Sweet, sweet rejection. I feel like it’s something we tend to ignore and not talk about because who wants to let the world or anyone for that matter know they’ve been rejected? Not me. But rejection hurts and often times makes us question where we lack, what’s wrong with us, what should we change.

Along with being rejected, we sometimes never get our one major question answered: WHY?

Why didn’t you choose me? Why didn’t you want me?

Does this make us crazy? To wonder. To want to know. To want closure, even though it doesn’t feel much like closure at all.

What I’ve learned about rejection is— it’s okay and completely necessary. You can be a beautiful soul, with a loving heart and a kind spirit, but you will never be right or enough for the wrong person. There’s a lot going on for other people that we aren’t aware of; you never really know what’s going on for someone else, even if you are close with them and feel like you really know the person they are. Sometimes, their rejection towards you really has nothing to do with you at all…. wrong place, wrong time, past circumstances, fear. My list could go on, but it’s not on you to convince someone to choose you. The right one will do everything in their power not to lose you.

Rejection stings, but it’s just God closing the door on a chapter, a person, a dead-end. It’s a blessing disguised by heartbreak. Reality hits when we are rejected because we start to wonder why we weren’t good enough or what the hell we could have done differently, but instead of letting your hurt and anger fester and come to the surface so heavily, be grateful. Be grateful they didn’t lead you on any longer, that you are finally free and have let go of the fantasy you were creating in your head. You have confirmation now and the rejection gave that to you.

You are beautiful, strong, and unique and some hopeless guy’s rejection and lack of love towards you does not change that. God wants you to be with someone who appreciates you and adores the beautiful mess of a creation you are.