Times change and people change. People grow up and see things from new perspectives. I for one am no different. Over the years, as I've grown up my views and how I see some people have changed quite a bit.

The people I thought were so cool and fun to be around really are just balls of negative energy to me now. I can look back on when I thought they were these amazing people and now I can see it was all an act.

To the woman who I once looked up to, you aren't who I thought you were. I thought you were this hard working woman who loved her job. I thought you were the mom who would do anything to make her children happy. I thought you were the mom who would do anything to make sure they get everything they hoped and dreamed of.

I thought you were the type of person who would never give into such childish behaviors. I used to see you as this very mature woman and now I see you as a child....but I guess you always were and I was too blind to see it. I thought you were the type of person who was opened minded and nonjudgmental, but I was wrong.

You aren't a hard working person who loves their job, you come home every day after work and complain about your job and make fun of the students there. You aren't the mom who would do anything to make her kids happy, I've seen you scream at them for things out of their control. Just as an example, child support. I've seen you blame and put your problems, stress, and bills on your children's shoulders.

Why?

Oh, so you could go out and buy a new Micheal Kors bag. You aren't the mom who does everything to ensure your children's future and their dreams, I've watched you time and time again give up after the first small bump in the road. I thought you were very mature, open-minded and nonjudgmental, but come to find out you're just as childish as a high school freshman.

I don't even know how many times I've heard you trash talk your ex-husband and call him a ton of names, in front of your kids who are trying to have a relationship with him.

You let your children get into fights and threaten other people and you say that it's okay. You let your kids get into car accidents on purpose and you say it's okay just because you don't like the other person.

Things like that are crazy to me. I as mom wouldn't want to put children in harm's way because I'm okay with it. Do you hear how ridiculous that sounds?

I don't want to be the person that goes out of their way to buy expensive things just to brag and say that they have all this high-end stuff. News flash, your real friends, and family don't care what you have and what you don't have. The people that only like you because of what you have aren't your real friends and they are probably using you.

As for everyone else, do you even know them? Will you see them again? Who cares what they think? I don't walk by somebody and think, Oh they don't have a Coach bag so I can't be friends with them. That's silly.

I thought you used to tell it how it is. But you actually just trash talk people on your social media accounts and behind their back. I don't want to be the middle-aged adult who teaches her children that doing that is okay.

I don't want to be the mom that lets her children yell and swear in public places or private places as a matter of fact. These things are totally okay for you but for me, I could never. Knowing that possible employers might be around to overhear these things.

Also knowing that possible colleges are looking at my children's social media accounts, I wouldn't want them to copy my bad example and get denied access to higher education. I don't want to teach my kids that calling other people names is okay. I don't want to be the mom that makes the other parent out to seem like the Devil just because things didn't work out with us.

I used to want to be like you. But come to find out you are exactly what I don't want to be.

I don't want to be that person who hates their job and comes home and talks badly about their students.

I don't want to be the mom who gives up on their children going to college or finding a job that they love.

I don't want to be the mom that goes out and spoils herself while my children pay my bills.

I don't want to be like you anymore and I just thought you should know why.

But you aren't a bad mom or person. You make sure your kids have a roof over their heads at night, a bed to sleep in and dinner to eat (even if you did take their debit card to buy the food). You do whatever you want and in a way that's good because you shouldn't be controlled by other people but you also need to be careful about how you do it.

There's more than one way to live a happy life, some are better than others. But if that's what YOU call happy, then I DON'T want to be like you.