I was looking out at the view from my plane window thinking to myself, why is it that I feel so lonely? I am surrounded by great friends, involved in a hustle-bustle type of lifestyle, have a wonderful support system, and am ambitiously working hard to pursue my dreams. Even if I wanted to be involved in a romantic relationship, I quite frankly don't have the time right now. And then it hit me - maybe the reason I feel alone at times is that I no longer have a family.

Most college kids look forward to going home to see their families and loved ones for the holidays. But ever since my parents got divorced when I was 17 years old, as I was heading off to college, nothing has been the same. I grew up experiencing terrific family traditions. My childhood consisted of actual dinners served at the dining table, family movie nights, and holiday traditions like reminiscing on old memories while hanging ornaments on our Christmas tree.

All those things that were once typical parts of my childhood have vanished. Family members are now dislocated across the country. I moved 1000 miles away for college after what was a considerably rough two years of my life. Holidays are, in one word, awkward. No one knows how to navigate things when the family feels so broken.

While I was getting upset over the fact that I can no longer rely on the council of whom I used to be able to, another epiphany occurred.

HELLLLLLLOOOOO. You've been blessed with new friendships and a new family! Your family is no longer limited to blood-line, but it's actually expanded to involve new relationships. Who are the people in your life that you know you can count on? Sitting here right now I can name off a list of important relationships that have added value to my life.

I was looking in all the wrong places; I was neglecting to the see the bigger picture of what's been provided for me. I am cared for; I am cherished; I am LOVED.

Does it sadden me that I feel like I've lost the special bonds with my biological family? Absolutely. But I'm taking a new approach and will continue to be thankful for my new family. You know who you are. I am entirely grateful for the people who have my back and have invested in me.

I love you #fam.