To The Ones Who Are Trying So Hard

To The Ones Who Are Trying So Hard

And to the ones putting us down.
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To the ones trying so hard, this is for you.

To the ones who feel as though they have hit rock bottom and no matter how hard they try they can't move forward, this is for you.

I'm done. I'm done trying to please others. I have spent my entire life putting others' happiness before mine, and enough is enough. Every day, I try to make a difference within my organizations and school. Sometimes, my work gets noticed and is appreciated. Other times - most times - my work goes unnoticed and I barely receive a "thank you."

Why should I continue to try my hardest if it is getting me nowhere?

Everyone keeps telling me "It'll be worth it" or "your time will come" or "it'll all pay off in the end." But what if it doesn't? What if I all of my actions right now won't matter in the future?

Every day, I question my actions. I question if anybody actually respects me or if anyone appreciates the effort I put in.

Sometimes, you just have to say "I'm done."

I'm done trying to please others. I'm done sharing my personal story to try to make others relate or not feel alone. In reality, nobody cares. Somebody may sympathize with your story, but it does not change the way they look at you. It does not change the disrespect or dishonor they have for you.

In this world, it's okay to be selfish. In fact, it's good to be selfish. Worry about yourself. Only you can create your own happiness. Only you determine what happens to that happiness in bad situations.

Other's viewpoints of you are tarnished and formed by rumors and lies of those who wish they could be you. Do not believe what others say. I know it's not easy; it is something I struggle with every day. Only you know who you are.

I know I am strong. I am caring, loving, trustworthy, and a hard-worker. I am passionate and dedicated. I am straightforward and honest. I do not appreciate lying and tainted morals, though to others, it may be their normal. I do not appreciate those who hate for no reason. I do appreciate those who try to find the light in every situation.

I know who I am, and if others want to start rumors or lies, go ahead. I know who I am and the people I truly care about know who I am. Your false opinion of me is invalid and you are just spreading lies to gain more attention for yourself.

Those who start rumors and spread lies do not have their priorities straight and need to sit down and put more effort into building themselves up rather than putting others down for their own amusement. Do you enjoy watching others' lives crumble to pieces because of a rumor you started? Do you enjoy seeing people cry and hurting them and making them question their self-worth? Do you?

I am here to say I am done. I know who I am. I know my worth. I'm done trying to please others because it is ruining my own happiness, and that is not okay.

I'm here to tell everyone who is questioning their self-worth, you are amazing and you are worth it. Do not listen to those around you; their opinions are invalid and false. Only you can determine who you are. Your opnion is the only one that matters.

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10 Facts Every Woman Should Know, And Love, About Her Vagina

Because health class just didn't cut it.
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Basically, the only things you learn in health are one—don't have sex, two—it bleeds, and three—yes, you can carry a baby. That’s it.

For some reason, vaginas are a pretty taboo conversation in most cases, but as women (and men and human beings) it’s important to know about our bodies and all the cool things they can do (besides grow life, which is cool, but you know that).

1. Your vagina self-cleans

That’s right ladies, no need to use soap up in there, or a douche. Most doctors recommend that you don’t use any soaps or anything with fragrance, even if they’re labeled for vaginal use.

Harsh soaps can disrupt the natural pH balance of your vagina and cause more harm than good. To clean itself, women experience discharge which can occur before or after a period and is normally clear, whitish, sticky, thick and odorless. If your discharge is yellow, green, has an odor or is itchy, call your doctor ASAP, it could be a sign of an infection!

2. Your vagina is smart—it will let you know if something is wrong.

Look out for itching, irritation, bloody discharge any funky smells or anything that seems or feels different. But this is not an excuse to skip out on your annuals (bummer, I know) just because you aren’t actively having symptoms of something, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get routine care and check-ups!

3. Other than abstinence, implants and IUDs are the most effective forms of reversible birth control.

Both implants and IUDs are long-term and reversible forms of contraception, and both are over 99% effective at preventing pregnancy. That's why the American Academy of Pediatrics recently recommended both options as the best choices for teenagers as a way to prevent pregnancy.

The implant is a matchstick-sized rod that a doctor has to insert into your arm. It releases the hormone progestin, which prevents ovulation and thickens your cervical mucus, making it less hospitable to sperm. It can last up to three years.

The IUD is a T-shaped device that a doctor inserts directly into your uterus. There are hormonal IUDs, and there is a non-hormonal copper version. IUDs can last for 3 to 12 years, depending on the type.

Worth noting: The implant and IUD do not protect against any STDs.

4. The vagina is tilted at roughly a 130-degree angle, this is why you have to insert tampons by aiming them at your back.

It’s pretty interesting to know why we do things, but any healthy provider will tell you that this can change with time, causing women to change the angles in which they insert tampons.

5. People get stuff stuck in their Vaginas, actually often… BUT you can’t actually lose anything up there (phew).


Statistically, women get tampons and condoms stuck up there and they can be hard to retrieve. So, if you get something stuck up there and you can’t retrieve…whatever it is…from the lady parts you can absolutely go to the doctor. And you should, in gynecology, they’ve seen it all and they won’t judge. Plus, getting help is better than getting hurt!

6. Your fallopian tubes are 4-5 inches long.


And only about .5 cm in diameter. Inside them, are papillae or little hairs that help move eggs through them.

7. A doctor once removed a potato that started sprouting vines out of a patient’s vagina.


The patient told the doctor her mother said it would prevent pregnancy. In that case, mother didn't always know best.

Apparently, you can grow a potato in your vagina, I wouldn’t recommend it though (obvious reasons).

8. Vaginas (and vulvas) come in all shapes, sizes, and colors.

There's no such thing as a "normal" vagina in terms of appearance so you just embrace your lady parts because they are just as unique as you are!

9. Your menstrual blood could help patients suffering from heart failure.

An ERC (endometrial regenerative cells) congestive heart failure phase II clinical trial is currently testing the safety of the ERC, or "stem cells," to treat congestive heart failure patients. Stem cells are extracted from the blood and then grown in culture to generate different types of cells in the body.

In this case, the stem cells are made into muscle cells of the heart, for reparative purposes in these patients. This is an experimental foreign study and is not something that is being done routinely, but yes, it could help patients suffering from heart failure.

10. Vaginas are epic (duh!)



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Having a Bad Day? Read This.

One bad day means many more good days.
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We've all had bad days. Then sometimes, "bad" isn't even the word that covers the day. Some days we'd rather use words like terrible, or horrible. Some days we're angry, while other days we're upset. Either way, on a bad day it could seem like the world is crashing down. We could just wait until the full day is over, but who has time for that? Welcome to my list of things to do when you're having a bad day!

1. Write your thoughts on paper and throw it in the trash

Writing helps you release your feelings and negative energy. What better way to end the process then to throw it in the trash?

2. Vent to your parents

Because no one know you better then mom or dad.

3. Facetime your best friend

If you can't hang out then facetime is best face-to-face contact you can get. It's much better seeing someone than just hearing their voice.

4. Listen to music

Either put it on full blast, or listen quietly through headphones. This is an old trick guaranteed to work.

5. Workout

Working out really does clear your mind, while releasing negative energy from your body. Give it a try.

6. Spend time with animals

It's proven that time with animals helps relieve stress. I mean, have you seen how cute they are?

7. Spend time in nature

Nature has many benefits. One of the benefits would be how calm nature can be. Use the fresh air to relax your soul.

8. Go to church

This may not be for everyone. However, if you do hold religious beliefs then church could be one of the best places to find peace.

9. Pamper yourself

This could mean getting your nails done, or spending a day with your beloved netflix. Whatever it is, make sure you're doing something you love. You deserve time for yourself.

10. Clean

Sometimes organizing your room, changing sheets, or even doing dishes could lift a person up. Having clean surroundings equals a clean mind set.

11. Take a hot shower or jump in a hot bath

Not only are you getting clean, you're also going to feel much more refreshed afterwards. A shower or a bath is the perfect place to clear your mind. Maybe add a bathbomb or soothing music into the mix.

12. Set goals for the next week

This could give you a sense of organization, while being productive. Setting goals and then reaching them make you feel empowered. Try it and then keep up the good work.

13. Write down what your thankful for

Remember that it's only a bad day. One bad day means they're are plenty of good ones. Instead of throwing this list away, this time hang it up.

14. Get Creative

Creativity creates happiness and self expression.

15. Use your bad day as motivation

On a bad day you may feel terrible, but that feeling won't last forever. Do what you can in preparation to make the next day the best day yet. Nobody has time for two bad days.

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