have one or two of these friends I really hope you understand my pain.
It's the worst feeling when you are the one going out of your way for your friends, and then you are the one who gets screwed over. Then it's one thing if it happened once or twice, but when you begin to expect a cancelation, that's when you know your friend can no longer be trusted with plans.
So for those of you who have a friend like this, my advice would be give what you get. If they are too busy or too lazy to make plans with you, then you are as well. And I know this feeling sucks, it really does because you're just trying to do the right thing and get everyone together, but you cannot keep making an effort just to have your plans get all messed up. Make plans with the people who care equally as much as you. Make plans with the people who ask you to hang out. Make plans with the people who are reliable and you know won't cancel on you.
And then wait.. and your friends will start reaching out.