To the Guy I Went on Adventures with This Summer....
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To the Guy I Went on Adventures with This Summer....

I had a great time this summer thanks to you, thanks for being such a great friend.

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To the Guy I Went on Adventures with This Summer....
Cailey Walls

I didn’t think I was going to actually spend as much time as I did with you this summer until it happened. In a way, I didn’t think I was going to give you a chance until I decided to. Taking that leap of faith was one of the best decisions I made. It started with simple walks in the park, and ended up becoming a summer of many adventures together.

I guess many thought that I was actually dating you. As for them, I will let them voice their own opinions on the matter because their opinion honestly doesn’t matter to me.

As a society why do we put so much pressure on people to suddenly be in a relationship? From our family, friends and even random people when you bring someone of the opposite sex to a social gathering. Suddenly they make the assumption that you are together. I am sure it’s happened with almost every guy or girl you have ever been friends with. It makes the situation awkward for no reason, because just maybe you both don’t feel the same way about one another. That’s not to say you won’t be able to fall in love with your best friend, however, that’s not going to be everyone's scenario.

Don’t get me wrong, I had more fun with you this summer than I could have ever imagined. But you became a really close friend, and nothing more. I hope I didn’t lead you on in anyway, because I tried my best not to. I thought that everything should be “even Steven” as they say. Every time you paid for something, I paid you back. That isn’t to say that I want chivalry to die right before our very eyes, it’s that if I didn’t like you in this manner, I shouldn’t feel like I owe you anything.That’s not to say you don’t deserve to be happy, or that you aren’t my “type." Because really what is a “type” of human? I hate that phrase, that’s not a good reason to tell anyone you can’t be in a relationship with them. I don’t have a type, nor will I ever. You either like the person because of who they are all together, or you don’t see them in that manner. I have liked/ crushed on several different guys that look nothing like each other, or are even remotely the same in personality and characteristics. So as for someone saying you are not my “type,” I don’t think that is a valid reason. Because then I want to ask, “what is your type?”. If you can’t give me an actual response, then why did you say that in the first place.

You see, it’s got to be more than just being with your best friend. It’s two parts. You need to have that falling in love part, even though that doesn’t always happen. For those of you that questioned my relationship/friendship with him this summer, it’s not your business, time, or place to make those assumptions. It’s not always okay to make assumptions. The response for those individuals would be that I am happy being single as of right now. I think I established that this summer. For now I am just doing me. Would I love to be in a relationship with someone? Yes, absolutely! Honestly who wouldn’t want to be. I would like to be going on cute dates, and being with someone whose company I enjoy. However, college is also the struggling point of relationships. No matter where I would meet this individual, whether it be at school or home, it would somehow at some point in our relationship be long distance. And although some can make that work, I don’t believe I could.

Getting back to the guy that I went on adventures with this summer,thanks for doing everything that a guy in a relationship would do, without the label. God knows, if you liked me that must have been extremely difficult for you. But, you did it anyway, and were very patient. Like they say in corny movies, “I hope you find someone that likes you the way you might have liked me”. That girl is going to be one lucky individual!

I don’t believe chivalry is dead because of you, I think as a society we are still trying to find the balance between gender equality and chivalry. Just remember, when in doubt, make the attempt and show common courtesy. The rest will figure itself out on it’s own.

Respect for you always,

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