To The Person Who Is Missing Home After Break

To The Person Who Is Missing Home After Break

It'll start to feel normal again.
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Your dogs. Your parents. The home-cooked means (or pizza that didn't come from your own bank account.) As exciting as it is to come back to your "home away from home", it is difficult to leave all those things and so much more behind. Sometimes, a day at home seems like too much and sometimes, 3 weeks seems like not even close to enough.

Maybe you're not like me. Maybe you couldn't get away fast enough, you couldn't wait for the familiar smell of local food and beer to engulf you in your college town. Maybe 3 weeks at home was, and always will be, too much. Or maybe you're just like me. And the first night back in your bed at school feels like a disaster sleep-away camp where all you want is to go back home. And where no matter how many breaks you've come back from, you still feel the pit in your stomach wondering if it'll ever feel normal again. Maybe you text your mom a few extra times to try to get used to her not being right by you for so long.

It sucks. Every time you come back, it hurts your heart. And then it becomes normal. And you begin to love being where you are and consider it your home. You get a sense of normalcy and familiarity. And then you go back home, come back, and start the process over again.

No matter how many times you do it, going back to school is hard. Whether it be from summer break, winter break, or just a quick weekend with your family, leaving behind what was home and familiarity and happiness for 18+ years of your life is difficult. Your dogs not jumping on you and your parents not harping at you somehow becomes something you miss greatly.

But remember that missing home doesn't mean you don't love your other home. Don't question if you belong at school because your heart is longing to be elsewhere. It won't feel this way forever. You will adapt, and you will get back into the swing of things and everything will feel like it did before. Being sad to go back doesn't mean you don't love where you're going, it just means you also love where you're coming from, and that's okay.

Power through and eventually it will feel normal again. Call your mom. FaceTime your dogs. Keep yourself busy. And soon enough, this place will become the place that is hard to leave.

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18 things all college kids think during their first week home of summer break

Because it's so nice to be home, I think?

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1. Ahhh, it's so nice to be home

Buckingham Palace ain't got nothing on this place

2. OMG my pups!! I missed you doggos so much

Just accept my love. Pls. Love me back, I've been gone for 8 months. I'm begging.

3. Wow this queen bed is so big

*cue sleeping in a starfish position*

4. Finally a bedroom to myself

Headphones? I don't know her.

5. But wait, it's kinda scary sleeping in a dark room alone again

"Hello? Are there any ghosts in here?"

6. Sooooooo, no more meal plan?

Are you sure the local Chick-Fil-A doesn't accept meal swipes?

7. Who am I supposed to annoy at 2am if my friends don't live down the hall anymore?

2:30 AM: "Mom? Dad? Wanna go get french fries with me? Maybe watch a movie?"

*Snoring*

"Okay maybe tomorrow...Sorry for bothering you. Okay good talk!"

8. "Mom you're going to do my laundry now, right?"

I mean it's kinda your job isn't it?

No? Okay yes ma'am I will do my own laundry no problemo, aye aye captain!

9. Me and my friends are going to spend every day together

*Me talking to myself through the camera on Snapchat*:

"So we're approaching day four with zero human interaction. Pretty good work, but we could do better!"

10. Yes, final grades are in! Can't wait to see what I got this semester!

*Slowly closes computer screen*

11. Do I really have to ask my parents to leave the house?

*Doesn't Ask*:

Mom: "HOW DARE YOU LEAVE THIS HOUSE WITHOUT OUR PERMISSION! YOU LIVE UNDER OUR ROOF AND WILL ABIDE BY OUR RULES."

*Asks*:

Mom: "Oh honey you're an adult now, you don't have to ask! Come and go as you please!"

12. Chores? Yea no thank you.

They've been doing them without me for months. They're all set.

13. Wait, so forreal though.. do restaurants in town take my meal plan?

Bank Account: $5.93

*Whispers to worker* "I won't tell if you don't. Just swipe my school ID, see if it works."

14. Will my Juul set off the fire alarm in my bedroom?

Probably.

*Rips Juul*

15. I kinda underestimated how weird it would be to hang out with people from my high school again.

"Oh no you haven't changed a bit Janice! Your baby is so cute lol."

*Awkwardly laughs*

16. Why do my old friends have new friends?

I don't like this, not one bit.

17. Can they tell that I'm not really listening to their stories about school?

"Yeah haha Delta Sigma Mu sounds sooooo dope Chad, that's ~wild~ that you had late nights three times a week lol!"

"Oh you snuck into the football stadium when the gates were unlocked?? That's crazy, you're crazy, school sounds... crazy!"

18. I'm bored. How long until I can go back to school?

Is it too late for a summer intersession?

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5 Reasons Why Random Roommate Selection Is The Best

I didn't choose my roommate and you shouldn't either.
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There's a lot of emotions when it comes to moving away from home for the first time. One of the main differences is you'll now be sharing a tiny cider block lined room with a stranger. Most schools give you the choice to choose your new roommate, but personally, I think it's better to go random and here's why.

1. It saves your time.

You’ve just made possibly the biggest decision of your life so far: deciding on a college. You’ve also probably just joined your university’s accepted student Facebook page and maybe joined a couple of GroupMes. All of this can be kind of overwhelming, especially when you’re on a deadline to find the perfect person to live with.

My advice would be to eliminate this unnecessary stress from your last few weeks of High School. Enjoy your final few days at school and all the excitement that comes with graduation without spending time reading numerous posts of people advertising themselves to potential roommates.

2. You’re definitely going to meet other people.

Your roommate will most likely be the first person you meet at your new school, but they aren’t going to be the last. Those first few weeks are gonna be full of new introductions and trying to remember people’s names. Eventually, you are going to meet your own group of friends, whether it’s in a new club or organization, other people who live on your floor, or even your roommate.

No matter what you will find your place on campus.

3. There’s no blaming yourself if something goes wrong.

It’s completely normal to want to be friends with your roommate right away, but sometimes it doesn’t go as planned. There’s always a chance that the two of you will bond right from the start, but sometimes it takes longer than expected and that’s okay too.

Maybe you’ll have the picture-perfect college friendship you see in the movies right away, but there’s always a chance that friendship never comes. However, since you didn’t spend hours of your time searching through the numerous posts on Facebook trying to find someone who lined up right with you, you don’t have to blame yourself.

However you two were matched up it wasn’t thanks to either of you, so no matter how the year goes, you can keep your conscious clear.


4. Remember you both went random.

So you’ve been placed with some other random human for the next nine month of your life. But remember your new roommate is in the exact same position you are. You’re both far away from home and don’t know anyone here, or at least anyone well enough to room with them.

Whatever the reasoning may be you both chose the same school and decided to let the fate of your roommate be placed in someone else’s hands.

5. Lastly, it’s your choice.

Whether you choose to go random or not it’s up to you. Neither guarantees a successful freshman year or a new best friend. In the end, it all depends on how you want to find your roommate and that’s a personal choice.

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