To Those Hitting Rock Bottom

To Those Hitting Rock Bottom

Life is not always easy, but it sure is beautiful.
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To the people who feel as though they have hit rock bottom; I understand. Sometimes it seems like we can't fall any deeper, and then something worse happens and life surprises us with another smack in the face.

I am here to tell you that it is okay and everything will get better.

Everyone is fighting their own battles and dealing with their own struggles. Whether it be financial issues, academics, work, family, friends, relationships, no life is perfect. If somebody seems perfect, there is no doubt that they are hiding the imperfections and there is nothing wrong with that.

Personally, I am not one of those that can easily hide my struggles; I let it affect everything, whether I mean for it to happen or not. I like to think I am strong; I know I am strong, but, it is okay to be weak.

It's okay to cry and it's okay to feel broken down.

Just remember to stand back up, keep fighting, and move forward. Keep your chin up and do not let your crown fall. Life is not always amazing. Life is not always happy and light. But, that's life, there's no better way to explain it. It's an uphill battle, but then you can enjoy the ride for awhile before the next battle.

Life is constant improvement and learning. Life is about making mistakes and learning from them.

Once you hit rock bottom, you can only move up. Think of the positives; you're still alive, you're breathing, the sun is up in the sky, the grass is always growing. Listen to some music, take a bath, light a candle, and just relax. Take some time to yourself to put everything into perspective. It's possible that anything that is going wrong can be fixed or at least alleviated. Is school difficult? Take advantage of some quiet time at the library or visit your professor in office hours. Troubles with friends or relationships? Talk it out, sit down, and listen.

I know it is going to sound cliche, but everyone is fighting a battle, you may just not see it. Reach out to friends and vent to them, go to church if you're religious, look for ways to leave the stress in your life for a bit, then go back when you're ready.

Life is not always going to be easy. It is not always going to be pretty and happy. There are going to be struggles, but those struggles make us who we are. They shape us into the strong and motivated individuals we are. They guide us forward. Life is not always easy, but it sure is beautiful.

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I Woke up In The Middle Of The Night To Write About My Fears, They're Worse Than The Dark

One minute I'm thinking about what I want to do after college next thing I know I'm remembering the time I tried talking to a boy and choked on my spit.

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It is one of those nights when I am tired, but for some reason, I can't seem to fall asleep. So, what do I do? I pull out my laptop, and I begin to write. Who knows where it will lead. It could lead to a killer article or something that does not make sense. I mean it is almost 2 A.M. In my mind, that's pretty late.

Anyways, let's do this thing.

Like many people, thoughts seem to pile up in my head at this time. It could be anything from a time when I was younger to embarrassing stories to wondering why I am "wasting" my time somewhere to thoughts about the future. All of these things come at me like a wildfire. One minute I'm thinking about what I want to do after college next thing I know I'm remembering the time I tried talking to a boy and choked on my spit.

The thought that is going through my mind as I write this is about the future. It's about the future of my fears. Let me explain. I have multiple fears. Some of my fears I can hide pretty well, others I am terrible at hiding. My fears may seem silly to some. While others might have the same fears. Shall we start?

1. My career

I don't know where to begin with this one. For as long as I can remember, my consistent dream job has been working in the world of sports, specifically hockey. A career in sports can be and is a challenging thing. The public eye is on you constantly. A poor trade choice? Fans are angry. Your team sucks? "Fans" are threatening to cheer for someone else if you can't get your sh*t together. You can be blamed for anything and everything. Whether you are the coach, general manager, owner, it does not matter. That's terrifying to me, but for some reason, I want to work for a team.

2. My family

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Failing with my family, whether that be the family I was born into or my future family, it terrifies me. I have watched families around me fall apart and I have seen how it has affected them. Relationships have fallen apart because of it. I have heard people talk about how much they hate one of their parents because of what happened. I don't want that.

3. Time

This could be a dumb fear. I'm not sure, but I fear time. With every minute that passes, I am just another minute closer to the end. With every day that passes that I am not accomplishing goals or dreams I have, I am losing precious time. It scares me to think of something horrible like "What if I die tomorrow because of something horrific?" or even worse, "What if I don't make it through today?" It's terrible, I know.

4. Forgetting precious memories

When I was younger, I had brain surgery. It is now much harder for me to remember things. I am truly terrified that I am going to forget things I will want to hold close to me forever, but I won't be able to. I am scared I'll forget about the little things that mean a lot. I'm afraid of forgetting about old memories that may disappear. I'm worried that I'll forget about something like my wedding day. That might seem out of this world, but it's a reality for me.

5. Saying "goodbye"

I hate saying bye. It is one of my least favorite things. Saying bye, especially to people I don't know when I'll see again, is a stab in the heart for me. I love my people so much. I love being around them. I love laughing with them. Thought of never having a hello with them again scares me beyond belief.

6. Leaving places that I love

Alright, let me start off by saying this- it takes a lot for me to love a place. It has to feel like home. It has to make me feel comfortable. It has to be a place I can go to and be myself. Thankfully, I have had and still have multiple places that are like that. I have also had places I could not wait to leave. I think that's why leaving places I love is so hard and something I fear so much. I am afraid I'll never get that place "back", for lack of a better term. I guess, I'm trying to say, it's like a piece of me is leaving as well.




These six things are just the start of my fears. Some of these might seem "dumb" or "ridiculous" to you, but for me, it's my life. These are the things that I think about the most. These are the things that feel like a pit in my stomach. These six things are parts of my life that mean a lot to me.

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What it Means to be An Introvert or an Extrovert

It's probably not what you think it is.

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I've heard the phrase, "she's very introverted," as a classification of being shy, and "he's so extroverted" as one that is outgoing and social.

One of my very favorite things to talk about is personality traits, and how these traits impact our relationships. I've realized that one of the most important ones is how we rejuvenate- alone or around people. As you can probably guess, introverts require alone time in order to feel energized again, especially after being around people. On the other hand, extroverts are fueled by human interaction, and they hardly become tired after being around a lot of people.

I've said it before, I'll say it again: my mom is the saving grace of our household. Out of our family of 6, half are introverts and half are extroverts. Because my mom was able to recognize which of us were extroverts when we were really little, she spent a lot of time with us, explaining that we need a lot of interaction to feel energized. This caused a few issues when she explained that the other half of the family needed a lot of alone time for their sanity. Of course, me being the sensitive extrovert, I took that personally when I was 6. Over the years, she's reiterated that it has nothing to do with me, it's just in their personality to need that solitude, and that allowing them to be alone without guilting them will lead to a better relationship.

Ding, ding, ding. Mom's right again.

Understanding this about the people I love has allowed me to recognize the signs that an introvert needs a little time to themselves, and pulling back when that time comes. It helped me realize that most problems in relationships really are just a matter of understanding what the other person needs (including the love languages, which you can read about here.)

Reflect on your relationships this week, and consider how this trait influences you. Here's a link to a great personality test so that you can better determine your traits!

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