One of the worst stresses a human can have is chronic indecisiveness. I don't mean the light kind, like not being able to figure out where you're eating, but rather the heavy stuff that will really impact the direction of your life. I know this because it plagues me in every area of my life. It not only affects you but also those around you, which just makes it feel even worse than it already does. It throws you into a state of procrastination, because you don't want to confront the decision before you, and you do this every time, even though you know it just makes it worse. Then, trying to make it better but usually prolonging the decision-making process, you ask for the opinions of countless others, being pulled in every which way possible. Whether it be about a significant other, your college major, choosing an internship, or navigating the maze of social life, we are all plagued in one way or another.
For a long time, this inner indecisiveness has taken a negative toll on my mental health. This summer, however, after finishing my freshman year and finally having some away from college time to think, I have joined the trend of confronting and embracing my fears, and I think you should too.
Over the course of the last few weeks, I have begun to look at my indecisiveness differently. Rather than letting it stress me out and put a drag on my future, I have decided to live through it. As an indecisive person, I am sure you have ideas constantly flowing through your head about what you want to do, who you want to be with, etc. The issue is, you can never make a final decision because you just keep thinking, and are easily influenced by the opinions of everyone around you. So, how do you turn this into a strength? By adjusting it a little bit. Being internally indecisive is totally fine. It just means that you are thinking through every possibility and want to think about things long and hard before coming to a conclusion. We need more critical thinkers in the world. What needs to change, however, is your intake of other people's opinions.
You see, if you keep letting everyone influence you, then you will never make up your mind. The most apparent of situations can be dragged out for a lengthy amount of time because no one will ever be in total agreement on a big decision. So, maybe gather a couple of opinions from those you trust, but then shut it off. Take your time to think through things, and without the opinion of others constantly being launched into your head, you'll actually be able to make a decision. Then, have the strength to stand your ground, and move forward.Sure, you may be an indecisive person, but that can change as soon as you realize: it's not you; it's them.