To The Guy Who Moved On From Me

To The Guy Who Moved On From Me

I deserve more than you had to offer anyways.

I won't lie. It did hurt being told that you had a new girlfriend only three weeks after we ended things. Since I found out that you moved on, I have realized that you weren't that good for me anyways. I thought you were the ideal person for me, different from the guys back home and someone I always envisioned being with. However, that was all an illusion.

For starters, I have come to realize I wasn't being my authentic self around you. Sure, I loved your bright smile and your witty, sarcastic personality. I liked when sometimes you poked fun at me for being a fan of Pittsburgh sports teams while you always showed support for your Philly teams (even though you were secretly a Steelers fan). You made me feel a sort of happiness I haven't felt when it came to liking someone romantically. It was different and I thought I wanted it.

However, I lived in constant fear of you finding someone else, someone better, so I pretended to be someone I wasn't just to keep you in my life. I said, did, and acted upon things I never felt fully comfortable with just to see you smile and/or hear you laugh.

To me, your happiness mattered more than my own, and that was my own fault. I should have voiced to you when I didn't feel okay with something rather than letting it fester inside of me for so long until I felt like I was going to explode.

I like to believe I was and still am one of your biggest supporters. I always loved seeing what you accomplished and how hardworking you are, yet the feelings were never reciprocated. I was also there to reassure you everything would work out, that you were capable of it, and telling you just how amazing everyone thought you were.

On the other hand, I tried telling you about important milestones in my life, but it always seemed to be interpreted with half-enthusiasm. There were even times I was having a bad night and trying voicing my emotions to you but sometimes you ignored me as if to "give me space." I have no idea why you ignored me honestly, but I hope it's for that reason though.

This brings me to another pet peeve when it comes to you, or just relationships in general, frankly. I am tired of giving my 100% but you only give back half. I deserve to receive just as much effort and support that I put in, and it's on you that I didn't get that. It's not unrealistic to ask for the same thing back.

After being home for a month, I finally began to realize all of this. Mainly, it was from talking to my mother face to face and fully explaining the extent of the story of us. It was weeks of her saying, "You need to tell him how you feel." Yet I couldn't get the courage to tell you enough was enough and something needed to change or I was done until two in the morning on the day I was leaving to come back to Philadelphia.

We spent that whole month of winter break talking about how excited we were to see each other again, but deep down, even when I didn't want to acknowledge it, at the moment, I was dreading seeing your face again.

However, I do have to thank you. There were definitely good times, even though I can only think of the bad moments now. I have grown just from the short four months of knowing you. I have learned to ask for what I want in a relationship and learned what type of people I am attracted to, but even this is just the beginning of my evolution into a better person.

You also taught me that I shouldn't chase after a guy who only is interested in having sex rather than an authentic relationship. We talked about always being in a relationship yet the timing never seemed like it worked for you. Yet, after three weeks of ending things, you now have a girlfriend and the timing is, "perfect for you."

At this point, all I can do is shrug. I am no longer going to be the other girl fighting for your attention when it honestly isn't worth it anymore. I am not going to be waiting around for you to fill a void. I am worth more than that, and it's sad that you probably won''t realize what you missed out on until much later in life.

Wishing you all the best,
The girl who deserves better

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When You Give A Girl A Dad

You give her everything

They say that any male can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. That dads are just the people that created the child, so to speak, but rather, dads raise their children to be the best they can be. Further, when you give a little girl a dad, you give her much more than a father; you give her the world in one man.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a rock.

Life is tough, and life is constantly changing directions and route. In a world that's never not moving, a girl needs something stable. She needs something that won't let her be alone; someone that's going to be there when life is going great, and someone who is going to be there for her when life is everything but ideal. Dads don't give up on this daughters, they never will.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a role model.

If we never had someone to look up to, we would never have someone to strive to be. When you give a little girl someone to look up to, you give her someone to be. We copy their mannerisms, we copy their habits, and we copy their work ethic. Little girls need someone to show them the world, so that they can create their own.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her the first boy she will ever love.

And I'm not really sure someone will ever be better than him either. He's the first guy to take your heart, and every person you love after him is just a comparison to his endless, unmatchable love. He shows you your worth, and he shows you what your should be treated like: a princess.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her someone to make proud.

After every softball game, soccer tournament, cheerleading competition, etc., you can find every little girl looking up to their dads for their approval. Later in life, they look to their dad with their grades, internships, and little accomplishments. Dads are the reason we try so hard to be the best we can be. Dads raised us to be the very best at whatever we chose to do, and they were there to support you through everything. They are the hardest critics, but they are always your biggest fans.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a credit card.

It's completely true. Dads are the reason we have the things we have, thank the Lord. He's the best to shop with too, since he usually remains outside the store the entire time till he is summoned in to forge the bill. All seriousness, they always give their little girls more than they give themselves, and that's something we love so much about you.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a shoulder to cry on.

When you fell down and cut yourself, your mom looked at you and told you to suck it up. But your dad, on the other hand, got down on the ground with you, and he let you cry. Then later on, when you made a mistake, or broke up with a boy, or just got sad, he was there to dry your tears and tell you everything was going to be okay, especially when you thought the world was crashing down. He will always be there to tell you everything is going to be okay, even when they don't know if everything is going to be okay. That's his job.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a lifelong best friend.

My dad was my first best friend, and he will be my last. He's stood by me when times got tough, he carried me when I just couldn't do it anymore, and he yelled at me when I deserved it; but the one thing he has never done was give up on me. He will always be the first person I tell good news to, and the last person I ever want to disappoint. He's everything I could ever want in a best friend and more.

Dads are something out of a fairytale. They are your prince charming, your knight in shinny amour, and your fairy godfather. Dads are the reasons we are the people we are today; something that a million "thank you"' will never be enough for.

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Tiger Woods' 2019 Masters Victory Means More Than Winning a Tournament

At the 2019 Masters, Tiger Woods defined what a comeback story truly means.


For the last week now I have tried to process the events that transpired in the world of golf. As many of you may know by now, I am a fanatic for Tiger Woods. I have watched as one of the greatest athletes to ever grace this earth fell from his pinnacle. I have watched as he and his family were brutally subject to a national embarrassment. I have watched as one of the greatest athletic bodies in all of golf was twisted and contorted through 4 back surgeries and physical rehabilitation. I have watched as critics and fans alike believed that his professional career was over. That he would no longer be a competitive golfer and that he should just retire instead of trying to recreate something that had gone awry.

Today I can say with the utmost of certainty that this is no longer the case. Tiger Woods won the 2019 Masters last week in dramatic fashion. Here are the stats plain and simple. Woods had never won a major tournament after trailing entering the last day of competition. Woods had also not won a major in more than 11 years and his most recent Master's victory was in 2005. Last week, Woods entered Sunday just two strokes behind the leader Francesco Molinari. At the end of the day, Woods won the event.

I have stood by this man's side as a loyal fan for the last 11 years and seen all that he has endured. For me, his victory was unequivocally the greatest moment in all of the sports. Period. There really aren't enough words for me to sum up the magnitude of this event and in the fashion that it took place. I still am speechless a week later. As I sat watching the final round unfold from a live stream on my phone (as I was in a car driving back from Florida), I was in actual tears. I knew that Tiger Woods would be a winner again. What I didn't know is that he was destined to return back to his place in history as the greatest golfer to ever live. The race for Jack Nicklaus 18 major championship victories mark is now back in contention - something that has not been highly considered for the last decade. What Tiger Woods did on Sunday at the Masters is greater than the sport of golf. It goes beyond athletics and winning. It demonstrates the story of grit, relentless toughness in the face of adversity and most importantly, it epitomizes never giving up.

For this current generation of young golfers who grew up idolizing Woods, they saw and heard first hand the return of the roars that followed Tiger every time he stepped onto a golf course. For runner up's Brooks Koepka and Xander Schauffele, they were not mad that they had lost, rather they were happy that Woods had won. They both said in their post-round interviews that the atmosphere and energy that was felt at this tourney was unrivaled to any other sporting event they had played in. It was because of one man, wearing his notorious "Sunday red" as he remained unflappable in the face of his opposition. On the 12th hole, a short par-3 that faces the infamous Rae's Creek, Woods demonstrated his poise and maturity. 5 of the top 6 players in the field hit the ball well short of the hole and landed in the water. The only player not to do so was Tiger who chose to aim well left of the hole and play for par. It was here, with 6 holes left to play that Woods reclaimed the lead. Fans and players were all aware of what was to transpire, they could feel that Tiger was ready to pound.

For me, Tiger Woods' victory will be a moment in my life that I will never forget. More importantly, he unified an entire nation to sit down glued to their televisions and watch the final round play out. I had friends reaching out to me to let me know that they were tuned in to witness history unfold, people who aren't golf fans in the slightest. This demonstrates in the most minimal way possible the magnitude and importance of this win. It was bigger than golf. It was something that young fans and old ones alike will cherish indefinitely. For that, I thank you Tiger Woods. You made all of the moments where we as sports fans wanted to let you go and move on to this new era of talented golfers worth sticking by your side. You brought a country with such polarization and difference together to watch a round of golf. And lastly, you made a fan of yours believe in something bigger than sports, but rather, believe in comebacks and hope. Tiger Woods you will always be my hero.

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